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Old 12-20-2019, 03:50 AM
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Originally Posted by nurider2002 View Post
Sorry but your ignorance is incredibly surprising and more than a little annoying. I assume when you say something or someone looks”gay”, what you really mean is effeminate??? If so, do you really not understand that equating gay with effeminate is a stereotype and, that the vast majority of gay men do not look or act effeminate? Saying something or someone “looks gay” sounds like something a 13 year old from the 1980s would say. Perhaps a man wearing large hoop earrings is considered non gender conforming to many, but that is very different from “gay”, which is a sexual orientation, not an expression of binary gender roles.
I think you didn't understand me. I'm not the one who wrote that looking gay is the same as effeminate. I know many gay people, but not one of them look effeminate. They look just the same as every other man and act most of the time the same. To be honest, and what I also heard from other people, most of the time they're more friendly than straight man.

No, the problem is that many people say that wearing big hoop earrings looks gay. I didn't understand. But that's because they call everything what's looks effeminate, or what they 'address' to women, gay. So that's what they mean.

But isn't wearing big hoop earrings effeminate because we only see women wearing them? Because what's effeminate about hoop earrings after all? It aren't dangling earrings or something like that. I think those earrings are really, or more, effeminate.
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Old 12-20-2019, 04:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Zoisite View Post
George Michael was gay though and in that picture you posted he was very young and pretty and was deliberately promoting the effeminate gay boy look. So no matter how people's attitudes of acceptance may change with changing times, if any man deliberately promotes that effeminate gay look that is how other people are going to perceive it. People believe what their eyes tell them. So you need to decide if that is what you want. Do you want to look like an effeminate gay and have other people believe you are gay? Does it bother you that people will think you are gay?

Perhaps your compelling desire and joy that you get from wearing hoops in you ears, and your thinking that George Michael at that time looked so cool (cool translates to desirable), is an indication that you actually are gay and are in denial about it. If that's the case then the hoops or the size of the hoops is not the issue, the issue is you coming to terms and being honest with yourself.
I’m not gay. 100% sure. If I was gay, I would have noticed it before.

Sure, George Michael looked young and beautiful at that picture. But I didn’t love the way he looked. Not that I was old enough to remember him at that moment, but when I saw this clip in the 90’s. He just looked too good for a man. At that moment it also wasn't obvious that he was gay. The song Careless Whisper is from 1984 and he told the world in 1998 that he was gay.

What I meant was that everybody loved him. Because of his songs and the way he looked. But he was also wearing two hoops earrings, something only women did in the 80's. So what he showed the world was a female man, with, probably, a soft, sensitive side. But in that time is wasn’t cool to be sensitive. Because off the cold war you' ll had to be tough. So, in hindsight, I really think the way he looked back in those days was pretty cool. But later he also looked good, more like a real man or how man look nowadays. Beside of the fact that he was wearing only one hoop earring, what I don't like.
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Old 12-20-2019, 04:50 AM
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If George Michael was young at this time, I think he looked like this women. Or at least wearing the same hoop earrings.

That's based on the fact that his hair was always a bit 'better' than the hair a any other man. It was pretty long, especially in the beginning, and had very much volume.

His hoops where also (much) bigger than the hoops of any other man. And because men wear bigger hoops now that in the 80's, like me of about 1" and the hoops of the man in those days where very small, almost invisible, I'm pretty sure it have to be these hoops.

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Old 12-20-2019, 08:21 AM
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Originally Posted by Zoisite View Post
Historically all jewelry and styles of jewelry have been symbols that tell a story about the social status of the wearers. In western society today most people have lost sight of the true historical symbolism of the various types of jewelry but some types of jewelry never lose their meanings. Diamonds for example.

Both men and women who wear diamonds wear them as a status symbol to impress and demand respect from other people. The diamonds indicate the high monetary status and social value they already have achieved or, in the case of fake diamonds it represents the high status and value that they aspire to but have not yet achieved. It's a psychological trick that people play on themselves, it really has nothing to do with their sexual orientation or whether or not the diamonds do anything to enhance their physical features and appearance. Diamonds have always been one of the very highest of social status symbols for people throughout history, the bigger the diamonds are the higher the status they have or at least want others to think they have.

Hoop earrings for both men and women are another social status symbol that historically have most commonly been worn by minorities of any race as communal symbols that signal resistance against poverty, slavery, oppression and disrespect. Again, it had nothing to do with sexual orientation or enhancement of appearance.
This is one of the most interesting things I’ve read about earrings. Thank you very much.

I didn’t realize that there’s a difference between diamond earrings and hoop earrings. In my opinion it where both earrings. But I never wanted to wear diamond earrings. Or fake diamond earrings, because I can’t pay real ones, as worn by famous guys like Cristiano Ronaldo. I always liked the fact that he wears earrings, but not the earrings he’s wearing. They make him look like “See me, see how great, important and good I’m”. And I hate that.

No, I always wanted to wear hoop earrings. From the moment I pierced my ears.

My hoop earrings aren’t meant to show to other people. They are meant to make me happy. Because I really love them. So I wouldn't have a problem if nobody saw them. In fact, when I start wearing big hoop earrings, I wish that nobody have sees them. So I don't have to be ashamed wearing hoop earrings that are normally worn by women/girls. And explain that I'm not gay or want to be a women.

But are my big hoop earrings a symbol for something? Or meant to be? The best things I can imagine are oppression and disrespect. When I was young, I wasn’t the most handsome guy. And I wasn’t very tall either. So, because I was bullied a lot, I had a very hard time. And even while my results at school were great, nobody had any faith in me too.

So, after all, I think that's what drives me to wear big hoop earrings. And is my passion, or obsession, to wear them not the result of showing people that I made it. But to show/celebrate that I survived.

By the way, nowadays I’m pretty tall and muscular (I’m in the gym once a week). And I’m having a damn good job too.
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Old 04-03-2020, 03:06 PM
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No, no no.

This looks incredibly tacky on men, so unless you're a drag queen, don't do it..
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Old 04-21-2020, 11:35 PM
Location: Boston, MA
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Have you worn them since you started this thread? If so, how do you feel about wearing them?

The end result is what matters to you and how it makes you feel when you wear them. Be comfortable and happy with your choices, otherwise you're just lying to yourself.

If you haven't worn them yet, I would suggest start off wearing them in places you are comfortable, so you get used to it/gain the confidence to be comfortable with your style choices.

You do you, and be happy with your choices!

I will never understand why someone has to judge another person's fashion choices..
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Old 04-22-2020, 12:14 AM
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I have the opposite feeling about hoop earrings- I hate them. Large or small, I think they’re a horrible look. For me they can ruin and entire outfit. Same thing for very long dangling earrings or very wide earrings.
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Old 04-22-2020, 10:52 AM
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Old 04-22-2020, 12:42 PM
Location: Islip,NY
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I think big hoop earrings look weird on men especially in both ears if you had diamond stud in one ear that might be an ok look but then again diamond a stud earring in a man's one ear went out in the 1990's.Anyway to each his own. If my husband decided to do this (he wouldn't dare!) I honestly would laugh.
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Old 04-22-2020, 09:33 PM
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Prince wore one hoop earring. I copied his style during the Purple Rain era but I wouldn't be caught dead in it 2020. I did however wear two diamond studs after I got rid of the one hoop earring
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