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Its also the rare person that doesnt care what you think. And I live in a college town so yeah ive been to a college campus recently. Why is it so important for others to take pride and effort in their appearance? perhaps they are happy with themselves and thats all that matters to them. perhaps theyre married and arent trying to attract anyone. Maybe theyre trying to be accepted for their personalities and/or hard work and not their clothing decisions.
Slobbing out just because you are with someone is one of the top complaints people have in LTR. I wouldn't expect a guy to stick around if I went from doll to drab. Part of why people get together is what you look like.
Taking care of yourself is part of having a healthy self esteem. If you want people to see you for your insides you better put a good front on the outside that reflects your inside. We could come up with a million excuses of why. But it doesn't change the fact that people will always judge you for your outside first before getting to the inside. You connect first with your outside unless working with the blind.
Dressing poor is dressing poorly are two different things. I find things on clearance that are 1/4 to equal the price of what people will spend on sweats. You don't have to shop at neiman marcus to look presentable. And poverty stricken people who actually HAVE to dress poorly are not even what I am talking about. There is a huge difference between that and someone who just wears sweats.
I notice that you only mention "chicks". Are women the only ones who are supposed to take pride and effort in their appearance?
Er, not what I said. Chicks are the only ones wearing running shorts, t-shirts, leggings and uggs. Every. Single. Day. I think most people in my age group could use a fashion boost, but I'm particularly critical of the ladies, being one myself, because I know how easy it is to dress well with so many choices out there.
Don't get all judgey because I use the term "chicks".
well personally i see nothing wrong with being comfy, out of fashion, and not dressing to impress. I know I wasnt put on this earth to impress anyone. yeah i cared about fashion and matching clothes when i was in high school but then once i got out i stopped caring. Wasnt about self esteem or anything i just got out in the real world and found that no matter what i wore nobody could care less. i could wear a suit one day, jeans and tshirt the next, and then wear my pajamas all day the next and i was treated the same each day. Even if they didnt treat me differently i wouldnt care. More important things in life to worry about than fashions.
My wife and I have been together for 6 years now and shes in sweats majority of the time. I dont love her any less for it.
well personally i see nothing wrong with being comfy, out of fashion, and not dressing to impress. I know I wasnt put on this earth to impress anyone. yeah i cared about fashion and matching clothes when i was in high school but then once i got out i stopped caring. Wasnt about self esteem or anything i just got out in the real world and found that no matter what i wore nobody could care less. i could wear a suit one day, jeans and tshirt the next, and then wear my pajamas all day the next and i was treated the same each day. Even if they didnt treat me differently i wouldnt care. More important things in life to worry about than fashions.
My wife and I have been together for 6 years now and shes in sweats majority of the time. I dont love her any less for it.
Well I found quite the opposite. I think women are judged far more on what they look like too. I don't see why its a "worry" to take care of yourself. It should be something fun.
I personally would not be happy if I started seeing someone who was dapper and then just started wearing sloppy things or would let go of other elements of their appearance. Love and attraction are not always the same thing.
I bought sweats for the first time in my over 55 yrs and blamo, put so much weight on so fast I still can't believe it! My hair hasn't looked good since that fateful day either, no lie.
OK, but if I saw someone dressed like you doing anything other than leaving the gym or walking the dog at dawn, I'd think you were lazy, dirty, and overall questionable.
Dress however you like, but whether we like it or not people judge us by the way we present ourselves. And when you present yourself like a bum, well, they're probably not going to be too friendly. Maybe that's why you don't get along with 99% of the population? Do they keep putting change in your coffee cup?
Wow. This is too judgmental for me. People in sweats are dirty? Perhaps they just prioritize comfort. And I doubt that anyone is judging a student about this. To me, it sounds as if she is too busy with making good grades to worry about her ensemble.
You go girl! After you’ve completed your course of study, you can think more about your style of dress. May you make As.
Its also the rare person that doesnt care what you think. And I live in a college town so yeah ive been to a college campus recently. Why is it so important for others to take pride and effort in their appearance? perhaps they are happy with themselves and thats all that matters to them. perhaps theyre married and arent trying to attract anyone. Maybe theyre trying to be accepted for their personalities and/or hard work and not their clothing decisions.
Or maybe they're serious about their education, and they're not dressing for other people's interest or attention.
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Its not about impressing strangers. But it randomly happens. I don't see how accepting looking like a slob makes you an adult. It just makes you a slob.
Ita.....nothing wrong with yoga pants & being comfy at home BUT it can become a sloppy habit easy if it's standard clothing for every day!!! It's not like slipping on a pair of jeans or a skirt is getting super dressed up........
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Sometimes, young attractive women don't WANT attention, and will purposely dress 'down'.
Fashion isn't just about attention tho....it relates to how we feel & how we are seen at work or anywhere we go......to make a statement appropriate for the setting! Whether it's flirty....soft....serious....glam.....or casual. We can be super casual or comfy without wearing yoga pants all the time IMO...
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