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Old 03-09-2013, 10:14 PM
 
Location: Dallas, Texas
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Have you tried going to any events through meetup.com? You can find people in your area who share your interests -- whether it's sports, music, speaking a foreign language, going to ethnic restaurants, etc., and whoever's in charge of that particular group puts together events for members. It's a good non-date, non-work environment way to meet people.

Find Meetup groups near you - Meetup -- and then filter for Dallas.
I have to join TrueDat in my enthusiastic support for Meetup, it's a great way to meet people. The great thing is that the people in the group are self-selecting for being outgoing and friendly, and they have at least one interest in common with you. I met some nice friends -- both men and women -- in the Meetups here in Reno, and intend to do the same when I move to Dallas.

There are Meetups for every conceivable interest, and if there isn't one, you can start your own.
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Old 03-10-2013, 12:29 AM
 
Location: North Texas
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I have to join TrueDat in my enthusiastic support for Meetup, it's a great way to meet people. The great thing is that the people in the group are self-selecting for being outgoing and friendly, and they have at least one interest in common with you. I met some nice friends -- both men and women -- in the Meetups here in Reno, and intend to do the same when I move to Dallas.

There are Meetups for every conceivable interest, and if there isn't one, you can start your own.
I must be doing it wrong because most of what I see there is dating groups (meat markets), pyramid schemes, and stuff for stay at home moms or Christians.
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Old 03-10-2013, 10:09 AM
 
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I must be doing it wrong because most of what I see there is dating groups (meat markets), pyramid schemes, and stuff for stay at home moms or Christians.
Yea, there is definitely a lot of that, but you can pretty much weed all that out by a thorough reading of their "About Us" page. I learned to look for certain buzz words that imply things I am not interested in, even if it's not stated outright. Also, look through their calendar and see what kind of events they do, even look at the other members attending events and see what other groups they belong to...sometimes that gives another clue as to what the group is truly about. Personally I like meetup groups that are small or just starting...it can be hard to break in to an established, or if the group is too large it seems you never see the same people. I agree it's a lot of trial and error...for every group you love, there could be 10 you don't. But the nice thing about meetup...you can just up and leave a group at any time, no questions asked, if it's not for you.
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Old 03-10-2013, 10:20 AM
 
Location: North Texas
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Yea, there is definitely a lot of that, but you can pretty much weed all that out by a thorough reading of their "About Us" page. I learned to look for certain buzz words that imply things I am not interested in, even if it's not stated outright. Also, look through their calendar and see what kind of events they do, even look at the other members attending events and see what other groups they belong to...sometimes that gives another clue as to what the group is truly about. Personally I like meetup groups that are small or just starting...it can be hard to break in to an established, or if the group is too large it seems you never see the same people. I agree it's a lot of trial and error...for every group you love, there could be 10 you don't. But the nice thing about meetup...you can just up and leave a group at any time, no questions asked, if it's not for you.
It's just so much WORK. I wish meetup would let me 'hide' certain groups or even entire categories. Their website sucks.
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Old 03-10-2013, 11:42 AM
 
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It's just so much WORK.
Agreed. But I have found as I get older, establishing new friendships IS a lot of work...at least much more work than it was in my 20s. Not exactly sure why that is. I guess the time factor...the older you are, the more responsibilities it seems you have, and the more your time is divided among those responsibilities. There's not as much time to just "hang" and get to know people like you used to, where friendships could just form a bit more naturally. So if you take a proactive approach to friend-making, like meetup, then yes, it's a lot of work, trial and error, ups and downs, etc. But honestly my preferred route is still just to get involved in something you love, not with the intention to meet people, but because it is something you enjoy doing, want to learn more about, etc...and if a friendship or two come out of it, well that's just gravy
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Old 03-11-2013, 10:29 AM
 
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Do you like to work out? I go to a bootcamp three nights a week/saturday mornings called camp gladiator. You build a lot of camaraderie with other campers, and they are always doing pot lucks and/or happy hours.
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Old 03-11-2013, 10:51 AM
 
Location: North Texas
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Agreed. But I have found as I get older, establishing new friendships IS a lot of work...at least much more work than it was in my 20s. Not exactly sure why that is. I guess the time factor...the older you are, the more responsibilities it seems you have, and the more your time is divided among those responsibilities. There's not as much time to just "hang" and get to know people like you used to, where friendships could just form a bit more naturally. So if you take a proactive approach to friend-making, like meetup, then yes, it's a lot of work, trial and error, ups and downs, etc. But honestly my preferred route is still just to get involved in something you love, not with the intention to meet people, but because it is something you enjoy doing, want to learn more about, etc...and if a friendship or two come out of it, well that's just gravy
I've tried and tried and tried for six years, never made any lasting close friendships. Only superficial ones.

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Do you like to work out? I go to a bootcamp three nights a week/saturday mornings called camp gladiator. You build a lot of camaraderie with other campers, and they are always doing pot lucks and/or happy hours.
I've had a gym membership consistently since 2008; I'm on my third gym and have never made a single friend at the gym. I barely even talk to people at the gym; like me, everyone there is focused on getting their workout done and getting out. No time for chatting.
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Old 03-11-2013, 12:40 PM
 
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Right-thats why bootcamp is better than a gym for meeting people. You are basically forced to! Lots of partner and group work and such. And there is something about being a your lowest, sweatiest moment that can bond you with perfect strangers. Gyms are just full of hamsters on wheels that don't speak to eachother....
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Old 03-11-2013, 01:07 PM
 
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For me Gym is not the place to make friends. Most of the people i see there are busy pumping iron and don't talk to each other. I am a regular in the bar scene, so have met many new interesting people and sometimes i just go there and drink and time flies by. When i first came here, i did not have too many i knew. Now i know a lot of them. Works for me.

Still i wouldn't say, that i do not have too many friends. But that will happen with time, i hope.
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Old 03-11-2013, 01:21 PM
 
Location: North Texas
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Right-thats why bootcamp is better than a gym for meeting people. You are basically forced to! Lots of partner and group work and such. And there is something about being a your lowest, sweatiest moment that can bond you with perfect strangers. Gyms are just full of hamsters on wheels that don't speak to eachother....
I'm not really a boot camp kind of person though; I don't do well working out at 5 in the morning, especially when it's cold outside.
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