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This article is certainly food for thought. A young woman determines not to look in the mirror for a year while at the same time planning her wedding. I admire her and think she probably gained a great deal of insight into what really matters.
I find it interesting that she avoided the mirror, but kept right on with the makeup.....
I am not a "hardcore" mirror user. I don't even have a full length one in my apartment.
I don't think this sort of experiment would add any value for me. My self-esteem is only minimally shaped by my appearance. I honestly feel like the deck was already stacked against me at the beginning, that it was just better finding my value inside myself instead of what society was going to tell me.
I mean the message I see all the time is that "black women," especially the ones that look like me are "ugly," "loud," and "ghetto." Internalizing that stuff would have messed me up from the get-go. There is a reason, traditionally, black women are more "confident" than "white" women. We were trained early. This is only recently starting to change.
I can't imagine trying to apply make-up without a mirror!
However, I generally use the mirror for morning make-up, and that's pretty much it for the day.....I do want a full-length mirror.....gotta make sure the shoes go with the rest of the outfit....but for me, a mirror is for a quick check...not a lengthy date to stare at myself!!!!
Interesting article. Herchoice was based on body image issues and a history of anorexia.
I think for most people it's a balancing act. I don't see a problem with using mirrors appropriately in everyday life. Caring about your appearance doesn't always indicate vanity.
Work is always so busy that I never have time to check the mirror
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