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The man in my wife's life is cooking. But, he always cooked.
I enjoyed cooking since before I got married at age 22. Now, we both cook. She cooks more than me, and she does more of other things than I do, too. Of course, I do more of different things than she does. It all evens out. We are happy.
Ha, ha, no. He actually likes frozen meals, canned soup, lunchmeat. He will grill anything during the warmer months, however. Of course I always do the prep work beforehand.
He can make coffee, however. And, he can make baked potatoes.
Similar here, except that he can scramble eggs and doesn’t bake potatoes. I did have to train him on heat for grilling meats and to NOT slice into items just removed from the heat.
Our generations had the middle school (what was called junior high back then, grades 7 and 8 in our town) boys take shop and the girls take home ec. This makes a difference in “basic training” that sometimes lasts for decades.
And I'm from the generation that had junior highs and not middle schools, took shop, AND I know how to cook (and taught my wife how to boil an egg!)
Boom - broken stereotype.
It WAS called junior high in my generation. I used the newer term so people would know what ages were involved.
Anyway, even then IF a boy wanted to take home ec and IF a girl wanted to take shop instead of the defaults, he or she could do so. However, no boys ever took home ec during the time I was in junior high, and ONE girl took shop.
Some people later try to learn the skills they missed out on, other people do not. Whatever works for the couple in question, that’s perfectly OK, stereotype or not. BTW, I don’t care for the thread title either, but it does apply to a fair percentage of couples of that generation.
What an insulting thread... apparently men aren't capable of cooking? Dumb.
I prepare 95% of all our meals, the rest are split between eating out and my wife cooking. A man who can't (or won't) cook isn't much of a man by my opinion, and even less of a "partner".
How about we start a thread "Is the woman in your house actually working now?" ~ lets see how well That one would fly?
Lol! Good on you Brian!
This is truly a rather sexist thread.
I grew up as the youngest of three. My mother was a prototypical American housewife for the time 1950's-60's. My father worked a lot, so he wasn't in the kitchen much at all. But when I was 14 my mother passed away suddenly. My brother and sister had already left the nest, so it was just dad and myself. His role drastically changed, but unfortunately he was a lousy cook, he tried but everything was cooked on high heat, so, much was ... burned. After a couple months of this I decided to become the house cook. It wasn't easy at first, but I latched onto a couple cookbooks, and found this cooking thing wasn't just utilitarian, I enjoyed it. So now nearly 50 years later, I'm still the main cook in our house. My wife and I are both retired, so we have time but she prefers me to cook most of our meals and that's fine by me as I have the luxury most cooks only dream of..... I have someone to clean up after my cooking escapades!
What this thread should have been about is.... What works best in your kitchen?
I'm actually astounded by this thread. I'm also somewhat offended. I perceive it as a generational gap. I'm thinking a lot of the posters on it are 55+ or 60+ women who came up in a different time. Due to the fact that they came up in a different time, biological sex roles were different and perhaps many defied the odds and kept a marriage afloat for 25+ years.
I'm in my mid-30s. I have never married. I have never lived with any of my girlfriends. I started having to fend for myself with meals once I moved out of the college dorm. I soon realized that I would have to learn some amount of meal preparation, at least until I had a wife or a live in girlfriend. By the time I turned 26, I had a decent repertoire as a cook. At some point, after more experience in dating and reading about the current state of romantic relationships, I realized the transience of romantic relationships. In this era, I shouldn't expect anything to last a long time. Given that societal sea change, I knew that cooking would be a regular part of my life.
I have no idea what the future holds for me. I know that I am now a decent cook and am good at the grocery store. Because I've been handling the meal preparation process for ~15 years, I feel comfortable with it. I would retain that role in a live in girlfriend or wife situation.
I'm observing now in the Millennial generation (and possibly Gen Z) that many men are decent cooks and many women's cooking skills are diminishing.
Yes. Older men might well not cook. Or they might. It isn’t as if there is some rule that they won’t. I know an old guy who cooks regularly.
My DH lacks the affinities you need to be a good cook. And he is not a good taster. He prioritizes convenience over other things. He has other talents.
The previous generation of men probably would do even less in the kitchen, if my father and FIL were indications. Kitchen work was “women’s work.”
I believe that cooking is a valuable life skill that eveyone needs to learn. All my kids can cook.
Similar here, except that he can scramble eggs and doesn’t bake potatoes. I did have to train him on heat for grilling meats and to NOT slice into items just removed from the heat.
Our generations had the middle school (what was called junior high back then, grades 7 and 8 in our town) boys take shop and the girls take home ec. This makes a difference in “basic training” that sometimes lasts for decades.
I do remember middle school home ec. DH went to a rural school that had no shop or home ec. I honestly do not think he has a talent for cooking. He has other talents.
Not everyone has an affinity for cooking. Some people really do simply eat to live.
I'm actually astounded by this thread. I'm also somewhat offended. I perceive it as a generational gap. I'm thinking a lot of the posters on it are 55+ or 60+ women who came up in a different time. Due to the fact that they came up in a different time, biological sex roles were different and perhaps many defied the odds and kept a marriage afloat for 25+ years.
I'm in my mid-30s. I have never married. I have never lived with any of my girlfriends. I started having to fend for myself with meals once I moved out of the college dorm. I soon realized that I would have to learn some amount of meal preparation, at least until I had a wife or a live in girlfriend. By the time I turned 26, I had a decent repertoire as a cook. At some point, after more experience in dating and reading about the current state of romantic relationships, I realized the transience of romantic relationships. In this era, I shouldn't expect anything to last a long time. Given that societal sea change, I knew that cooking would be a regular part of my life.
I have no idea what the future holds for me. I know that I am now a decent cook and am good at the grocery store. Because I've been handling the meal preparation process for ~15 years, I feel comfortable with it. I would retain that role in a live in girlfriend or wife situation.
I'm observing now in the Millennial generation (and possibly Gen Z) that many men are decent cooks and many women's cooking skills are diminishing.
Too much salt in the soup this morning:>)
My grandfather was a cook. His kitchen uniform were suit pants, suspenders, wife beater and a chefs apron accessorized with the everlasting cold cigar. The kitchen door was a half door with a serving ledge. Women were allowed for clean up or to make strudel.
My father would have starved to death in front of a full refrigerator. But he knew his way around wine and chef's tables.
SO can cook, sew, garden, iron, balance a check book AND fix everything I manage to break.
I think the man in my life is actually cooking less. He's an excellent cook, grew up cooking, and at various times when we were raising our kids, was the main dinner cook. Since we retired we've been equally sharing the cooking duties. He normally has no problem deciding what to have for a meal, going shopping for it and then preparing it, but I think he's having a hard time dealing with the current constraints of cooking with the food we have on hand, and coming up with ideas. Though he's not offering to cook dinner on a regular basis at the moment, he's still great with baking, and will make crusts for a quiche or pastries/breads at the drop of a hat. Too often.
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