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Only after consulting with the hosts, and usually because I'm vegan and want to share my favorites. But at a formal dinner, no. I think she should have talked to you first, but it's probably best just to ignore it. You're not going to teach an older person to be courteous at this stage. She was self-centered and rude, but she's probably that way with everyone.
After "the lot of money on food" that you spent, do you think if she said she'd already eaten "before she came" you wouldn't be insulted with that as well?
I'm sure your food was appreciated by the others at your "large party".
If a guest doesn't want to eat your food consider it a bonus....more for us, I always say.
I wouldn't be offended, especially with my mother. She'll have earned the right to eat anything at anytime she wants...with my blessing.
Sorry, but no, I don't find it rude...peculiar maybe...but not rude.
Its rude. Maybe its fine with you, but most people would find this behavior rude. If it was discussed prior to the event that is one thing. To show up with your own food is just bad form. And if a guest had said they had already eaten before they arrived at your dinner party that would be equally rude.
Its rude. Maybe its fine with you, but most people would find this behavior rude. If it was discussed prior to the event that is one thing. To show up with your own food is just bad form. And if a guest had said they had already eaten before they arrived at your dinner party that would be equally rude.
Exactly. Good grief, one day isn't going to derail your diet if it's supposed to be FOR LIFE. It's called reality. You can't live in your tiny diet-bubble world. It's one thing if you have medical issues but other than that, yeah, it's rude to bring your own food to a party unless it's a potluck.
I'd be interested as to what type of foods were served at the party.
What some people consider typical, others won't/can't eat. Half our family won't eat what the other half eats every day.
And there is nothing wrong with that. But the host needs to know prior to the event. Guests should not just show up with their own food without the hosts prior knowledge.
Its rude. Maybe its fine with you, but most people would find this behavior rude. If it was discussed prior to the event that is one thing. To show up with your own food is just bad form. And if a guest had said they had already eaten before they arrived at your dinner party that would be equally rude.
And there is nothing wrong with that. But the host needs to know prior to the event. Guests should not just show up with their own food without the hosts prior knowledge.
It was her own mother,
and the OP didn't make it sound like it was a common occurence.
To go to someone's house, whether it's your mother or not, and state tactlessly that you "don't want to eat that [person's] food" presumably because you're dieting is tasteless.
there's been many affairs that I've been invited to while I was dieting, filled with all sorts of diet-unfriendly things. It would never occur to me to bring other food in order to keep to my diet. Again barring medical reasons, there should be some sort of flexibility. There's no law stating that you can't simply scrape fattening sauces off, fill your plate up with mostly vegetables, take one piece of meat, etc. Doing that, you keep the calories lower and within your diet and not risk offending the host. OR you can simply designate that day as an off day and eat what you like. but bring your own food? really?
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