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My uncle was an executive chef and I learned at a very early age how to cook. There are many times when I'm invited over as a guests or sometimes guests cook over my house and there are several things I to say that would teach and improve the dish. Despite being respectful, "That's really good, I think XXX would make it even better", I've that to be a utter failure. I think it's the "this is how I've always done it/it's my families tradition to keep this was" and the fact being take it as criticism. I welcome constructive criticism when I cook and have learned some great things I didn't know. On the other hand, recently I went to party and delegated to man the grill. Food was being grilled expertly. Some guy comes randomly over and says with a beer in, "what you cooking?" I answered burger and bawts, he responds "cool, don't burn them". I took offense as none of the prior food was burned nor was any of the food in any danger of being burnt...I responded "as you can see I haven't burned anything nor plan on it; would telling you my secrets help you not burn food in the future?" He puzzled and said "I don't burn food" and stormed off. Here we were, both offended. lol
No.
If I knew you were a cood cook, I might ask your opinion, but otherwise, no. Since YOU were offended when someone instructed you, why would you think anyone else wants to hear your criticizms?
To answer you question though--unsolicited advice is usually not welcomed. Solicited advice might or might not be.
If I were to say, "I can never figure out why this doesn't turn out," then you can give your advice. For example...you never cut bread when it's fresh out of the oven. One day, while working at a Subway, a customer wanted a sandwich out of bread that had just come out of the oven. I tried to dissuade him, but he insisted. Now he knows why you just don't do it.
No.
If I knew you were a cood cook, I might ask your opinion, but otherwise, no. Since YOU were offended when someone instructed you, why would you think anyone else wants to hear your criticizms?
You missed my point. The guy just met me and chose to ignore proof that prior grilled food was not burn, felt the need to verbalize his mistrust for me. If the prior grilled food was burnt (I would of thrown it out) I would of welcomed the advice.
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Originally Posted by Linson
yes. it's always okay.
Please elaborate.
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Originally Posted by TKramar
Um, I'd guess the guy was joking/teasing.
I probably would have responded with: "Only yours..."
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Originally Posted by LaceyEx
Of the two of you-I think you were the offensive one. Maybe the guy was just starting conversation.
I would never presume to advise or correct someone when I am their guest.
Ya, I was just in shock. He was older and I probably had attended a few recent "burger burns" where younger guys were cooking. lol
Anyways, to get back on topic. Some examples I can think of is when people used boxed potatoes, garlic powder instead of real garlic, not browning meat, etc...
Not everyone cooks the same nor does everyone have the same tastes.
It is rude to go to someone's house and criticize someone else's cooking. If you do not like something avoid it. Maybe everyone else liked it the way the cook prepared it.
You seem to have gotten offended when someone said don't burn them.
We had company one day and the husband starting criticizing the second my husband lit the grill...he felt that he could have done a better job and this was before he knew what we were serving.....got all macho when the grill got turned on. This was someone I had only met twice.
You come off to me as sounding so much more superior than everyone else.
I am sure you will correct my post as you have done everyone else's here or argued with everyone.
You asked an opinion of people and they gave you one.
You're pushy with your opinions and you take offense too easily. Not a good combination to present to the world if you want to stay on people's invite list.
I am sure you will correct my post as you have done everyone else's here or argued with everyone.
Since you asked so nicely...lol
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Originally Posted by crazyworld
Not everyone cooks the same nor does everyone have the same tastes.
Fully agree...
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Originally Posted by crazyworld
It is rude to go to someone's house and criticize someone else's cooking. If you do not like something avoid it. Maybe everyone else liked it the way the cook prepared it.
I'm not sure if you understood the title of this topic...I never said "criticize"...I agree that it would be rude to tell someone there recipe sucks, again, that's not what the discussion is about. It's about educating people to make a better final product.
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Originally Posted by crazyworld
You seem to have gotten offended when someone said don't burn them.
I WAS offended and stated that in post one. I was offended that someone blindly critized. It's me telling someone when you walk, don't fall down.
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Originally Posted by crazyworld
We had company one day and the husband starting criticizing the second my husband lit the grill...he felt that he could have done a better job and this was before he knew what we were serving.....got all macho when the grill got turned on. This was someone I had only met twice.
You come off to me as sounding so much more superior than everyone else.
Is there any way to have better food without sounding superior? My goal is to have better food, not to improve my ego...
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Originally Posted by crazyworld
I am sure you will correct my post as you have done everyone else's here or argued with everyone.
You asked an opinion of people and they gave you one.
IMO you were wrong.
There's no need for anyone to take any offense to my posts. This is a discussion and I wanted multiple opinions and viewpoints. I'm confused, what am I wrong about, getting offended by the "don't burn" guy?
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