What makes girls from the age of 18-22 consider a guy physically attractive or handsome?
I'm in my late 30s. I work with college students and have one of my own, so I have a few different perspectives on this and can't seem to escape the constant tittering and gossip. You know, not to mention that I was once that age and I'm not so senile I can't remember. It sounds to me like you need specifics and most of what you're getting is generalities. Be prepared, this may sting a bit, but someone needs to be up front with you. I hope it doesn't smart too much. Let's look at your stats and what you have to say about yourself:
- 20 year old male
- 6'2, 194 lbs
- Not muscular
- Facially "alright looking," called "really average"
- Looks very "foreign" with light brown skin, black hair, and brown eyes
Girls in this age range (assuming they're into dudes, and that's the crowd you're after!) generally prefer a guy a year or two older than them, so you're in the sweet spot for 18-19 year old women.
Your height is a plus! Women seem to love tall men, and anything above 6 feet is filed away under "tall." Use that to your advantage. Don't slouch! Tower!
194 pounds and not muscular is going to make you fade into the background. Start hitting the gym, my friend. Girls this age look at abs, shoulders, arm, and butts especially. This doesn't mean to neglect your lower body because you will look out of proportion and whether they know it or not, women take the proportionality for granted before prizing specific areas. Other advantages are better health (yawn), better confidence -- the first time you get a double take in the gym you're going to feel GOOD, and a better fit from your clothes. What I mean is, they'll hang better on you, so you can make even ugly clothes look good. You won't have to depend on clothes making you look good.
Facially alright looking? Man, someone was feeling cruel that day. Groom yourself well. Make sure you have two eyebrows, even if you have to have an appointment to have them waxed the first time. Exfoliate and moisturize-- girls go wild over baby-soft, but not greasy, skin. Get rid of any residual acne. This is important both for your confidence and your attractiveness. See a dermatologist if you have to. Good skin is a must.
Hair hasn't been mentioned very much but is VITAL in the eyes of the young adult woman. Shampoo and condition according to your hair type, and use one that smells good. Aveda carries quite a few that are ladykillers, plus they can help you with products. If you are part Japanese, as your name suggests, you have an advantage. Girls actually like "foreign," although they actually think of it as exotic. Many of them favor J-Pop styles, particularly the spiky ones that look like cockatoos. However, do NOT get this style if it doesn't fit you. You need something that frames your face ... this one attribute, a good haircut/style, can take a man from "alright looking" to "wow" immediately. If you can pull off the J-Pop Cockatoo, it's a good way to use your heritage to your advantage. Remember, exotic is good. IF YOU CAN'T, THEN FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, DON'T TOUCH IT!
Other grooming: Shower daily, wear deodorant or antiperspirant that works, make sure your fingernails are short and clean, and brush AND floss. Make sure your teeth are white. You can't make them straight or crooked, but you can damn well make them white! Carry lotion if you tend to get ashy. Bonus: Carry an unscented one for actual use and one that smells like marshmallows or something in case a girl is around. Not girly marshmallows, edible ones. She is sure to cry, "That smells delicious! Can I use some?" and then she may go daydream about marshmallow-scented men with dark exotic eyes and great hair.
Know your swagger. I'm going to defer to Amonte on this because it's been put so well:
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Originally Posted by amonte
Get your swagger right. What I mean by that is, find your walk, your styles, your personality, your attitude, your hair style, your clothes. Also, do trial and error and start from the bottom. Don't start from girls you find really attractive or girls you really want. Start with girls you don't find attractive or don't care if things don't go well. What you're doing by starting at the bottom is practising, learning and seeing what works and doesn't. That way, if something goes wrong, you won't care and it won't negatively affect you because you don't care about the girl. If you have a friend that knows how to appeal to girls then ask him for help.
Also, you have to highlight your attributes and play your strengths. Everyone does not have everything. If you're funny, use it. If you are exotic or know another language, for example, then use it. Etc. While improving on what you already have and lack. If you're not funny, work on that. Work out, get a nice body.
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It sounds like you have all the makings of a really sharp looking guy, one that turns heads and one that girls compliment. There's definitely an internal component too, and hopefully that will come to you as you start feeling great about yourself. Just don't start acting like a jerk, okay? And keep your eyes open for the girls no one notices-- they'll start to notice you first!
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