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For me, Brad Pitt, Ryan Gosling and Ryan Reynolds are all objectively handsome, but not particularly attractive. They're all too pretty.
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Originally Posted by jerseygal4u
Maybe you are comparing "beautiful vs sexy?"
I have seen beautiful men that were not sexy,and ugly men that were.
Lots of women say Barack Obama is sexy,but I don't see it at all.
Ryan Seacrest is beautiful,but not sexy to me.
Colin Farrell is sexy to me,but I really don't really hear about women swooning over him.
Where do you live where you don't hear about women swooning over him?! He's one that I can physically see the appeal of, but I'm not crazy over like every other woman is.
But this is a truth that goes beyond physical... I've seen gorgeous Victorian homes.... but I don't want one. And I love love love ranch homes and I know people that can't see anything in them.
To me, Gorgeous, Perfect and flawless imply to me that the person lacks uniqueness.
The girl that played Catnip in the Hunger games is a good example of someone who I find very attractive who has some unique features that are for from perfect.
I guess the issue is 'physical beauty' versus 'pysical attraction.'
You ever see an absolutely drop dead gorgeous person -- who does nothing for you attraction-wise?
I've always found it strange since 'beauty' is clearly an 'attracting' factor -- but not everyone with 'beauty' has whatever that "IT" is that makes for physical 'attraction.' Yet both factors are indeed - physical.
Examples:
1) for DECADES, while I was in my teens, 20;s and early 30s, I never really saw what people found so attractive about Pual Newman. I mean while other women were swooning and losing their minds -- I just didn't see it. Then...well, then in my late 30's I guess, I saw him -- I don't even remember whether it was an interview, or a documentary piece or what -- well, the lightbulb went off. I GOT IT!. I finally saw what others saw -- the man was gorgeous. I think it may have been and interview because after that -- something about his demeanor, and calm, down to earth nature -- I just 'got it' and found him irresistible after that. ANd even though he was older by then I still found him attractive and was able to look back on his younger images and say now I see what others saw....and whatever IT is, he's still got it.
2) I saw a 1961 movie starring Rock Hudson, who while I readily admit -- and it's clear to see -- the man. is. gorgeous. He's never really made me weak in the knees or anything like that. For me he's one of those who -- like I said -- there's no doubt he's FINE AS CAN BE, and one of the FINEST EVER -- but I could take him or leave him as far as having that lusty fire that makes think 'let me me have some of THAT!" Even as I was watching the movie was was saying "good lrd, he's FINE, but I wouldn't fight over him.
Same for Denzel Washington. Women swoon over him like they'd wear him out. But I'd never fight over him. A young Clint Eastwood, though, and I'd scratch your eyes out for him.
Your thoughts on 'physical beauty' and 'physical attraction.'
It's an interesting question and I really don't know what it is or why I find some people attractive and some not. Never understood the George Clooney attraction for example. But Denzel Washington? Yes please - its all in the eyes. Colin Firth also does it big time for me- phew pass the smelling salts.
I'm also really attracted to men with brains (not in a zombie kind of way LOL) the physicist Brian Cox is absolutely top of my list - he's also very good looking. Hmm feeling in a bit of a flutter just thinking about it.
Pretty much everyone else I could take or leave.
Personally I enjoy looking at men who are pretty, handsome, or gorgeous but I wouldn't date any of them. I dated a really, really handsome guy once (male model type) but I couldn't stand him so I gave him to my best friend one night while were all out. Yeah, he didn't care that I gave him up and after my friend spent time with him she stopped swooning over him. I did feel bad about "giving him up" to my friend but I was so drunk at the time and tired of his "blah" personality.
I hate that we keep harping on Paul Newman but he was a perfect example of having "IT" because of his compassionate heart and humble personality, and to top it off - great looks. To be honest too, I don't especially care for Tom Selleck's looks, even when he was younger, but his hairy chest and manly physique incite lust in me.
Arrogance or a person with no personality or depth of character is a big turn off for both men and women I think.
A beautiful exterior on a human being can be equated to a lovely rose. You enjoy looking at it but you don't want to pick to carry it around with you - unless you're a woman and you want to stick in your hair or a guy who wants to hand it to a girl. Other than that they are just pleasant to observe.
ginger, I put George Clooney in the Paul Newman category for me...for a couple of reasons.
I never 'got' the Clooney attraction either -- in looks or personality -- until the last few years -- as he's matured, and I've also seen more about him, than just the he's a hunk crap. By all accounts he is fairly humble, takes his fame with a grain of salt -- AND as is known he has actively worked for international causes, such as Darfur.
I've grown to have a slight crush on him. He's by no means my 'OMG I can't be in a room alone with him' man -- but whereas before his handsomeness alone didn't do anything for me -- ADD his personality, and at least now I see an attraction of BRAINS and beauty.
ginger, I put George Clooney in the Paul Newman category for me...for a couple of reasons.
I never 'got' the Clooney attraction either -- in looks or personality -- until the last few years -- as he's matured, and I've also seen more about him, than just the he's a hunk crap. By all accounts he is fairly humble, takes his fame with a grain of salt -- AND as is known he has actively worked for international causes, such as Darfur.
I've grown to have a slight crush on him. He's by no means my 'OMG I can't be in a room alone with him' man -- but whereas before his handsomeness alone didn't do anything for me -- ADD his personality, and at least now I see an attraction of BRAINS and beauty.
I agree selhars, let's put Clooney and his big brown eyes into the "IT" category with Paul Newman.
To me, Gorgeous, Perfect and flawless imply to me that the person lacks uniqueness.
The girl that played Catnip in the Hunger games is a good example of someone who I find very attractive who has some unique features that are for from perfect.
This definitely happens to me. The people that drive me crazy are most often not conventionally handsome (of course there are exceptions. I'll fight you for young Clint, for sure.)
I saw Paul Newman in The Long Hot Summer when I was 18ish. I was so turned on by him in that that it was probably unhealthy.
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Even as I was watching the movie was was saying "good lrd, he's FINE, but I wouldn't fight over him.
