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i’m 5’11 and incredibly chubby ( i feel huge)
recently, a friend told me that i’m in super pretty but its the way i carry myself that is a turn off……is confidence really that important? and how do you relay it?
It's all about carrying your head high, making eye contact, and thanking people for compliments when they're given instead of putting yourself down! Yes, confidence is incredibly important and without it a gorgeous person can look terrible.
Posture - always maintain great posture, no matter what size you are. Roll your shoulders back, chest up, as if pulled up with a string toward the sky, head up, smile, make eye contact. Once you start putting this into practice to LOOK confident, you will actually begin to FEEL confident. Like Kristin said - don't put yourself down, either. Maybe start doing some things to feel better about yourself - go for walks in the evenings, if you can. Just start doing little things to improve your health, and you'll start to feel better about yourself. Also remember that YOU are your own worst critic, so whatever you think about yourself, other people aren't thinking the same things. In other words - you probably aren't as bad as you make yourself out to be.
Like Twinkle says: POSTURE. I am tall too and used to schlump around, embarrassed that I towered over the other kids at school. Luckily, I started ballet and my teachers fixed that right away.
If you practice looking confident and acting confident, soon you will feel confident. People react to how you look, so they will react to your confident exterior--even when you don't feel so sure on the inside. You have gotten some great suggestions above.
Not making eye contact to those who you don't want to bother to talk to can show confidence. It's more so making eye contact briefly but then shying away that shows hesitation and lack of assurance.
See, I have a real problem with this part, as people then feel compelled to actually speak to me...lol
I have a keen perception into human motive, or as my wife would say, good discernment and it drivers her nuts sometimes.
One of the things I pickup on real fast is if I'm talking with a person and they make little or no eye contact. It gets my wheels turning and then I take notice of everything else they do.
Little things like if I ask a question I watch to see which way your eyes look when answering. Also how you stand and how you hold your hands will tell me a lot about them.
Even how you cross your legs when responding will give me clues into what they are saying.
Posture, as well as wearing clothing that is flattering on you. There's nothing worse than someone who's good-looking that dresses sloppily or in unflattering ways.
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