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I think you are being very wise. You said earlier that looks matter, and you are right - they do. I think most people want to feel physically attracted to their mate. The cool thing is, not everyone likes the same thing.
Truth? I have never liked my nose, either. I still don't think it's what most people would call pretty. But...I don't think my nose alone has ever kept me from having a relationship. If it has, well...I guess I dodged a bullet!
I don't think there is anything wrong with plastic surgery, but I do think that it is something one does for oneself, and not to win the approval of others, or to achieve perfection. If that's the goal, it's one that can never be reached, if for no other reason than the fact that everyone has a different standard of beauty.
You sound like a good person. That matters, no matter how much pop culture may tell you it does not.
Thanks..you seem to be the only non shallow one here who doesn't think I should do it lol..shows you where we are as a society..pretty sad
Thanks..you seem to be the only non shallow one here who doesn't think I should do it lol..shows you where we are as a society..pretty sad
I don't think you should do it, but I don't necessarily think you should not do it. I think you should make the decision for the right reasons, and I don't think this idea that a new nose would be a ticket to love and acceptance is a very good reason. I have heard about and read about people who got "work" done, and some loved it. Others did not. I think it is all about your expectations.
I guess what I really mean is this: if you got the surgery to get more dates, and that didn't work, what then? My guess is that you would feel worse than you do now.
Please, please, please learn to love yourself a little just as you are. It's going to be hard for others to do it if you don't do it first.
You are literally throwing out a chance to be more attractive. Something you have been plotzing about for years.
You sound EXACTLY like the overweight woman who refuses to even try to lose weight because she is insulted by the idea that a man might find a skinnier version of her more attractive.
Bull. Most people who are overweight do not require surgery. Also, being fat is unhealthy, and last time I checked, having a less than perfect nose is not.
I've heard of apples and oranges before, but this is apples and sushi.
Thanks..you seem to be the only non shallow one here who doesn't think I should do it lol..shows you where we are as a society..pretty sad
Not necessarily, I went back and reread some of these posts and all people were doing was trying to encourage you to go ahead with what you originally said you wanted. Calling everyone shallow really isn't fair.
I've had friends who have had nose jobs or boob jobs and they are good people who just needed an extra confidence boost. I don't judge them or consider them shallow. Likewise, if you're now against the idea, that's up to you, I'm not judging you either way.
Not necessarily, I went back and reread some of these posts and all people were doing was trying to encourage you to go ahead with what you originally said you wanted. Calling everyone shallow really isn't fair.
Yep. He started the thread with a declaration ...
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Originally Posted by Catgirl64
The level of insecurity I see here is not going to be addressed so easily. What happens if he gets that perfect new nose, and it's not the life-changing event he is hoping for?
.... which is why some plastic surgeons suggest counseling before certain procedures.
You should only get a nose job if it is what you want -- not with the expectation that it will change your life.
I know lots of women who have had nose jobs. In all cases it was to change a nose that didn't seem fit the rest of their face -- delicate features with grandfather's nose.
The men I know wouldn't give their nose shape a second thought.
I have a bump on my nose that I got b/c I fell down the stairs when I was 3.
I think I am attractive so I don't bother with the nose job but there have been men in the past who have said something to me about it, not that I was ugly (I'm not) but that they didn't like it.
If I felt the bump really hindered my looks, I'd get a nose job, but I don't feel like it does and I have no breathing problems so I feel like it doesn't make sense to spend all that $$ (insurance doesn't cover) to get a nose that maybe I won't like.
My nose is me and I have had the bump since I was 3... I am 36 now... it's just part of who I am
I've been thinking about it for years and this huge nose I have has bothered me so much that I'm gonna go through with it to try to expand my dating pool or in my case get an actual date lol.
If you really want to do this for yourself, then DO IT! Absolutely do it! As long as the new look pleases yourself, and you do not expect it to create miracle changes in your life, then you will never look back with regret.
I had surgery of a different sort back in the 80's when the procedure was still fairly new, and if I had to do it all over again I would do it in a heartbeat. Best thing I ever did for myself.
People in their lifetimes spend thousands of dollars at hair salons and manicures and I don't see where that is any different.
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