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We had a young female teacher that was dating (discreetly) an 18 year old student, but somehow the whole school knew about it. What 18 year old guy can keep THAT a secret? This was the 1970's and at the time, we were considered fully "Adults" at 18 years old. No one thought much of it.
We had one, yes I said just ONE, girl who was visibly pregnant before graduation. Kind of amazing considering the sexual revolution, what with the pill and no AIDS on the radar yet, was in full swing. I think the difference was, we were trying hard NOT to get pregnant.
We had a Geography teacher that got into a knock down, drag out, fight with a student in the cafeteria one day while were having lunch, with students standing around and egging them on. I will never forget that. The student was permanently suspended, but I mean the teacher was really just letting him have it, socking the crap out of him. Tension had apparently been brewing between the two for awhile. These days, the teacher probably would have been out as well.
Had a boy, well liked, popular, and known for his "lead foot" driving a super hot teal blue Chevelle, try to pass a slow-moving semi truck on a two lane road, and hit another car head on, killing everyone in both vehicles.
Sorry, but being a "trusting type" is no excuse for an adult - and an adult in a position of authority, for goodness' sake! - becoming sexually involved with a 13 year old. That's statutory rape, no matter how enticing, insistent, and "seductive" the girl may have been. She was still a child - a very spoiled child, from the sounds of things, but a child, who by that very definition was far too young and obviously too immature to make such decisions for herself. The human brain does not mature until an average age of 25 - this child was 12 years short of that. Looking mature for her age and behaving seductively towards her teacher are not excuses for his failure to put an immediate end to this and keeping his position as a teacher evident to the girl.
Most teachers have attended compulsory workshops on this topic, and are well-aware that romantic involvement with students is absolutely forbidden, for very good reasons. The ethical weakness and naivete demonstrated by this man should have disqualified him from the classroom, unless he received mandatory psychological testing and counseling. If such tests showed him to be a pedophile, then he should never be around children, particularly young pubescent girls, ever again, much less be in charge of a classroom. Pedophiles habitually claim that they really "love" the children they abuse, btw, in order to excuse their own perverted inclinations and behaviors.
Where were the parents in this sad scenario? I do not think their daughter was "well brought up", from your account, nor do I think she was "trash". She was a sad child, no doubt looking for affection and approval and perhaps status she did not receive from more appropriate sources - such as her "well-heeled" parents, who also failed to provide supervision and guidance and boundaries for their neglected, out-of-control, strong-willed daughter.
I am surprised no one else has commented on this previously.
I'm not speaking of recent times when people attended workshops. This happened in a wealthy town in the 1950s. In those days, things were hushed up. I don't even know if there was a such thing as counseling back in those days. More like Peyton Place--people were just sent away until it was over. Most people in town never even knew what happened.
This girl was rich, a straight A student, had all the advantages in life like private tutors and lessons in all sorts of things, gorgeous clothes. Probably a conniving, overly confident spoiled brat. She was older than I was but I can remember the smug look she always had on her face.
The teacher in question disappeared but came back later as an administrator. I've seen plenty of cases where it was the teacher's fault and the teacher was the one in pursuit but in this case the school administration and the other teachers, who KNEW what this girl was like and KNEW what this teacher was like, arranged for him to go away and come back to serve the town well for the rest of his working life. He never did anything like that again and I know that for a fact.
Well, actually we had another big scandal. A handsome English teacher was seduced by a very popular and intellectual 8th grader. She used to stay after school and "help" him. It was just a rumor that something was going on.
But my friend and I learned that it was true! The teacher had really fallen for this girl. Rumor had it that she threatened to break up with him if he didn't escort her to the formal 8th grade dance recital--not school related.
My friend and I, not normally snoopy, just HAD to see if this was really true. So on the way home from school that day we stopped in at the town building that hosted the dance recital. We sneaked in and hid up in the balcony. There was a grand piano and the boys were dressed in suits, the girls in evening gowns. Each couple was announced as they entered.
Suddenly my friend whispered, "There they are!" And sure enough. I was so embarrassed for him but there was Mr X, all dressed up, with the girl on his arm. She was wearing a white strapless evening gown. He was their teacher and here he was acting like one of them! Everyone else was 13 years old.
