Should my husband love me the way I am? (female, BMI, overweight)
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Decide if you want to stay or go. Proceed from there. Nothing you do will change your husband. Losing weight won't fix your marital issues. You are dealing with two separate issues. Deal with them separately. You can stay and lose weight or stay and keep the weight on. You can leave and lose weight, or leave and keep the weight on.
This.
There is much more going on here than weight loss/weight gain. The husband sounds like a complete jerk who likes tearing down his wife and doing everything he can to make her feel bad about herself.
For the sake of your mental health, OP, you should leave.
I agree drop the hammer and pack everything you own and leave this jerk in the wind and you will feel such a freedom like you have never felt before . I swear some men are just not worth having and you will know that when you find the right man for you and if you don't ever find one than that is okay too . We are women hear us roar , no need to put up with someone who truly does not love you . Oy Vey don't even get me started on some men . get up on your feet and grow a spine and tell him good bye and good riddens .
So let me get this straight - the OP has increased her weight by 50% and grown a large backside and wonders why her husband doesn't want to have sex with her any more ?
Seems to me if she's let herself go that much physically what else in the relationship does she think is not worth the effort ?
Harsh as it may appear I have evey sympathy with her husband.
And despite what anyone might say a fat arse is not attractive.It's just a fat arse.
So let me get this straight - the OP has increased her weight by 50% and grown a large backside and wonders why her husband doesn't want to have sex with her any more ?
Seems to me if she's let herself go that much physically what else in the relationship does she think is not worth the effort ?
Harsh as it may appear I have evey sympathy with her husband.
And despite what anyone might say a fat arse is not attractive.It's just a fat arse.
I must agree. You need to take care of yourself OP. I have gained 5 pounds since my wife and I got together 19 months ago, and even that small weight gain has made me more disciplined about dieting and exercising. I don't want to let myself go, and definitely want to stay attractive for her. That's an important part of marriage, no matter what people claim.
So let me get this straight - the OP has increased her weight by 50% and grown a large backside and wonders why her husband doesn't want to have sex with her any more ?
Seems to me if she's let herself go that much physically what else in the relationship does she think is not worth the effort ?
Harsh as it may appear I have evey sympathy with her husband.
And despite what anyone might say a fat arse is not attractive.It's just a fat arse.
That is your very personal opinion. Some men find fat arses very attractive. I know from personal experience. The OP'S husband obviously doesn't, but don't assume you speak for all men.
That is your very personal opinion. Some men find fat arses very attractive. I know from personal experience. The OP'S husband obviously doesn't, but don't assume you speak for all men.
I spend a lot of time in Europe,particularly France,and if you were to suggest to a Parisian women that she should deliberately grow a fat arse to make herself more attractive she'd laugh in your face.
Seems to me the OP is saying she should be able to let herself go physically yet still retain the sexual interest of her husband who first found her attractive when she was carrying 50lbs of fat less.
Like wanting to have her cake and eat it,if you see what I mean.
Men stray for a reason and if they stray from a fat woman you can bet your bottom dollar the other woman will be slimmer.
I spend a lot of time in Europe,particularly France,and if you were to suggest to a Parisian women that she should deliberately grow a fat arse to make herself more attractive she'd laugh in your face.
Seems to me the OP is saying she should be able to let herself go physically yet still retain the sexual interest of her husband who first found her attractive when she was carrying 50lbs of fat less.
Like wanting to have her cake and eat it,if you see what I mean.
Men stray for a reason and if they stray from a fat woman you can bet your bottom dollar the other woman will be slimmer.
You missed my while point. I didn't say all men find fat women attractive, I said some do and I know this from personal experience. Don't be dense.
You missed my while point. I didn't say all men find fat women attractive, I said some do and I know this from personal experience. Don't be dense.
For the purpose of this thread, what the OP husband likes is all that matters.
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