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I hear ya, although my gray hair started in my 20's. Also, everything heading south, & weight being harder to control.
I still blows me away about how LITTLE the body changes during those post-menopause years are discussed...so much stuff on puberty, birth control, childbirth, postpartum, perimenopause, menopause...but after all that, nah. Like I'm already dead, so why bother, right?
I'm really glad that I had upper/lower blepharoplasty...highly recommended.
What is that.... actually I thought loads of American women had work done on their faces.. IM quite surprised Im reading we all have the same problems.... I think the body shape and good hair make a difference to how others see us at any age...I have a lovely neighbour in her early 90s who has steely grey hair cut in a modern casual style. she wears jackets and shoes that any age over 30 might wear, shes still quite slim and carries herself well..she has her own teeth... so its not all bad
Gravity on my lower belly where it sags into a roll of fat. It's still there no matter how much weight I lose. (now I understand why some women get lippo-suction done down there lol)
I've hated getting older since I was 13. I just hate the thought of being old. That's my main fear. Oldness.
You know, I wonder about this. Is it the very fact of being old that scares us or is the invisibility of it? If you google terms such as "old age and invisibility", there is much said on the subject, especially for women.
You know, I wonder about this. Is it the very fact of being old that scares us or is the invisibility of it? If you google terms such as "old age and invisibility", there is much said on the subject, especially for women.
My antidote to this is to wear really bright colors, dance crazy and make jokes and laugh loudly wearever I go! People notice.... Of course, it's also hard not to notice someone who is almost as tall as an Amazon like I am... lol
You know, I wonder about this. Is it the very fact of being old that scares us or is the invisibility of it? If you google terms such as "old age and invisibility", there is much said on the subject, especially for women.
I think a nice idea would be to make an effort to friendly acknowledge an elderly person you might see in public, like a grocery store or somewhere. My only problem is that I'm shy and introverted so I rarely do that to anyone period. But it's a good idea, yes? For those of you who are outgoing.
I am post-menopausal and I see changes. I am not going say gray hair because I had that when I was 15 and started coloring my hair at 19-so that hasn't changed.
I have gained weight. I am losing but it is going a lot slower than it used to. So, I wish my metabolism was the same as it was when I was in my 30s. I have lost 10 lbs in the last year. 10 more and I will be close to what I was when I was 40.
My libido is not what it used to be. That is not to say that it is not functioning-because it is very much so. Just not what it used to be. And now lube is a MUST!
But, I think what I fear in terms of my looks: I hate to say this but just looking old. I know it sounds vain but I can't help it. I like to think that I don't look my age. I look at people my age and think, "Wow, they look so much older." I wonder if they think the same way of me. I always joke when people ask me my age, I say, "I'm 146. I lie about my age." (I have been doing that since I was in my 30s.) But, truth be known, I never really lied about my age-I just hate to say it out loud. I often ask people how old they think I am just to see if I do indeed look younger than I am. But, many people don't like to answer that question for fear of offending me. But, they don't realize that I wouldn't be offended because I asked and want an honest answer. And then I will tell them my real age.
I also hope that I don't get age spots. My mother had those and I think I might have one. I think also having wrinkly hands & flabby upper arms.
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People notice....
Of course, it's also hard not to notice someone who is almost as tall as an Amazon like I am... lol
I think also having wrinkly hands & flabby upper arms. 
