I want to wear big hoop earrings, as a man. What do you think? [MERGED] (Walmart, male)
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If you're okay with the person you're having sex with won't anymore and the organization that employs you gives you a pink slip.
Let's not pretend that "screw what anybody else thinks" doesn't have a price tag attached. A hefty price tag.
I know. It's so "judgy". Reality is.
I agree with the hefty price tag. So I’m having a hard time, making a choice between what I want and what’s wise to do.
I’m not scared that people think it’s gay. I never see gay people with big hoop earrings. So I think they say it’s gay, because they have no other word for it.
I’m more afraid that people think that I rather be a girl/women (what’s not true). Because this evokes much more resistance, it’s much more difficult. And makes it more complicated to wear big hoop earrings.
Or strange people make a picture of me with their cell phone. And start laughing about what they’ve just photographed.
I don’t give a rats patooty if a person is gay, but I would never EVER want to date someone that looked or dressed gay. That isn’t “being judgy”. It’s called PERSONAL PREFERENCE. Learn the difference.
I agree with the hefty price tag. So I’m having a hard time, making a choice between what I want and what’s wise to do.
I’m not scared that people think it’s gay. I never see gay people with big hoop earrings. So I think they say it’s gay, because they have no other word for it.
I’m more afraid that people think that I rather be a girl/women (what’s not true). Because this evokes much more resistance, it’s much more difficult. And makes it more complicated to wear big hoop earrings.
Or strange people make a picture of me with their cell phone. And start laughing about what they’ve just photographed.
I sometimes wear hoops but they aren't great big ones. But ya, the gay scene likes hoops so expect some guys to hit on you. As said before, you do you. Guys straight or not have been wearing hoops for 50 years. No one really cares and you shouldn't either.
If you're okay with the person you're having sex with won't anymore and the organization that employs you gives you a pink slip.
If the latter, depending on where you live and what precedents are in place, you might have some legal recourse if the employer was being discriminatory (especially if worn off the job or you weren't in violation of any dress code). Nonetheless, if the employer does not let anyone in that position wear big earrings (regardless of gender), especially if the rule exists for a safety reason, etc. then you could be canned with impunity for wearing them on the job.
Last edited by KellyXY; 12-05-2019 at 07:35 AM..
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I sometimes wear hoops but they aren't great big ones. But ya, the gay scene likes hoops so expect some guys to hit on you. As said before, you do you. Guys straight or not have been wearing hoops for 50 years. No one really cares and you shouldn't either.
I'm totally not familiar with the gay scene. I know some gay guys, from work, but they look like normal man. Most of them don't even wear earrings at all. So if people say that big hoops are for gay people, that's new to me.
What I know about the gay scene is that they want to express themselves more. With behavior, clothes and, yes I guess so too, earrings. But are it specifically big hoop earrings? Personally I think striking earrings. And that could be big hoop earrings.
And yeah, may be I'm more concerned about what what people think about big hoop earrings than what I should be. And just put them into my ears.
If the latter, depending on where you live and what precedents are in place, you might have some legal recourse if the employer was being discriminatory (especially if worn off the job or you weren't in violation of any dress code). Nonetheless, if the employer does not let anyone in that position wear big earrings (regardless of gender), especially if the rule exists for a safety reason, etc. then you could be canned with impunity for wearing them on the job.
I work as a civil servant at the office of the local government. Most of the women wear earrings, some even big ones. So I think, in that way, it's no problem wearing big hoop earrings.
But at the office no men who wears earrings. Those men work outside, as gardener or something like that.
But I don't need to wear big hoop earrings at work. The hoops I wear nowadays are oké. Alltough it would be nice, wearing big hoops at work. So I'm considering about it. And may be, when I feel complaince with them, I will.
I agree with the hefty price tag. So I’m having a hard time, making a choice between what I want and what’s wise to do.
I’m not scared that people think it’s gay. I never see gay people with big hoop earrings. So I think they say it’s gay, because they have no other word for it.
I’m more afraid that people think that I rather be a girl/women (what’s not true). Because this evokes much more resistance, it’s much more difficult. And makes it more complicated to wear big hoop earrings.
Or strange people make a picture of me with their cell phone. And start laughing about what they’ve just photographed.
Yes. People will look at you. Maybe you don’t think it looks gay, but for sure it looks like “ I wanna be a girl”. It simply does. Maybe not to everyone, but I would say that it does to most. Like a man wearing high heels. Or a dress. Yeah I know there are people that love to rant “OMG get over your gender issues!”. (As far as I’m concerned, they have more of a problem than I do.) But like it or not, we are not androgenous...we are men and women. And we all have our perceptions or expectations or whatever...of men and of women. Of course they are individual and unique to a degree, but they are there. To not make a judgement about someone based on their behavior, appearance, voice, WHATEVER, is to not be human. It’s how we live and survive - that learning by experience thing. Read the book Blink, if you haven’t.
The price tag will be high, as the other poster stated. But that’s up to you.
Last edited by ChessieMom; 12-05-2019 at 10:47 AM..
If the latter, depending on where you live and what precedents are in place, you might have some legal recourse if the employer was being discriminatory (especially if worn off the job or you weren't in violation of any dress code).
Going through legal recourse is a perfect example of a hefty price tag.
I agree with the hefty price tag. So I’m having a hard time, making a choice between what I want and what’s wise to do.
I’m not scared that people think it’s gay. I never see gay people with big hoop earrings. So I think they say it’s gay, because they have no other word for it.
I’m more afraid that people think that I rather be a girl/women (what’s not true). Because this evokes much more resistance, it’s much more difficult. And makes it more complicated to wear big hoop earrings.
Or strange people make a picture of me with their cell phone. And start laughing about what they’ve just photographed.
Well you’ve answered your question, it seems to me. You do care, and the price you would pay is too much for you. If a lot of other, attractive men were wearing hoop earrings, it would be easier. As it is now, it is hard.
I’ve thought about your question. I am on record as believing people should wear what they want to, assuming their choices are within the boundaries of decency. But I really do have a problem with a guy wearing large hoop earrings. It is probably because it is something not seen. It is highly unusual. And hoop earrings are regarded as feminine. The fact that you posted about this asking a question makes me feel that you aren’t really ready to do this yourself.
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This might start a new trend, kind of like when men started wearing diamond stud earrings.
