When I look at me -- I see someone who doesn't have an ideal body, by any means. Formerly obese, lost weight fast so lot's of 'skin.' I do think "I have a pretty face,' and can look damned good when I want to
There are some things I 'like' about myself physically more than others, but overall I'm OK with me. I'm not going to DWELL on what I don't like. Some of the things I'm not crazy about ARE changeable, some are not.
I do NOT lack self-esteem. I was raised to believe that:
1) If I don't think I'm pretty, how can I expect to others to,
2) there are dozens of people standing in line to talk you down, don't you dare do it to yourself
3) This is the only body I have right now, so even though I may want some improvements, I have to be able to say at a basic level I'm OK, whole, lovable, complete as I am...even if I never lose weight, get married, wear make-up, whatever.....
4) this body is a 'shell'...I - my personality, emotions etc -- am a spiritual being and not defined by a body
5) I have to be ME, and if that means not being a lemming to fashion, style or society's 'norm' of beauty....I need to -- to use a hot phrase of today -- stand in MY truth, for me.
I thank Gd everyday I was raised this way. So many, many people do not know themselves, and have no confidence in who they are...INWARDLY. I personally believe if you don't have that....you'll fall for putting to much importance on OUTward appearance.
I've learned some lessons in life about INNer beauty, vs. the outward, physically superficial kind. For me , I know which one is more important.