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That family member who's so disgusted by the mess might have paid the dead woman a visit now and then. All that might have been avoided. No sympathy for that "family".
That filth and rot didn't happen over night.
This is a complicated and very sad illness. There's no easy answers. Adults can live how they want to live. They can keep others out of their homes with excuses. Their illness is more powerful than threats from people trying to help. They don't feel like they need rescued, they can't see it.
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Originally Posted by Javacoffee
That family member who's so disgusted by the mess might have paid the dead woman a visit now and then. All that might have been avoided. No sympathy for that "family".
That filth and rot didn't happen over night.
She wasn't invited, Java. That's the point.
She did keep in regular contact with her, obviously, and the woman had a vibrant social life outside of her house, where she was seen quite frequently looking well.
That family member who's so disgusted by the mess might have paid the dead woman a visit now and then. All that might have been avoided. No sympathy for that "family".
That filth and rot didn't happen over night.
A very well written, and tragic, story. She went downhill after retiring at 70. I imagine work was her only real structure, outside of Sunday services. Sad.
That family member who's so disgusted by the mess might have paid the dead woman a visit now and then. All that might have been avoided. No sympathy for that "family".
That filth and rot didn't happen over night.
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Originally Posted by ClaraC
She wasn't invited, Java. That's the point.
She did keep in regular contact with her, obviously, and the woman had a vibrant social life outside of her house, where she was seen quite frequently looking well.
It wasn't like the sisters were shut-ins. They attended many social functions at their neighborhood church, had their hair once a week, saw the delivery person from their local restaurant on a regular basis and always looked nice and "well put together".
If I had a relative that I saw on a regular basis at church functions and spoke to on the phone, I probably wouldn't demand to see the inside of their home, would you?
That family member who's so disgusted by the mess might have paid the dead woman a visit now and then. All that might have been avoided. No sympathy for that "family".
That filth and rot didn't happen over night.
I don't know how anyone could read the entire article, and say that.
The woman, her second cousin, was the only one who checked on the sisters when she was unable to contact them. And she persisted when authorities tried to dissuade her. It was because of her efforts that the body was found when it was.
This is a very sad case. Hoarding is bad enough, but coupled with age-related issues and isolation, this type of scenario is terrifying.
One thing I did find odd is that hospital social workers didn't follow up when they learned the condition of the house, seen and reported by those who entered it when the sister had a stroke and had to be hospitalized.
One thing I did find odd is that hospital social workers didn't follow up when they learned the condition of the house, seen and reported by those who entered it when the sister had a stroke and had to be hospitalized.
It's probably a money issue, Detroit is broke, their social services are likely cut to the bone. I don't know if they can force someone out of their home for hoarding when it turns into a hazmat situation. Even the police could not "break in" to check on her.
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