That teacher disappeared from our school and he was one of the best teachers ever. Apparently he really was in love and had been taken for a ride. The girl just wanted to see if she could get him and then she broke up with him. Several years later he was hired back at a good job in the school system. I'm glad because he was a great person. That girl, so well heeled, so well brought up, was really trash. I guess if it happened today things would have turned out differently but I'm glad that he was treated fairly. SHE had taken advantage of HIM and would not give up--he was so nice and he was the trusting type AND the one of the best teachers the town ever had.
I'm not speaking of recent times when people attended workshops. This happened in a wealthy town in the 1950s. In those days, things were hushed up. I don't even know if there was a such thing as counseling back in those days. More like Peyton Place--people were just sent away until it was over. Most people in town never even knew what happened.
This girl was rich, a straight A student, had all the advantages in life like private tutors and lessons in all sorts of things, gorgeous clothes. Probably a conniving, overly confident spoiled brat. She was older than I was but I can remember the smug look she always had on her face.
The teacher in question disappeared but came back later as an administrator. I've seen plenty of cases where it was the teacher's fault and the teacher was the one in pursuit but in this case the school administration and the other teachers, who KNEW what this girl was like and KNEW what this teacher was like, arranged for him to go away and come back to serve the town well for the rest of his working life. He never did anything like that again and I know that for a fact.
I'm not speaking of recent times when people attended workshops. This happened in a wealthy town in the 1950s. In those days, things were hushed up. I don't even know if there was a such thing as counseling back in those days. More like Peyton Place--people were just sent away until it was over. Most people in town never even knew what happened.
This girl was rich, a straight A student, had all the advantages in life like private tutors and lessons in all sorts of things, gorgeous clothes. Probably a conniving, overly confident spoiled brat. She was older than I was but I can remember the smug look she always had on her face.
The teacher in question disappeared but came back later as an administrator. I've seen plenty of cases where it was the teacher's fault and the teacher was the one in pursuit but in this case the school administration and the other teachers, who KNEW what this girl was like and KNEW what this teacher was like, arranged for him to go away and come back to serve the town well for the rest of his working life. He never did anything like that again and I know that for a fact.
Time-frame of this occurence doesn't matter. It was still wrong, then or now.
Nor does the girl's "entitlement" make any difference to the morality - or lack thereof - of this situation. She may have been a spoiled brat, a real little pill - she was still a child and the teacher was still an adult and in a position of authority.
Not right then; not right now, no matter how it's spun.
I'm not speaking of recent times when people attended workshops. This happened in a wealthy town in the 1950s. In those days, things were hushed up. I don't even know if there was a such thing as counseling back in those days. More like Peyton Place--people were just sent away until it was over. Most people in town never even knew what happened.
This girl was rich, a straight A student, had all the advantages in life like private tutors and lessons in all sorts of things, gorgeous clothes. Probably a conniving, overly confident spoiled brat. She was older than I was but I can remember the smug look she always had on her face.
The teacher in question disappeared but came back later as an administrator. I've seen plenty of cases where it was the teacher's fault and the teacher was the one in pursuit but in this case the school administration and the other teachers, who KNEW what this girl was like and KNEW what this teacher was like, arranged for him to go away and come back to serve the town well for the rest of his working life. He never did anything like that again and I know that for a fact.
Sorry now on a computer and I have to remark. This is just so wrong on many levels. You know nothing for a fact. The teacher was wrong, period. It doesn't matter what a 13 year old girl was popular and intellectual. How can you as an adult even think that?? I am seriously appalled that you would even think a 13 year old who doesn't' have a fully developed brain could manipulate an adult.
My Biology teacher got a girl in my class pregnant. The girl's mother was also a school employee. My history teacher left his wife for another girl in my class. Neither teacher was that young either. The bio guy was in his 40s, and the history teacher was in his 30s. I know one of the couples are still together, 35+ years later.
Neither of these really raised a lot of eyebrows, surprisingly. A girl in my grammar school class married the parish priest, and that didn't seem scandalous either. We more more puzzled as to what these girls saw in these men.
We had a 21 Jump Street situation. The young female officer was in my English class.
A couple of months later, a bunch of people got busted for drugs.
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I am seriously appalled that you would even think a 13 year old who doesn't' have a fully developed brain could manipulate an adult. 