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Old 09-09-2020, 04:32 PM
 
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I went to high school in the late 70's, and no one would DREAM of going to Homecoming or Prom alone or in groups of friends. Tickets, were, in fact, sold in pairs.

My kids are in their 20's, and homecoming and prom were largely for groups. There were some couples, but mostly, groups went to these events. Even if there WAS a couple, they didn't go out to eat together alone and then go to the dance; they went out to eat in groups that consisted of couples and singles.

There were some parental concerns about that; parents wondered, why isn't my kid trying to pair up? Why isn't he falling in love? We'd talk to each other and wonder. When I was in high school, everyone was seeking to be in a coupled relationship.

So I'd have to say, based on my experience, the OP is 100% opposite of what I've seen.
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Old 09-09-2020, 04:49 PM
 
Location: NorCal...The Bay Area
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My kids are in their 20's, and homecoming and prom were largely for groups. There were some couples, but mostly, groups went to these events. Even if there WAS a couple, they didn't go out to eat together alone and then go to the dance; they went out to eat in groups that consisted of couples and singles.




I'm past 30 but we went with our dates but sat with friends & their dates. What about homecoming pictures & prom pictures? Or the dresses we had that took forever to shop for? That wasn't about friends. You don't take dance pictures from the photographer with your friends & order a package together. It would come in sets when you got it back......so that you could split the pictures between you & your date. That was for COUPLES & so were the tickets. What about homecoming mums.........& prom flowers? You don't buy them for yourself.......we would wear the mums our date got us to school the day before the dance for the day of the game. edit: IMO it could't have changed that fast for ppl that graduated a couple of years after me. Ita tho....we didn't go out afterward with just our date.....friends were included on that too.

The homecoming game & parade were totally different tho....that was all about friends.
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Old 09-09-2020, 05:01 PM
 
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Are you talking about the 1960s or 70s....or earlier?
That's before my time.

My university has mixers as do others.

Girls/guys being very selective in dating is not old. It depends on whether you have the qualities that allow you to be more selective. Just because they are looking for marriage partners foremost doesn't mean they go right into a formal marriage once they're a couple.
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Old 09-09-2020, 05:14 PM
 
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I'm past 30 but we went with our dates but sat with friends & their dates. What about homecoming pictures & prom pictures? Or the dresses we had that took forever to shop for? That wasn't about friends. You don't take dance pictures from the photographer with your friends & order a package together. It would come in sets when you got it back......so that you could split the pictures between you & your date. That was for COUPLES & so were the tickets. What about homecoming mums.........& prom flowers? You don't buy them for yourself.......we would wear the mums our date got us to school the day before the dance for the day of the game. edit: IMO it could't have changed that fast for ppl that graduated a couple of years after me. Ita tho....we didn't go out afterward with just our date.....friends were included on that too.

The homecoming game & parade were totally different tho....that was all about friends.
There are tens of thousands of high schools in the US, plus god know how many tens of thousands of middle schools.

Is it that hard to believe that aren't all the same as far as their activities and so-called traditions?
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Old 09-09-2020, 08:37 PM
 
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I never understood why school was considered to be this big social thing for so many people. The only thing I cared for regarding school was learning, getting into college and eventually getting a good job.

Everything else was superfluous.
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Old 09-10-2020, 09:23 AM
 
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That's before my time.

My university has mixers as do others.

Girls/guys being very selective in dating is not old. It depends on whether you have the qualities that allow you to be more selective. Just because they are looking for marriage partners foremost doesn't mean they go right into a formal marriage once they're a couple.





I started college in 2007........never heard of "mixers" or people that don't want to date except with the intention of getting married. We just had parties......all parties were mixed. I never heard of an all guy or all girl party in college.

So IMO...you're talking about a long time ago or maybe super religious schools.
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Old 09-10-2020, 09:34 AM
 
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I started college in 2007........never heard of "mixers" or people that don't want to date except with the intention of getting married. We just had parties......all parties were mixed. I never heard of an all guy or all girl party in college.

So IMO...you're talking about a long time ago or maybe super religious schools.
I finished college at a Big Ten school in 1998. I don’t recall anything about “mixers” either. I just went to regular old parties as well. We only had one all-women dorm at that time and many of the women who lived there came from more religious backgrounds. My friend who lived there had an apostolic family. Some of the women were still girls, starting at 16 or 17 and their parents didn’t want them in environments where men could stay over. That said, everyone went to off-campus parties. I think only one floor on the entire campus had a curfew and it was for the very young students.
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Old 09-10-2020, 09:35 AM
 
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There are tens of thousands of high schools in the US

Is it that hard to believe that aren't all the same as far as their activities and so-called traditions?





Yes...it's that hard to believe IMO that students wouldn't be going to prom as couples.....even if their date is "just a friend". Ppl always talk about who their prom date was in school..........even as adults when we look back because it's usually a very important time like "first love" kinda stuff....prom pictures....bouquets....sexy dresses that couldn't be too sexy....
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Old 09-10-2020, 02:25 PM
 
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Roller skate nights? How old are you? Roller skating went by the wayside ages ago. In my experience school dances are not couple oriented. Prom was the only one and many schools especially today are not selling couples only tickets to prom. What high school sports have couple requirements? Never heard of this in my life!
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Old 09-10-2020, 02:28 PM
 
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Roller skate nights? How old are you? Roller skating went by the wayside ages ago. In my experience school dances are not couple oriented. Prom was the only one and many schools especially today are not selling couples only tickets to prom. What high school sports have couple requirements? Never heard of this in my life!
I think there's just a segment of the population that either peaked or is otherwise just oddly obsessed with their high school years. It skews their worldview on topics like this.
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