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Don't worry, guys. I read somewhere (it was a reputable publication, maybe Time) that the biotechs are developing a true cure for baldness. It's a few years away from being marketed, so be patient and then even if you're 80 you'll be able to have the hair of an 18 year old. With this and viagra, old age won't be so bad.
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I'd like to know why? Its difficult for you to fathom why a man might want to make himself more attractive to women, or to keep himself looking good if he does a job like sales...
I find it interesting that women will criticize men who do a few things to improve their appearance, when women spend countless billions of dollars every year on cosmetics, hair products, fake hair and a bunch of other stuff for exactly the same reason. Even so, I wouldn't disrespect any woman who spends a lot of money on her makeup and wigs and stuff. Many women do look better when they use these things. And looking good is a part of feeling good. You find balding men attractive, but a lot of women say that they don't. I think that you should give the hair plugs a chance. You might fall in love with them.
I completely agree, It's funny how women put down men who want to improve their looks, yet men spend so much less. Reminds me of the story about the proud mother who after being pregnant worked out like crazy and posted her pictures showing off her figure. Another got booted from her gym because too many members complained that she intimidated them. They just got reminded they were out of shape or too lazy to make an effort. Of course this gym also had a pizza night for it's members so maybe they cater to people who only want to think they are working out because they joined.
A female friend of mine has repeatedly complained how old her boyfriend looks as his hair is really graying. She told me she wishes he would dye it because he would look so much better.
I've also heard several women make comments " Well at least he has hair on his head" Maybe a man hears this a few times and decides it's important.
If hair isn't important, then why do many women spend so much at salons?
I completely agree, It's funny how women put down men who want to improve their looks, yet men spend so much less.
What kind of women do you hang around who put men down for wanting to improve their looks?
At any rate, I think this is one of those situations where there's a disconnect between what people think everyone wants because they heard somebody say it in passing and because the media pushes it by having people say it on television and in film and in ads all the time and reality, which is that there are billions of people out there, likely millions in a person's city alone, and what they want versus what they'll say they want to follow the crowd greatly varies.
The "public" will appear to want whatever the industry makes it think everyone wants and they sell it. Women and employers hate gray! Dye your hair so you'll be successful in business and get the girl! Wait, now women and employers love salt and pepper hair because it makes you look both young and experienced! Use Touch of Gray instead! Wait, now women are into silver foxes! Embrace your gray! Employers love it! It means you're distinguished!
I meet far more women who think sexy is sexy whether you have a full head of hair or are bald than I do women who feel strongly about it one way or the other, but people wouldn't believe that when you have things like Axe ads making it seem like all women will murder a baby goat just because you've got hair on your head that leans to the left.
And there's a difference between balding and being bald. A bald head is just a bald head. A style. One you either chose because you liked it or because you started to go bald and decided to just shave it all off instead of holding on to strands.
Balding is your hair progressively falling out/failing to regrow. People joke about balding for the same reason they joke about saggy breasts. It's associated with aging and society perpetuates the fear of lost youth through jokes and commentary they may not even subscribe to in their personal lives because aging is something everyone can relate to.
Often when you hear women say, "At least he still has hair on his head", age is what they're talking about more than anything. At least he's not that old or doesn't look like he is. It's like the joke they have old women make, that at their age, an eligible bachelor is a guy with a full head of hair and his own teeth.
It's not meant to slight that guy whose hair started falling out in his 20s. It's just meant to kid about the fact that age touches everyone and if it skipped you in some notable way, you're lucky.
The only time I'd ask a man why he won't get a transplant is if he complains all day every day about having a bald spot. Don't gripe about what you can fix if you're that friggin' concerned about it and can afford it unless you're just against doing so.
But if a guy doesn't take issue with the fact that his hair is starting to take a vacation from his scalp, wondering why he doesn't just get a transplant is akin to asserting that he should and is just being stupid and weird for not doing it. I don't think a man should get transplants any more than I think a woman should wear makeup. I don't care what benefits it yields.
