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Old 04-05-2013, 12:28 AM
 
Location: Folsom
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it definitely can be very alluring, and this is where i don't understand female logic at all: If a guy approaches you and finds you attractive when you're "at your worst" (your words ladies, not ours), then this should be refreshing to you, not thwarted away like he's violating some sacred rule of 'don't talk to me when sweaty'.

I mean, doesn't it feel nice to be considered attractive when:

- you're not wearing makeup
- your're not wearing your best dress
- you're not wearing heels
- the lights aren't dim
- the guy isn't drunk
yes
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Old 04-05-2013, 12:34 AM
 
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It definitely can be very alluring, and this is where I don't understand female logic at all: If a guy approaches you and finds you attractive when you're "at your worst" (your words ladies, not ours), then this should be refreshing to you, not thwarted away like he's violating some sacred rule of 'don't talk to me when sweaty'.

I mean, doesn't it feel nice to be considered attractive when:

- You're not wearing makeup
- Your're not wearing your best dress
- You're not wearing heels
- The lights aren't dim
- The guy isn't drunk
Exactly. Nobody should listen to any of this nonsense that you can't meet people or get dates from the gym. You can flirt and be friendly with the women and see if they respond at all. The trick is it has to be casual and in the context of you doing your own thing.
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Old 04-05-2013, 01:35 AM
 
Location: West Los Angeles
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You can flirt and be friendly with the women and see if they respond at all. The trick is it has to be casual and in the context of you doing your own thing.
Yep, it's one of those things that can't be rushed. As a guy, just keep things light, say hello the first time, maybe have a brief conversation the next time you see her, then if those two instances went well, ask her for her number the next time. Don't consider it "hitting on" a girl, just making a gym friend that could turn into something more.
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Old 04-05-2013, 09:18 AM
 
Location: Philaburbia
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I'm talking a whole row of 15 or so empty machines and a chick chooses the one directly next to me.
Maybe she wants a better view of the TV.

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None have actually said "hi" to me even when I reciprocate the eye contact/gaze or whatever.
Maybe they just want you to mind your own business so they can concentrate on their workouts.
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Old 04-05-2013, 09:59 AM
 
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Exactly. Nobody should listen to any of this nonsense that you can't meet people or get dates from the gym. You can flirt and be friendly with the women and see if they respond at all. The trick is it has to be casual and in the context of you doing your own thing.
The operative word is "casual" Not to come across as if you cruising a bar. You're there on legitimate business, working out and getting in shape. So what IS wrong with being sociable, as long as one is not being creepy or a pest. The rule of thumb is, "Low key" "Respectful and polite" "Less (flirting) is more" You won't receive a positive response with some people, even when you keep it light and do it right, but that doesn't mean it's wrong to socialize with people at the gym.

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Old 04-05-2013, 05:02 PM
 
Location: Way up high
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It definitely can be very alluring, and this is where I don't understand female logic at all: If a guy approaches you and finds you attractive when you're "at your worst" (your words ladies, not ours), then this should be refreshing to you, not thwarted away like he's violating some sacred rule of 'don't talk to me when sweaty'.

I mean, doesn't it feel nice to be considered attractive when:

- You're not wearing makeup
- Your're not wearing your best dress
- You're not wearing heels
- The lights aren't dim
- The guy isn't drunk
No of course it does!!! Don't forget completely sweaty. It's very flattering so when guys like hot big gym guy see me out in public dressed attractive they are like double dam!!
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Old 04-06-2013, 01:44 AM
 
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you seem like a delight.

anyway, i'm alot like you, OP. i mainly concentrate on my workout. but then again, i've been thinking about this too, and have had that same situation happen to me, but i was too oblivious to do anything. though i am not oblivious enough to not notice women at the gym. after all, i am a guy. i've had a few women on the elliptical machines right next to me take of their sweater and put their hair down and it has been really distracting. perhaps that was a green light. i always go in the morning and i am not much of a talker in the morning. if it is the mid-afternoon or evening when i am more likely to initiate conversations.
Yeah dude if they're at cardio machines right next to you when many other are available; I'd say there's a high likelihood you piqued her interest. She is thus violating gym etiquette to get your attention.

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If we exchange enough eye contact or I catch you looking at me in the mirror I'll simply just come up to you. But then again, I'm an aggressive woman
Wish more women were as confident as you . I'd get my **** wet more often and maybe like someone enough to be my gf.

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It definitely can be very alluring, and this is where I don't understand female logic at all: If a guy approaches you and finds you attractive when you're "at your worst" (your words ladies, not ours), then this should be refreshing to you, not thwarted away like he's violating some sacred rule of 'don't talk to me when sweaty'.

I mean, doesn't it feel nice to be considered attractive when:

- You're not wearing makeup
- Your're not wearing your best dress
- You're not wearing heels
- The lights aren't dim
- The guy isn't drunk
Wow this guy knows what's up. If the lights aren't dim and the guy is sober that really says something . I mean, it's the ultimate fear of any guy to wake-up to a groce looking unrecognizable woman without make-up. So if guys dig you without make-up, that's the ultimate compliment. Instead of shunning it, embrace it.

Outside of bars/clubs, there's only so many places to meet women. You single girls should appreciate being approached by quality guys at the gym. No alcohol involved, nothing. Just genuine attraction.
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Old 04-06-2013, 08:03 AM
 
Location: NJ
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pretty much every girl in the gym is interested in me. they usually let me know by looking away when we make eye contact, telling me to stop staring, ignoring me when i talk to them and giving me the finger.
some people have suggested that this may mean something other than what i am thinking. havent you guys ever heard of "playing hard to get"? they so want me.
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Old 04-06-2013, 01:20 PM
 
Location: New Albany, Ohio
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works out at home, but goes to the gym not to lift but to hit on women crew checking in


not srs, probably should though i mean i hardly ever see "fit" women whenever im doing daily activities
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Old 04-07-2013, 08:41 AM
 
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Yeah dude if they're at cardio machines right next to you when many other are available; I'd say there's a high likelihood you piqued her interest. She is thus violating gym etiquette to get your attention.
you're probably right, i should be more receptive next time
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