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View Poll Results: Are You Attractive?
Yes. 68 45.64%
No. 40 26.85%
No, but I think I am. 9 6.04%
Yes, but I think I'm not. 13 8.72%
Other. 19 12.75%
Voters: 149. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 11-09-2019, 09:35 PM
 
Location: North Shore Long Island
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It all depends on the day and/or who I’m standing next to.
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Old 11-10-2019, 03:12 PM
 
Location: all over the place (figuratively)
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Sometimes I think so. I'm more consistently okay with my body than my face; my shape is objectively good. I don't think anyone believes I'm ugly (except online, when they dislike my words), but I don't know how highly I'm rated by people in general. I had a weird unwanted experience recently as a shopper with a man giving unsolicited feedback on my appearance (including something like "you're a good-looking guy, no homo"). I do not believe anyone thinks I look great, but I'm open to being wrong about that.
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Old 11-11-2019, 06:24 AM
 
Location: City Data Land
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Sometimes I think so. I'm more consistently okay with my body than my face; my shape is objectively good. I don't think anyone believes I'm ugly (except online, when they dislike my words), but I don't know how highly I'm rated by people in general. I had a weird unwanted experience recently as a shopper with a man giving unsolicited feedback on my appearance (including something like "you're a good-looking guy, no homo"). I do not believe anyone thinks I look great, but I'm open to being wrong about that.
That is so odd; people giving unsolicited feedback on other people's appearance. Who does that? And why? I don't get it.
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Old 11-11-2019, 09:18 AM
 
Location: Florida
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I've told this on CD before, but when I was in High School I thought I was rather plain especially since I had to wear glasses and my two front teeth overlapped a bit. Jump forward 40 years and a former classmate came in to where I was working, we chatted and the next time she was in she brought our High School yearbook since I had mentioned I lost mine in the many moves I had made over the year.

I looked through all the senior pictures and was shocked to discover I was actually one of the prettiest girls in High School but I had such a low self esteem back then that I never realized it.

Now at 64, I am usually taken for mid 50's. I just inherited good genes because I don't do anything special for my skin although I wouldn't mind have a mini facelift and my neck tightened. I have lost 40 pounds in the last 4 years and at my age the skin doesn't bounce back so well.
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Old 11-11-2019, 09:30 AM
 
Location: Colorado
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That is so odd; people giving unsolicited feedback on other people's appearance. Who does that? And why? I don't get it.
I do, but only positive. And only when it seems appropriate, and usually with regard to people's clothing or hair or jewelry or something... But I definitely adhere to the old, "If you don't have something nice to say, then don't say anything at all" concept.

I saw a meme about awkward people trying awkwardly to flirt once, and it showed someone saying to a person they had a crush on, "Your face is good." I say that to people that I know and like sometimes, just because it's silly.
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Old 11-11-2019, 09:46 AM
 
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I do, but only positive. And only when it seems appropriate, and usually with regard to people's clothing or hair or jewelry or something... But I definitely adhere to the old, "If you don't have something nice to say, then don't say anything at all" concept.

I saw a meme about awkward people trying awkwardly to flirt once, and it showed someone saying to a person they had a crush on, "Your face is good." I say that to people that I know and like sometimes, just because it's silly.

I compliment strangers all the time, if there's something about them that stands out, and I like it. If they have a cool hair color, I walk up and I tell them that. If they're carrying an interesting purse, I'll compliment them on the purse. If they have stand-out shoes on, I'll compliment them on their tastes.


Like you, I only say something complimentary. People always seem to respond well to a sincere compliment.
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Old 11-11-2019, 10:10 AM
 
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I also give unsolicited compliments to people in passing. Usually related to clothing or tattoos (I also have several tattoos and appreciate when I see quality work)

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Old 11-11-2019, 01:37 PM
 
Location: all over the place (figuratively)
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I think he said he had a hangover.

But if people never gave unsolicited comments on appearance, most of us would know less about how we're perceived.
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Old 11-16-2019, 07:20 PM
 
Location: Southwest
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How good looking I am varies more in people's judgement compared to the typical person being judged. Take the average man. I guess he is a 5 on a scale of 1 to 10. Many will rate him a 5, some a 6 or 4, and a rare 7 or 3. Lets say for the sake of argument I am a 5. Not as many will rate me a 5. More will rate me a 6 or 4, or a 7 or 3.
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:53 PM
 
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A bit off-topic, but I have noticed that women starting in their 30s start to get a different "look" not in losing their looks or all that but just a different kind of more mature look, kind of hard to explain and in no way saying they look "worse" or anything like that. For example at 33 I find women my age or up much more attractive than these 20-somethings, and my girlfriend at 43 looks stunning to me and yes, she does exercise eats right and certainly knows how to use moisturizer I find her much more attractive than the 20-somethings that just look like girls to me.

From my age on women have a more "womanly" look if that makes any sense.
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