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Are the happy couple foodies, by any chance? Or are potlucks a custom in their social group? Or did they meet at a potluck?
I don't have any issues with it, if it's a relatively casual wedding. I'd probably take something like Not Yo Mama's Banana Pudding and carry it in a cooler with an ice pack (can you tell I've done this kind of thing before, just not for a wedding?).
Never heard of a pot luck wedding before. If you go I would make the bean salad as suggested. Wonder if you have to give a wedding gift too. Kinda tacky if you ask me
I really see nothing wrong with this. Provided, the rest of wedding is a simple affair. Happen to know a Soldier, who is getting married, when he gets back, from the warzone, and this is "the plan"...Pot Luck.......
(friends, family, food & fun...............)
If you get there, and it's a 15 tux wedding, that's another issue!
I'm getting the feeling that you don't know the couple very well at all, if you don't know why they're doing it this way. (Which is somewhat unusual, yes, but not unheard of.) Why were you invited? If my analysis is true and you don't know them well enough, perhaps if such a wedding makes you uncomfortable, you could beg off without causing too much uproar?
Great responses! I hate to say anything critical of how someone celebrates their wedding, but in my world, yes, this is tacky!!! It is a (not close) relation of my bf. We realized this morning that the wedding is the same weekend we were planning on going camping so he's going to feel out the family and make sure they aren't going to be irritated if we don't go. I've only met the bride once, briefly, at her little brother's graduation. Neither I nor bf have met the groom. I think they are just having a very simple, casual wedding celebration. There is nothing wrong with that but IMO if they can't or don't want to hire a caterer, they should only ask close family to bring food (ie parents of the bride and groom, best friends, siblings, etc.).
Thanks to those who posted food suggestions, so if we end up going I have some ideas of what to do!
Clearly you and your boyfriend's relation travel in different "worlds" (and to me, it's not "tacky", just "different" - I personally feel that overblown weddings that break the bank are tacky) and, given that and the fact that you're feeling judgmental about how they choose to celebrate their union, I think this (seeing if you can get out of going) is a wise decision, because you'd be tempted to be judging the couple and those that happily participate and that's no way to attend a wedding!
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