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oh yes I do it usually is a purse or a pair of shoes or a cologne or whatever if I really like it because people have done such to me and it makes me feel good .
I really never do. I am pretty reserved in terms of striking up conversations with strangers.
Today, I was clothes shopping, and tried on a dress. I came out of the dressing room area to show my husband, and another girl and her boyfriend or husband were doing the same thing, and we were sharing the same mirrors. I scooted past her quickly to get back to the dressing room area, and she said, "Excuse me, ma'am?" I said, "Yes?" And she said, "That dress looks really great on you!" I thanked her, and thought it was so nice.
But I also realized that I tend to have poor intuition when it comes to approaching strangers similarly. While she complimented me, and I genuinely appreciated it, I have complimented people before and have them look at me like I have three heads, in a very, "Why do you think I would care what YOU think?" way. Because of my knack for finding people who can't/won't take compliments, I tend to just keep my opinion to myself unless it's somebody I know and know will appreciate the compliment. Being nice to somebody and having them be rude back is always such a buzzkill.
i know exactly what you mean. I want to compliment so many people but feel that i cant because of how they generally look at me when i do so. Still, so many times i just wanna say "omg i love that ......." but i cant.
I compliment people often. If I see something I like or is interesting I will say how I like it and ask what it is/where they got it.
On the flip side, I have gotten compliments and it brightens my day. To know a stranger took time out of their day to say something positive brings a smile to my face. The past two times I was at the store I was complimented on my perfume. It's just a nice feeling, that's all.
I really never do. I am pretty reserved in terms of striking up conversations with strangers.
Today, I was clothes shopping, and tried on a dress. I came out of the dressing room area to show my husband, and another girl and her boyfriend or husband were doing the same thing, and we were sharing the same mirrors. I scooted past her quickly to get back to the dressing room area, and she said, "Excuse me, ma'am?" I said, "Yes?" And she said, "That dress looks really great on you!" I thanked her, and thought it was so nice.
But I also realized that I tend to have poor intuition when it comes to approaching strangers similarly. While she complimented me, and I genuinely appreciated it, I have complimented people before and have them look at me like I have three heads, in a very, "Why do you think I would care what YOU think?" way. Because of my knack for finding people who can't/won't take compliments, I tend to just keep my opinion to myself unless it's somebody I know and know will appreciate the compliment. Being nice to somebody and having them be rude back is always such a buzzkill.
Wow. Just wow. What a grinch. (Sorry my three year old was just singing that song lol but it certainly applies).
Wow. Just wow. What a grinch. (Sorry my three year old was just singing that song lol but it certainly applies).
Personally i dont think she's a grinch. Ive seen it many times around here; you say "i just love your hair/purse/shoes" and their face contorts like they just bit into a turd or something and they give you this sideways glance like 'who the hell are you to talk to me?". And then you cant help but thinking "fine, next time i'll just keep my mouth shut if thats the way youre going to be about it.".
We're not grinches, people just have bad body language (if thats what youd call it).
Did it yesterday. This kid in Shop Rite checked out my cart of groceries like a crazy machine. Fast, precise, proper things in proper bags, no nonsense. Counted out my change with smooth style. Like wow! I told him: "You are a Ferrari in the world of cashiers. Good job". He was pleased.
I love seeing people in mundane jobs taking things seriously and making an art form out of what is most often observed as a slog. It tells me they most likely have bright futures, and that makes me feel good.
Personally i dont think she's a grinch. Ive seen it many times around here; you say "i just love your hair/purse/shoes" and their face contorts like they just bit into a turd or something and they give you this sideways glance like 'who the hell are you to talk to me?". And then you cant help but thinking "fine, next time i'll just keep my mouth shut if thats the way youre going to be about it.".
We're not grinches, people just have bad body language (if thats what youd call it).
I have never had anyone respond in any way but positively.
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