Azureth,
Ive read both this post and your other one.
First and foremost call 2-1-1 and ask for help with housing, food banks, and any employment agencies ( called sheltered workshops) that can help. There HAS to be agencies in your area to help. Those 3 digits can open a whole new world for you. If you are in small town Podunk OK, you may HAVE to move to a bigger city to get services. Rural areas dont have the help centers that larger Cities do.
You can get medicaid paid help for family and friends to assist you. Your father can get paid to help you. Call 211 and ask about such programs. At least we have it here in a medium sized city here in NY. Shpuld be something similar in your state. He can then donate to your cause without touching his principal.
Two Catholic charities is a great organization to get help with food. They have food banks. They also can do a one off rent payment for you if you prove your income won't pay your rent and pay bills. Its only a one time thing, but it can give you your SSI to save for that month. Find out which churches have ",soup kitchens" on which nghts in your area. Go out to those churches fir a hot meal, no questions asked, for free. Wen i was in welfare awaiting my SSDI, i used to know which churches in my area had meals which nights and go there. I walked. You say you can do that, do that.
Third contact your counties Vocational Rehabilitation Program for for disabled people for help in getting training for jobs you can do. I dont know much about you disease, but if you can walk to the store, i have a hard time understanding why you "cant shampoo yourself" or only have the use of a single partial arm. Perhaps therapies such as physical or occupational therapy might help with range and motion exercises. Ill have to look up ypur disease.
Fourth there are phone jobs from home if you can talk susinctly to strangers. But most require you to be able to type, and type fast while conversing with the customer.
Fifth the sheltered workshop is a place that often has "make work" minimum wage jobs such as counting and putring a few bags of frito lay items into a big box as it goes by. My OH ( other half, meaning spouse) works with special needs people who work AND collect SSI. Most all of them work in some capacity.
I myself am disabled with a host of things and get around with a cane. I collect SSDI and am allowed to be a " working pwrson with disabilities ", i work 3rd shift at a hotel doing night audit. Push a few computer buttons, and answer a few cues and voila the computer spits out the night audit. You could possibly learn that if you have good computer skills and people skills.
If you are too rural for these services, your family may have to chip in and help move you to a more popular area. Both physically and financially help you out. You can also find out about rent assistance BEFORE you move, so you move directly into a rent Assistant apartment wjen you do move....get one lined up in advance, especially if its within your county.
There IS help you just have to find the right agency to help connect you with the right agencies. Start with 211
As for finding a gf and getting married, that has to be on the back burner for now. You have too much on your plate already. You might find a support group for disabled people at the local hospital. Join it and maybe youll meet a nice disabled girl, just be sure you dont double your agony taking on a wife. Your desire to buy a house is admirable but highly unlikely...even on ssi and a kinimum wage job. People who make $40k/ yr ofyen cant afford a house. You need a stabilization rent in a stabilization apartment house, particularly one for disabled people.
Lastly, you say you are depressed. Seek a psychiatrist to help. Medication may be needed. I am bipolar so i swing between mania and deep depression. Medication and mental health therapy helps me to function no matter what state im in. There they may also know of agencies to help you tgat you might not have considered.
Best if luck to you sorting out the details.
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