My answer to the original question is "yes I guess not", lollol
I don't stick to script anymore --- I'm long since retired, Imdont have to, lol
nobody bakes pies better than my SIL -- she packs them in a huge canning pot to make the 11 hour drive.
I buy a spiral ham but still make a large roaster full of my grandmother's sage stuffing minus those awful giblets.
We make real mashed potatoes and I bought real mashed sweet potatoes from a local BBQ place that are the best I have ever eaten.
There were other side dishes.
Everybody was happy, nobody complained the meal wasn't totally traditional --- probably because real butter was used in everything that needed butter and mine is a family that loves to eat