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View Poll Results: Are You Attractive?
Yes. 68 45.64%
No. 40 26.85%
No, but I think I am. 9 6.04%
Yes, but I think I'm not. 13 8.72%
Other. 19 12.75%
Voters: 149. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 11-02-2019, 11:44 AM
 
Location: Southern California
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Guys tend to think I'm attractive but I think I'm fat, old, and just damn ugly.
I think you look cute, and STOP calling yourself Down...hug and love yourself...you won't get another chance....
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Old 11-02-2019, 12:36 PM
 
Location: British Columbia ~🌄 ☀️ ♥ 🍁 ♥ ☀️🌄~
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I'm really short but not dumpy, and from doing a lot of physical work I still have a fit and shapely enough figure for my age (70's), and I've always had an average looking face which is now getting wrinkles but nothing drastic yet. I'm not fashion conscious, always been more of a jeans and T-shirt gal and I have rough hands from doing daily landscaping and gardening work outdoors for a few hours each day. So I guess on a scale of 1 - 10 I'd say maybe a 4 or 5 but when I'm all made up and spiffed up for some special occasion then I'm a 7. Add some sexy high heels to the outfit to give me some stature and that instantly transforms me into an 8. But I'm really most comfortable being a 5 dressed in jeans and T-shirt, runners and no makeup and not caring what other people think of my appearance.

But I've noticed all my life that no matter how plain faced and dressed down I am, there's other's who demonstrate they find something attractive about me. Strangers' babies on the bus or waiting in line somewhere always give me huge smiles and maintain steady eye contact when they see me. People out walking their dogs always have to pull their dogs away because the dogs immediately approach and wriggle their bodies all over and make such a friendly, excited fuss of me. When I'm out shopping strangers often make eye contact, smile, say hello in passing by me. Sometimes unknown men, even much younger men, will approach out of the blue and strike up friendly chatty conversations with me, very polite, never inappropriate or pushy. The birds and squirrels follow me around when I'm working in the yard and aren't afraid to get close to me.

So I'm thinking that being truly attractive isn't all about sex appeal or looking beautiful (babies and animals don't think about that kind of thing anyway), it's more about being considered friendly in spirit and safe to approach. I've met some men and women (but mostly women) who are physically drop-dead stunning beauties but have let it go to their heads so much they have made themselves ugly in spirit and unapproachable because they think they are perfect and better than others. I wouldn't ever want to be like that even if I was the most beautiful woman in the world.


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Old 11-02-2019, 12:42 PM
 
Location: A Yankee in northeast TN
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I've always been the dreaded "cute', with a fairly decent figure, so dating was never a problem.
Now that I'm older and wider (no, that's not a typo) I'm trying to cultivate the little apple cheeked granny look!

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I was talking one day with my S.O. about Jessica Tandy and what a beautiful woman she was in her later years. I said, "That's my goal. I want to be a beautiful old lady."

He said, "You ARE a beautiful old lady."

Jeez, that reminded me of the call I got at work the other day, from a young customer wanting to speak to that 'cute little old lady' that just helped me (and I was the only female there, lol)

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Old 11-02-2019, 12:56 PM
 
Location: British Columbia ~🌄 ☀️ ♥ 🍁 ♥ ☀️🌄~
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Guys tend to think I'm attractive but I think I'm fat, old, and just damn ugly.

Screenwriter, I don't think you're ugly by any stretch of the imagination. You're not a stunning beauty either but you have a well shaped and very pleasant face, nice complexion, a beautiful, friendly and inviting smile and sparkly, mischievous eyes. If guys think you're attractive, believe them, they are being sincere and seeing the beauty in you that you won't let yourself see. Stop putting yourself down.
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Old 11-02-2019, 06:54 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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I think I am.. I keep myself pretty fit and have decent facial features, good teeth and nice skin. I can be hard on myself, just like many others, and don't always like how I look in photos, but I'm not bad..
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Old 11-03-2019, 06:55 AM
 
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Same here, and I identify with the rest of your post.

I was working in NYC in my early 20s, back in the day before 42nd Street was Disneyfied. The street was filled with pimps, hookers, drug dealers, etc., and when you walked down it, you tried not to catch anyone's eye.

One day one of the locals stepped out to address me as I walked by. He said, "You have a nice body. Face ain't much, but you have a nice body."

I was stunned and upset for about 30 seconds until I realized there was no reason to be upset over a street low-life's remarks.
I've gotten similar remarks, sometimes from friends, lol. When I was younger it would have bothered me.

Your FACE is just the way your skin happens to be shaped around your bones.

And that defines 'race' to a large extent too.

If you thought of just how much time, effort, and importance people put into that little flap of skin, it's amazing.

I mean, some people kill themselves over this stuff. Literally, disfigured people kill themselves, especially if they were once beautiful. And people who think they aren't attractive can be majorly depressed.

Also determines whom people will talk to (both in a romantic sense and non-romantic) and whom people will kill (hate crimes).

Amazing world we live in, ain't it?
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Old 11-03-2019, 08:19 AM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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I've gotten similar remarks, sometimes from friends, lol. When I was younger it would have bothered me.

Your FACE is just the way your skin happens to be shaped around your bones.

And that defines 'race' to a large extent too.

If you thought of just how much time, effort, and importance people put into that little flap of skin, it's amazing.

I mean, some people kill themselves over this stuff. Literally, disfigured people kill themselves, especially if they were once beautiful. And people who think they aren't attractive can be majorly depressed.

Also determines whom people will talk to (both in a romantic sense and non-romantic) and whom people will kill (hate crimes).

Amazing world we live in, ain't it?
Ha, good points, all.

I finally got to the point where it occurred to me that my lack of beauty is other peoples' problem, because they have to look at me. I don't.
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Old 11-03-2019, 08:23 AM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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I've always been the dreaded "cute', with a fairly decent figure, so dating was never a problem.
Now that I'm older and wider (no, that's not a typo) I'm trying to cultivate the little apple cheeked granny look!

Jeez, that reminded me of the call I got at work the other day, from a young customer wanting to speak to that 'cute little old lady' that just helped me (and I was the only female there, lol)
Haha. That happened to a friend of mine. She was about 45 years old, 4'11", and she was wearing a scarf on her head because she'd gone through chemo and preferred the scarves to wigs. She was in the store trying to find a card for a confirmation, and there was a young woman also looking for the same thing but they were out of confirmation cards. The young woman made a call from her cell, and my friend overheard her say, "Hi, Mom, I'm here but they don't have any more cards for a confirmation. There's a little old lady here looking for one, and she can't find them, either."
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Old 11-03-2019, 10:30 AM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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I’m no troll.
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Old 11-03-2019, 11:18 AM
 
Location: colorado springs, CO
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Well, your picture is quite good looking if I do say so myself. It amazes me that you have so many dud dates.
I know; she is GORGEOUS!

I'm surprised at how many people here don't post profile pics.
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