Bullying (GPA, profession, course, teachers)

[Scooby Snacks]

No. Parents are often the worst bullies of all.

[NorCal77]

Originally Posted by jtab4994

Keep in mind that she'll be online eventually, even if she's homeschooled.

There will be restrictions as to what she can see and time spent that's for sure lol

Originally Posted by Heterojunction

You can't shield them forever...

No, but we can make conscious decisions that affect their future.

Originally Posted by JOinGA

Go to your local school and meet with the principal. Ask how they handle bullying. Ask neighbors if their kids have experienced any bullying and what the school did. See if the local school is having any concerts or events and go to one. See if kids seem happy and parents show up to be involved. You should be able to get a good feel for the atmosphere in your school district.

That's a good idea thanks for the input!

Originally Posted by PriscillaVanilla

I'm thinking that homeschooled kids are more likely to spend more time on the internet, especially during the day.

See above reply.

Originally Posted by G1..

Yet parents try and to me that is the worst thing they can do.Children need to learn how to inter act with others .They will grow up and not know how to deal with adults or others and it will only make their life worse.

There are more ways to socialize a child than school.

[j0nx]

bullying will happen whenever there is a large group of people. You are only delaying the inevitable, if not now then surely in college. You need to equip your child with the tools to combat this bullying. There are social, emotional and physical approaches.

[Coloradomom22]

Originally Posted by Hermes63300

Well it will stop you being bullied by people who you would encounter at school.
However, it may retard the development of social skills, leading to more problems interacting with people in the future.

In the case of severe bullying homeschooling can give a temporary respite. But I agree that it doesn't always solve the problem permanently. Eventually bullied kids have to enter the world either with college or a job and those same bullies are there only now they are co-workers and bosses. Learning how to effectively fight a bully is a skill that needs to be honed.

[JayCT]

Originally Posted by AlaskaErik

Fighting back stops bullying. Bullies look for weak victims that won't fight back. This is not a school vs home schooling issue. Bullies can be found everywhere.

I agree. Homeschooling does not prepare kids to function in the real world IMHO. At some point the kids are going to have to go out and face the world and that would include bullies. If the school can't control the problem then I would suggest in enrolling your child in a self defense class. It can help build confidence and stop the issue. Good luck, Jay

[tottsieanna]

Homeschooling has changed so much and most are active with other children and sports activities that isolation is no longer a issue.

[Heterojunction]

It's better to let your child to learn how to handle bullying than trying to shield them with homeschooling just for that reason. There will be bullies when they go to college and when they start working. Better to learn how to deal with it now.

[oldoak2000]

Originally Posted by JayCT

I agree. Homeschooling does not prepare kids to function in the real world IMHO. At some point the kids are going to have to go out and face the world and that would include bullies. If the school can't control the problem then I would suggest in enrolling your child in a self defense class. It can help build confidence and stop the issue. Good luck, Jay

Thomas Jefferson, Susan B. Anthony, James Madison, Abraham Lincoln, Andrew Carnegie, Florence Nightingale, George Washington, Booker T. Washington, C.S. Lewis, Sandra Day O'Connor, Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein, Pierre Curie, Woodrow Wilson, Serena and Venus Williams, Virginia Woolf, Michael Faraday, Frank Lloyd Wright, Theodore Roosevelt,J. R. R. Tolkien, Condoleezza Rice, Robert Frost, Franklin Delano Roosevelt, Isaac Newton, Tim Tebow, Alexander Graham Bell, Lewis Carroll, Blaise Pascal, Johann Sebastian Bach, Winston Churchill, Benjamin Franklin...

.... and many many others would ALL say your opinion is BUNK!

But then again I'm guessing you were public schooled and don't know who any of these people are/were.
In case you need some remedial lesson: http://www.famoushomeschoolers.net/index.html

[getatag]

Originally Posted by oldoak2000

Thomas Jefferson, Susan B. Anthony, James Madison, Abraham Lincoln, Florence Nightingale, George Washington, Sandra Day O'Connor, Thomas Edison, Serena and Venus Williams, Virginia Woolf, Theodore Roosevelt, J. R. R. Tolkien, Condoleezza Rice, Robert Frost , Franklin Delano Roosevelt, Tim Tebow, Alexander Graham Bell, Lewis Carroll and many many others would ALL say your opinion is BUNK!

But then again I'm guessing you were public schooled and don't know who any of these people are/were.

Poor argument, that would be like me trying to subtly disparage your education by saying you were probably home schooled because you don't know any of these people:

Daniel Paul Jones
Andrew Jondle
Robert Holguin and accomplice
Joseph Hall
Nehemiah Griego
Christopher Gribble
Kishon Green
Jake Evans
Shanna Lynn Dreiling
Dillon Cossey
Hugo Clayton
Lukah Probzeb Chang
Erin Caffey
Patrick Armstrong
Claude Alexander Allen III
Couty Alexander
Isaac Aguigui
Chevie Kehoe
Cheyne Kehoe
Israel Keyes
Joshua Komisarjevsky
Adam Lanza
Matthew Liewald
Son of Marilyn and Charles Long
Christian Longo
David Ludwig
Michael Mason
Jonathan McMullen
Boy in Mentor, Ohio
Matthew Murray
Darren James Price
Jeremiah Reynolds
Charles Carl Roberts
Eric Robert Rudolph
Angela Shannon
John Timothy Singer
Aza Vidinhar
Brandon Warren
Benjamin Matthew and James Tyler Williams
Cylena Crawford
Schaeffer Cox


There are advantages to both home schooling and traditional public schooling depending upon your individual needs. Notice I didn't say individual PARENT'S needs, it should be all about the student's educational needs.
Logically bullying probably takes place less in the home school environment. Although as homeschool networking has become more mainstream, I'd guess bullying is on the increase there also.

[Phil75230]

Why not change the culture so that it severely disapproves of the bully as much as it disapproves of racists, homophobes, misogynists, transphobes and other bigots? Sometimes bullies are so strong (individually or socially) that the bullied simply cannot win. In fact, that's a large part of why they're targeted in the first place. The culture has to be on their side to begin with in order for a successful fight to take place (i.e. even if they lose the physical or verbal fight, they still win in the "hearts and minds" way - similar to how a racist bigot may overpower a minority member, but the minority member is still favored despite losing their fight).

Therefore, this popular admonition to fight back leads to a neverending treadmill, and worse will give the bully a false legitimacy if the bullied would clearly be out of his league taking him or her on. This is especially true of the bullied would get ridiculed and scorned for losing a fight when he or she defended himself. In short, the prevailing cultural attitudes stack the deck against the bullied.

So when is mainstream society gonna start taking responsibility for defending those too unable to defend themselves? This question goes especially for these "personal responsibility on steroids" types.


As for social interactions - sometimes people are better off alone than they are in a hostile environment. Finding a few good friends will teach them much more about social skills than going to school with dozens to hundreds of people they have no connections to. It also helps if that person has common interests with that select social group. THAT is how social skills are learned, not from throwing a kid into a deep pool and say "sink or swim".