For the record, this older guy I know has a bald head and it looks really hot on him. He said he started balding in his 30s and just decided to cut it all off and he's done that ever since. Something about his baldy fits him and adds to his attractiveness. When I saw pictures of him from before he went bald, I thought he looked ridiculous with hair on his head.
Like anything else, it's gonna come down to the person. I love hair if it looks good on you, I like bald heads if it looks good on you. I don't like those stringy wispy comb over deals though. That's the only thing that turns me off. Let it be. Don't fake it.
If you are bald, shave your head or wear a hat.. Some people goes crazy over being bald, but it amazes me how many ugly, scrawny, fat, chubby or just not good looking guys there are with a full set of hair. Their hair doesn't hide their imperfections. Ironically, some men actually look better being bald then all hairy and scraggly. Some guys got real curly hair or froey hair and just look funky with their hair .. I've met guys who are redheads, for example, who on purpose shave their head, because they hate being "gingers", etc and only could wish to go bald.
Black guys, IMO, always look better with a shaved head or even bald. And many black guys go for that look.
I did have beautiful hair when I had it, but my grandfather's genes caught up with me.. Now, I am balding gracefully. I was always a hat wearer though and so, day-to-day I forget about being bald.. My skull is relatively round and oval , so shaving it looks ok.. I won't lie and say I don't miss the hair, but the hair is no longer part of me and I am not going to stitch them back on my head. I am now happy to be a baldy.
Take care of your body, eat good and keep your face shiny .. Having a bald head for a man is not the end of the world. There are plenty of people with all type of undesirable traits to them. Some people have big noses, huge ears, moles, bad teeth, too short, too tall, big bones, huge hips, tiny hips, etc.
IN the end, you need to be happy with who you are and accept all this BULLSH*T physical perfection is nothing but a bunch of hogwash and vanity. We will all be shriveled up old and ugly one day, even the most beautiful of us. So the sooner you stop worrying about your shortcomings, the better.
Find people who enjoy you for who you are.. Make the best of what you got and stop running to the plastic surgeon or doctors to try to alter the slight imperfections G-d gave you.
Um...if women usually went bald, then yes I imagine most would feel that way.
Frankly, I and many other women think bald is quite attractive. Again, YOUR perceptions and hang ups are yours...not necessarily everyone else's.
A sizable minority of women begins losing hair by age 60. Not one of them (barring the vegetative) is okay with that. While women's hair probably affects their attractiveness more, men aren't a different species. We have feelings, too.
It's not just a matter of money. The process, as I understand it, involves cutting a chunk of flesh from the back of your head, dicing it up, and putting those tiny little pieces consisting of 1-3 hair follicles back into your head, distributed around the balding area. Other than the temporary pain, the downside is that if the person doing this isn't really good, it can look fake (Fake ranging from, "that doesn't quite look right" to "Why does his hair look like that of a $5 doll?"). Another downside, is that you can continue to lose hair, making the pattern of implanted hair look absurd and maybe exposing scars that occurred as part of the process (another poster already pointed out these two items). Also, over time, repeated procedures to keep up with continuing hair loss can have you running out of scalp and have a price that is more like a slightly used Bentley than an average used car.
I heard there is a relatively new method that probably doesn't involve what people would call "cutting." It sounds nearly painless to me. I've also heard it's more expensive (of course) and not as good when it comes to maximizing hair. Also, I don't think scars are supposed to occur in areas that receive hair. In short, I think the risks above are real but overstated.
Someone else rudely made a great point about tangible benefits. I suppose transplants won't lead most men to greater income or more success with women. However, there is a subset of men - including most entertainers - whose attractive depends very much on their hair, where just a receding hairline can really mess it up. Additionally, I think most men are forced into short hair or cover-up hassle as they lose hair (less stigma and hassle for women covering their hair loss), and I think many such men are really bothered by that.
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Can anyone imagine a woman thinking that about her own hair loss?
