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Other people have to do that first, right? It's not up to you to do it. The follower.
Its kind of hard to ignore race when others constantly interact/react/judge/remind you of your race or how you are (or are 'supposed' to be) different from them....based solely on your race.
Its kind of hard to ignore race when others constantly interact/react/judge/remind you of your race or how you are (or are 'supposed' to be) different from them....based solely on your race.
[quote=jerseygal4u;33826943]Well then,what if someone dark skinned wants to bleach their dark skin to look beautiful to mainstream society?
Why is there such criticism when someone wants to bleach their skin,but its ok to wear weaves which don't match the hair texture?
Notice I dodnt say its wrong to wear weaves or extensions,I just said its wrong to wear weaves that aren't one's natural texture.[/]
Why are the issues going on with black women and our beauty techniques so concerning for you? It's bizarre. Besides, I'm not trying to be rude but your opinion about what type of weave a black women should wear is irrelevant and completely silly. Its a bit ironic, your willing to shell several thousands of dollars to get a new face and a new body because you don't like your own natural look, yet you have the nerve to tell black women to look more natural?
You really need to focus on yourself and getting to the root of why YOU cannot accept the body and face you were given rather then focusing on what black women are doing. It's far easier to cast judgement on what other women are doing than it is to examine yourself and understand the reasons you feel the need to engage in similar behaviors. As I said you are projecting. Your a mirror. The very issues you fixate on regarding black women are issues YOU notice (more than anything else) because you essentially are mimicking these same behaviors and feelings. In other words the real reason you are fixated on what type of weave black women wear, amongst other things, is due to the fact that you yourself cannot stand the natural YOU. You identify with black women seeking what you deem unnatural because you are also on the same journey. Thats how projection works. the very things you see in yourself you will see in others. and the exact way you feel about these things, will be projected onto others.
you can't stand to look at yourself and you feel ugly. You identify this need to look a certain way--in black women- and your anger and frustration with black women not accepting their natural hair and natural selves stems from the anger and frustration you feel with yourself for not being able to love yourself despite the way you look. Once you understand this and focus on accepting and loving you, this frustration and fixation with a group of women that has no bearing on YOU, will cease to exist.
Stop focusing on what black women are doing and how you think they should look and focus on yourself. It shouldn't even be a concern of yours.
Btw I hope to see you and RedHead and the other select few concerned citizens to be equally vocal in the next thread about white women tanning to get orange, dying their hair bleach blonde, twerking, trying to get bigger hums(or claiming to have big butts) and wearing cosmetics, as an attempt to not be their natural selves.
On one hand, I really like academia and encourage people to further their education, on the other hand while I dig a certain level of "refinement" and "style" in a person I also dislike snobbery and people that think they walk on water.
Especially concerning your words I highlighted in bold blue, but in general your overall tone and comments, what am I suppose to infer from your comments about the dark skinned, black woman I grew up with that has a few daughters and grandchildren, has never married, and has no college education?
I think the world of her. Being able to change her grandchildren's diapers next to her would be more of a blessing for me than my college degree.
Yeah... ideally I would like a wife with one or more advanced degrees, maybe one that comes from money, and one that speaks multiple languages. On the other hand in the end those things really don't matter and this "girl around the block" is my ideal wife and always has been. She's "ghetto" too in the sense she'll fight another woman at the drop of a hat. Don't get me wrong... she doesn't start drama, she's not "ghetto" in any other way, but she's no "punk." And if some ghetto--or college educated--woman jumped up in my face for no reason, while she's present, she better be ready to put her dukes up because the girl ain't have'n it.
Like Tiger Woods when his image was one of the "good boys"? Or Oscar Dela Hoya known as "The Golden Boy," who's franchise image was driven by his "good boy" of boxing image until he developed a crack cocaine problem, and while high would cross-dress in female clothing in the presence paid female prostitutes? Oscar later admitted he had an alcohol problem going all the way back to his youth--his teenage years if not earlier childhood.
Arnold and Hulk Hoggan? Steroid users for decades. The former also an adulterer.
Those were the "good boys" and not the "bad boys." Mostly everyone has some bad in them, especially today when it comes to sex and promiscuity. I would say most young women today that are "good girls" are promiscuous enough outside the media lights that in the 1950s they would have been considered wh*res.
I thought that you liked Latina women and greatly disliked black women because they rejected you because you were light skinned?
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I'm not sure how to take this.