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Old 08-25-2015, 11:15 AM
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That's seriously disgusting! I get that some ppl don't like to brush 2x a day, but not even in the AM for more than one day in a row??

Sorry you're dealing with this but honestly, to me, that is a deal breaker. If she cares so little about hygiene while you're still dating, GOD only knows what else will manifest over time if the relationship grows.

I would ask her about it though. Maybe it's a phobia of some kind that she can get help for (hopefully that's it)!
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Old 08-25-2015, 11:17 AM
Location: NC/SC Border Patrol
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Are her teeth falling out?
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Old 08-26-2015, 08:39 AM
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Originally Posted by Namogel View Post
I know this because I've positioned the toothbrushes in a unique way that I can tell they've never been touched. I have mine, she has hers, and there's an old one of mine still there. So me using mine doesn't affect the position and stance of the other two. I've also smeared toothpaste on the bottom, but it's hidden because it's in a holder. You'd have to pick it up to know that it's there after which anyone would feel the stickiness and decide to wash it off. Third - she uses a special kind of tooth paste that simply hasn't been used in a long time.

As a result, her breath always stinks, especially in the morning (yeah that's common regardless, but not brushing seems to amplify that stench). I once said she had bad breath and she flipped out completely. She blames it on drymouth - I don't disbelieve her, but going a month without brushing!? That's not helping!

In the past, I've tried the passive aggressive approach by setting up our toothbrushes with paste on them before going to bed under the guise of simply helping to set things up, but many times she has simply ignored it. Now I'm doing as little as I can to prompt her to brush her teeth, just to see how long she takes.

I can't help it that mouth hygiene is something I stress a lot in general.

No real question here - just venting.
Well, what can I say. I suppose next time you kiss her, don't grind her teeth.
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Old 09-06-2015, 12:43 AM
Location: Las Vegas
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The hot factor must outweigh the ick factor. Only you know what that is, OP!
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Old 09-06-2015, 01:03 AM
Location: Ohio
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Originally Posted by Scooby Snacks View Post
Not necessarily. My ex-husband was like that. He is one strange guy and he did not brush his teeth often; maybe twice or three times a week. And yes, the bad breath was awful. I think he avoided brushing his teeth partly because he didn't want me to kiss him; he had most of the clinical symptoms of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and when he met me and discovered I had fever blisters, he only kissed me a few times after that in the course of our 6 years of marriage because of the germophobia. He had very healthy teeth. He was in his 30s and had only had a few small fillings in his life.

But I was concerned about his rarely brushing his teeth. Surely he was going to rot them out! Since we had great dental insurance, I forced him to go to the dentist, and of course he brushed his teeth to see her. She told him his teeth were very clean and he didn't need anything done at all. I was amazed. Apparently a big factor in dental health is genes. I've had a ton of dental work done, despite brushing, flossing, and mouthwashing every day. Another big factor is diet. My ex ate extremely healthy. Another side effect of his OCD was intense fear of gaining weight, so he didn't eat sugar. His teeth thanked him for that in spades, apparently.
YEP! That is what my veterinarian told me.........when discussing my cat's teeth.

One of my cats needed a teeth cleaning at 6 years of age, most don't need it until they are much older, some never do.

He said it is all in the make up of their saliva, some have better saliva than others, it's in the genes.

Made sense to me. All of my cats eat the same thing, yet, their gum/tooth health varies.
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Old 09-06-2015, 03:37 AM
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Pigalina! She moves, or you move.
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Old 10-25-2015, 06:18 PM
Location: san gabriel valley
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why are you dating a dirty ass chick like that? so nasty
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Old 10-30-2015, 04:11 PM
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It's really gross. But she could also have some sort of issue, such as a history of trauma, that makes it hard for her to brush her teeth.

If someone has been abused, such as having been forced to have oral sex or forced to eat, etc. - that sort of trauma can make it difficult for some people to brush their teeth. Some people even develop a condition where they have trouble swallowing or cannot swallow.

If a person has experienced an eating disorder in the past, or currently struggles with one, sometimes brushing the teeth can also be difficult. The gag reflex can be triggered and make brushing the teeth very difficult to do without throwing up.

I would try to patiently and very thoughtfully talk to her about it. Ask her why and let her know how much it bothers you. not in a "YOU STINK" sort of way which can cause her to put up a wall and get defensive, but more of a you care about her way and you really would like a good relationship with her... but the smell of bad breath is making it difficult for you.

Also I would offer to go with her to the dentist, to get a good cleaning and have the dentist explain to her the importance of good oral hygiene.
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Old 12-08-2015, 03:48 PM
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Dump her. She may think she is all hip and bohemian now, but do you really want to settle down with this woman over the long haul? Imagine scrimping and saving for a down payment for a house and then all of sudden she comes crying to you because her teeth are crumbling and she needs tens of thousands of dollars in dental repair.
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Old 12-11-2015, 10:12 AM
Location: Upstate NY 🇺🇸
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This is so gross that I'm oddly at a loss for words.
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