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Old 03-23-2012, 09:22 AM
 
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ABERDEEN TOWNSHIP, N.J. — More than 900 students at a New Jersey middle school have been told no more hugging.
The district says Matawan-Aberdeen Middle School Principal Tyler Blackmore made an announcement that students were in a “no hugging school” following some “incidents of unsuitable, physical interactions.”

http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/education/new-jersey-middle-school-tells-students-hugging-not-allowed-after-unsuitable-incidents/2012/03/23/gIQA9BlRVS_story.html (broken link)

Where is this going to end?
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Old 03-23-2012, 09:25 AM
 
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working with teens and tweens i can understand this ruling and i am sure there are just a few troubled kids that ruined it for the many that are okay,but being in a society where parents will sue at the drop of hat for ridiculous reasons--especially if their little angel is reprimanded----i understand the harsh general rulings
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Old 03-23-2012, 09:27 AM
 
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working with teens and tweens i can understand this ruling and i am sure there are just a few troubled kids that ruined it for the many that are okay,but being in a society where parents will sue at the drop of hat for ridiculous reasons--especially if their little angel is reprimanded----i understand the harsh general rulings

I'm a former teacher of tweens and teens, and I think this is ludicrous.
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Old 03-23-2012, 09:28 AM
 
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This is ridiculous. It's not disruptive to the learning environment to hug, kiss, hold hands, etc. It's what kids that age do.
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Old 03-23-2012, 12:52 PM
 
Location: Oxford, Connecticut
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I have teen aged nieces and nephews in different parts of the country and I've noticed that in some places the kids have this weird "hugging thing" going on. A kid (usually a girl) will walk up to a group of friends that are talking and hug each one hello. They will have a conversation and as each one leaves they will hug each one goodbye. They then do the same thing as they encounter the same kids throughout the day. I tease one of my nieces that she must spend 30% of her day hugging. It's definitely regional and it's definitely over the top. If this school is like that I can understand where they are coming from.
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Old 03-23-2012, 04:15 PM
 
Location: Alameda, CA
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weird "hugging thing" going on. A kid (usually a girl) will walk up to a group of friends that are talking and hug each one hello.
"Weird"?

Hugging is a pretty normal teen interaction. We still do it as adults when the relationship is good enough. Holding hands/linking arms while walking is also a common thing to do.
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Old 03-23-2012, 04:49 PM
 
Location: Oxford, Connecticut
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"Weird"?

Hugging is a pretty normal teen interaction. We still do it as adults when the relationship is good enough. Holding hands/linking arms while walking is also a common thing to do.
When it is excessive it's weird.
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Old 03-23-2012, 09:27 PM
 
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I'm a former teacher of tweens and teens, and I think this is ludicrous.

as a teacher what would u do if it WAS overly done and inappropriate? wait for the parents to sue? this stuff does happen---my 2 cents as someone that worked with kids and families in crisis
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Old 03-24-2012, 12:13 AM
 
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I used to work in that district more than a few years ago. There have been incidents where one student claims they were "touched" inappropriately by another student, who claim they were "hugging" the other student. No witnesses and parents then threaten with a lawsuit. Given the intensely strict bullying laws in NJ this type of thing is going to become more common.

Schools do not operate in a vacuum, blaming the schools for reacting to these lawsuits is silly. It is in the best interest of the TAXPAYERS for schools to protect themselves from the cost of lawsuits by being proactive about making clear rules and policies. Especially when one persons "hug" is another persons "assault".
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Old 03-24-2012, 08:33 AM
 
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hug, kiss, nibble on the ear, grab the butt, dry hump...why can't they wait until they get home? I'm glad I teach in elementary, we allow shoulder hugs, but it's usually girl to girl.
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