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Old 04-08-2013, 03:32 PM
 
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I finally gathered the courage to put some revealing photos out here, in hopes of maybe receiving some exercise advice. I honestly can't understand what the hell is wrong with my body shape. No matter how much weight I lose or what exercise I do, I'm still not happy with my shape. I feel like I'm 'skinny-fat' but also I guess part of it is just the way my skeleton is built. I was always a pear shape, but in the last several years I also feel like my torso and ribcage has expanded and that whole part between my waist and knees is just TOO frigging wide! But I don't know how to reduce it! I do cardio and some weights, I have a little muscle definition on my abs (though you can't see it on the photo, better visible in side view), my arms and shoulders are fairly defined.

I'm just confused...everyone around me tells me I'm really skinny and I should put on some weight On top, my ribs and verterbrae are really visible. But from the waist down I feel like I have so much fat, and I can grab handfuls from my love handles and lower back, and my legs look chubby to me

I'm 5'4 and around 110-112 lbs, thought it fluctuates a lot daily, between 108-115, due to water weight I think. The photo is taken at 114, though I was only 111 the day before?? Last time I got my body fat measured it was 18%, tho that was over a year ago. If it matters I'm almost 30 and have a child.

Am I crazy for thinking I look 'wide'? Is it just my build and I need to make peace with it?? Heeelp!

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Old 04-08-2013, 03:42 PM
 
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For someone your age and after having a kid you look better than most people. Don't stress about it.
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Old 04-08-2013, 04:27 PM
 
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Am I crazy for thinking I look 'wide'?
Yes. There is nothing wrong with the way you look.
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Old 04-08-2013, 04:33 PM
 
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You have fallen victim to the nonsense idea that feminine hips are negative. They aren't. You look wonderful.
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Old 04-08-2013, 04:33 PM
 
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I'm in my early 20's and I am overweight. I wear size 14 pants and my tummy is flabby. It almost looks like I'm pregnant sometimes though I've never had a child. There is nothing wrong with you.
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Old 04-08-2013, 04:34 PM
 
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Yes. There is nothing wrong with the way you look.
well, thanks, I'm not saying there's something all that 'wrong' exactly...but just that I feel that at my weight, I should be a lot smaller than I am, if that makes sense...I've seen women that weighed 150 at the same height and didn't look any bigger than I do...
For an example of what I'd like to look like, here's a random pic of the same height/weight from the Body Gallery:
http://www.mybodygallery.com/img/23597/1.jpg

Is that just not possible for me??
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Old 04-08-2013, 04:37 PM
 
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You have fallen victim to the nonsense idea that feminine hips are negative. They aren't. You look wonderful.
Thanks It's not even so much the hips...it's that 'love handle' area between the waist and the hips...there are women who have wide hips but with that small, smooth waist curve, where the torso narrows right under the bust and then smoothly curves in and back out...my waist just seems to go in and out at one spot, and the areas above and below it are wide right away...I'm not sure how to explain it
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Old 04-08-2013, 04:38 PM
 
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I can not find a single thing wrong with your body shape. I hereby officially diagnose you with body dysmorphic disorder.
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Old 04-08-2013, 04:40 PM
 
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something like this would be my ideal body...
http://www.mybodygallery.com/img/16687/2.jpg

or this:
http://www.mybodygallery.com/img/12782/2.jpg

Is there ANY exercise routine that would make it possible for me??
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Old 04-08-2013, 04:41 PM
 
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For an example of what I'd like to look like, here's a random pic of the same height/weight from the Body Gallery:
http://www.mybodygallery.com/img/23597/1.jpg

Is that just not possible for me??
If you posed like that you'd look just like that.
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