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And you seriously believe that Seal did not get made fun of as a child? I would venture to guess he did.
Demi Lovato was also bullied as a child as were many other humans on the planet who have overcome all of that and become very successful.
It is your choice to wallow though instead of doing what you need to do to move past the words of others.
I never said that they were never bullied and I don't know about their cases. I only know about what happened to me and the bullying I got was more severe than you probably assume. I just watched a video about Demi's story and she said some of the stuff that was said to her is still with her today. I only made this thread to get tips on being more attractive, that's it.
The thing about guys is and I and many I know believe this... it is really not about total facial attractiveness. It is ALL about how you carry yourself.
Self assured, positive, friendly, being comfortable in your own skin and that comes with time and experience.
For an 18 y/o guy, I would focus on school, college if that's your direction and planning your career future. Be the best version of you that you can. Believe me, girls/women like a successful, confident guy. Looks can definitely be secondary.
I know good looks aren't everything, I've seen girls before that I thought were attractive that other guys really didn't. I just want to improve the looks I already have. I have been exercising more and trying to get into better shape and eating healthier. I know some guys who say that they sometimes get approached by girls and get stares while in public. I never get those and I want that to change.
You don't have to be the kind of attractive to "get stares."
There is nothing wrong with wanting to improve your appearance. But ... Relationships often come when people get to know YOU and are attracted to different traits that you have. You don't have to look like a movie star to be attractive to people.
You don't have to be the kind of attractive to "get stares."
There is nothing wrong with wanting to improve your appearance. But ... Relationships often come when people get to know YOU and are attracted to different traits that you have. You don't have to look like a movie star to be attractive to people.
I get that and I realize that I'll probably never be movie star attractive. I just want to look good and feel good about my appearance. I'd rather be in a relationship with someone who actually likes me for me rather than some girl who just likes how I look.
And you seriously believe that Seal did not get made fun of as a child? I would venture to guess he did.
Demi Lovato was also bullied as a child as were many other humans on the planet who have overcome all of that and become very successful.
It is your choice to wallow though instead of doing what you need to do to move past the words of others.
I don't find Seal unattractive at all because of his facial scars. We're talking about scars, not facial features and bone structure. That man has gorgeous features. Nevermind that he's a celebrity.
Unattractive celebrities are not a good or fair example here. They have something that balances out their less than ideal looks.
Demi Lovato was never "ugly," either. People or kids can be bullied for a multitude of reasons unrelated to looks.
The OP already stated he's doing the typical things to improve his appearance short of cosmetic surgery. I believe the OP is talking about attractiveness as it pertains to his *looks*, not his overall persona and personality. Yes, charisma and inviting smiles can benefit some people, but not everyone. We don't know what his personality is like, and he could be approachable and charismatic already.
He stated he's black. Most black men keep their hair short (fade, close cut, buzzed), so advising him to change his hair style is moot.
OP, you may be your own worst critic. We don't know what you look like, so it's hard to say what can be improved outside the conventional advice. Will doing these things make you attractive to everyone or most? No. But they can improve your confidence and self-esteem. I won't lie and say looks don't matter at all. I find this sentiment wholly disingenuous and trivializes the very real struggle many people face.
So why can't anyone else including the OP have something else to balance out his life or looks or whatever?
Seal wasn't always a celebrity and he is a good example because of his obvious scars.
If one wants to wallow that is their choice and goodness knows I would hate to discourage one from wallowing instead of looking past the physical appearance and strive for a future as successful as Seal...........
The OP already stated he's doing the typical things to improve his appearance short of cosmetic surgery. I believe the OP is talking about attractiveness as it pertains to his *looks*, not his overall persona and personality. Yes, charisma and inviting smiles can benefit some people, but not everyone. We don't know what his personality is like, and he could be approachable and charismatic already.
He stated he's black. Most black men keep their hair short (fade, close cut, buzzed), so advising him to change his hair style is moot.
OP, you may be your own worst critic. We don't know what you look like, so it's hard to say what can be improved outside the conventional advice. Will doing these things make you attractive to everyone or most? No. But they can improve your confidence and self-esteem. I won't lie and say looks don't matter at all. I find this sentiment wholly disingenuous and trivializes the very real struggle many people face.
You're 18. I think men look better with age.
That's a good point. Most guys have an awkward phase between 16-22 and grow into their looks. I am just thinking about a friend of mine now. He was a little awkward in his teen years, like his features were too big for him. Then in his 20s he grew into his features and looks like a model.
Wait. And play with your facial hair. I'm sure you are cute already!
That's a good point. Most guys have an awkward phase between 16-22 and grow into their looks. I am just thinking about a friend of mine now. He was a little awkward in his teen years, like his features were too big for him. Then in his 20s he grew into his features and looks like a model.
Wait. And play with your facial hair. I'm sure you are cute already!
Yeah, I'm hoping that I start to look better as I age. I do shave but even when I don't, I don't have much facial hair. Just chin hair and a mustache for the most part. Thanks for the advice though, I appreciate it. I have been called handsome before, but mostly by family members though and I figured they're pretty much obligated to do that.
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