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I don't know if I would ever do Botox. Who knows what health problems it may cause in the future. If you were a woman I would tell you to get a haircut with some bangs as bangs are a cheap forehead "lift" but I can't think of any men's styles with bangs.
It happened 2 years ago, right after my gf of 2 years dumped me because I was too old for her. Granted, she was 26 and I was 43, but I felt like we had built something very positive and sustainable.
Anyway, the breakup forced me to look in the mirror and realize that my age was now a determinant in who I was able to have a long term relationship with. Basically, I looked older and there was nothing I could do about it. Meanwhile, my stbx wife was going strong with her younger man who she is now married to. So it was sort of like kicking dirt in my face while I was down.
I did not handle this realization very well. I entered a bit of a self destructive phase, partied too much, had a string of flings with very young women and just became depressed and very lonely. That's when I started therapy and began to recover and accept who I am and appreciate that person.
My late husband was 46 (and looked every bit of it) and I was 26 (looked much younger) when we met. I didn't care about the outward appearance and when you find the right woman she won't care either. Most women are looking for a man with a good personality, a sense of humor and stability in both his business and personal life. She's not going to look at a wrinkle or two on your forehead and think "heck no, he's got wrinkles". :-)
All the Botox in the world isn't going to make a woman love you. Be yourself and stop worrying about a few wrinkles on your forehead.
My late husband was 46 (and looked every bit of it) and I was 26 (looked much younger) when we met. I didn't care about the outward appearance and when you find the right woman she won't care either. Most women are looking for a man with a good personality, a sense of humor and stability in both his business and personal life. She's not going to look at a wrinkle or two on your forehead and think "heck no, he's got wrinkles". :-)
All the Botox in the world isn't going to make a woman love you. Be yourself and stop worrying about a few wrinkles on your forehead.
So even though the OP is specifically and exclusively (per his many posts on CD) targeting significantly younger women, he deserves to find a much younger woman who won't judge him on his age? Because wow, that would be shallow of her. What a loser that woman must be...I mean anyone who would refuse to go out with someone based on age is just...is...
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The ex dumping you based on your age difference plus your ex-wife having a younger man explains a lot, OP. I don't think you need botox, I think you need to continue with your therapy. I mean you can still get the botox, sure, but a few needles are never going to touch what is obviously boiling on the inside. Have the botox because you are curious and you want to try it. But until you fix what is in the inside, no amount of injections will make your heart feel any better.
All the Botox in the world isn't going to make a woman love you. Be yourself and stop worrying about a few wrinkles on your forehead.
This is my mom's opinion as well. Eh, I'm still on the fence. To be honest, if I get a relationship going with one of the girls I'm dating then I'll probably just remain natural. I'll know that they accept me as I am. But if nothing pans out I might give botox a try. I probably sound like a major basket case but I could take botox or leave it. It's not something I need, just something I'm thinking about.
Stop running around in circles and just take a step back, SLOW DOWN, and talk to your therapist. Honestly. Don't tell her what you know she wants to hear and don't throw out tons of catch phrases therapists enjoy. Be 100% honest. STOP all this hysterical tail-chasing and get help *inside* or you will just keep crashing and burning.
I'd do my research on doctors before I'd let one touch me. Go to realselfdotcom and research everything! I have nothing against procedures as long as it's done right and for the right reasons. Trying to attract someone is the wrong way to go. If you're happy with your face now I'd wait until the wrinkles actually appear and just continue the facial regime already in progress. Either way good luck.
Well, as I said, I don't want to change my face. I like my face. But if I can make some subtle improvements then that's appealing to me. As I said, I already get facials and peels to mitigate sun damage, so a little botox placed judiciously I think would be a minor procedure.
Btw, I've already been through my mid life crisis. It was not a fun a time, but I made it through in one piece.
You sound very level-headed, I think you'll do fine and figure out for yourself how much is best.
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