What's wrong with being a "picky" eater? (hamburgers, Cheesecake, bread)
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I agree TexasHorseLady! There's a difference between having personal standards, and being picky. It's so insulting when I've spent all this time and effort to prepare something I'm proud of to my guests just to have them sit there and pick half of it out or refuse to eat it! Grow up!! I don't even let my kids act like that.
However, refusing to eat Spagetteos at home or turning your nose up at buying Folgers coffee is another thing. And yes, I've been served both at a friends' house and what did I do? I said "Thank You"!!
I'm really still curious if any of you have actually experienced someone being rude when being served something they don't like as a guest in someone's home. Excluding kids.
Funny how I began this thread asking, from looking at previous threads, why people have such a hate for picky eaters (as I said, there's one where a woman is complaining about her husband not liking condiments). Somehow it has turned into a thread about eating over at someone's house...and about manners more than anything.
This is a little off-topic from my original question, but I'm curious...
I've seen you all mention medical reasons as an acceptable reason to be "picky" about what one eats. Just throwing it out there... what if it is for religious and/or moral reasons? The primary reason I don't eat meat is due to digestive issues I get when I do... but what if someone was a vegetarian SOLELY for moral reserves. Is that just foolish?
Or what if someone kept kosher and requested that dairy and meat items be kept separate? Now I know that if you want to get technical, people that truly keep kosher probably wouldn't be eating over at someone's home that doesn't keep kosher already due to mixing of plates and utensils and such--but I just know of a Jewish friend of mine that used to not eat dairy and meat together at the same time, and refrain from pork or shellfish. Would she annoy you in her preferences, or would her "religious" beliefs grant her a reprieve?
No, as you said, this would be unlikely to happen, but I have no issues with food preferences for religious reasons.
OK, here's the bottom line for me. Anyone raised with manners will eat what is put before them without comment. Or, at the worst, will leave it on their plate without comment.
If you are a guest, shut up and eat it, or if you are so picky you can't, just stay home and spare everyone else from your idiosyncracies.
Somehow it has turned into a thread about eating over at someone's house...and about manners more than anything.
Because, as many posters have already said (at least once): how you eat at home or by yourself doesn't matter to anyone.....
YOU asked what bothered people about them - how people eat at home, or by themselves doesn't bother anyone that I can tell, what bothers people IS the manners of SOME picky eaters....how many more explanations do we need to go through?
I don't understand this attitude. I find picky eaters annoying at times, but isn't the point of serving food to a guest making the guest happy? And if the guest doesn't like your food, it's his or her fault? I think if you do something for others with the expectation that they will appreciate you for it, you're really doing it for yourself. If the guests don't eat the food you make, you have more of it for yourself, which should be a good thing, and the guest doesn't have to eat food he or she doesn't like. The alternative is that the guest forces down food he doesn't enjoy so that the host feels gratified for serving it. It doesn't make any sense when you think about it.
NO! The point of serving food to a guest is to give love through one's effort. If a person goes to the trouble of cooking for me, then I will most certainly try to like it whether I do or not.
Because, as many posters have already said (at least once): how you eat at home or by yourself doesn't matter to anyone.....
YOU asked what bothered people about them - how people eat at home, or by themselves doesn't bother anyone that I can tell, what bothers people IS the manners of SOME picky eaters....how many more explanations do we need to go through?
As I mentioned in the original post and several times since, I AM talking about people eating in their own homes. This thread can serve as an example: //www.city-data.com/forum/food-...cky-eater.html
This thread is about a husband who doesn't like condiments. Even if you just look through the first few replies, you'll see people saying he sounds childish, even obsessive. The OP in that thread says nothing about manners or eating at other peoples' homes, and yet, from the replies, you would think that this is the sort of thing that could end a relationship.
Nothing's wrong with it unless it's a problem for you and you alone. Nobody else can tell you or influence what you do or don't like unless you are a pushover. So enjoy what you like and if others take offence because of it tell them to grow up. If I eat at a friends house and I don't like something I just politely say that I don't down to "personal preference" and nobody has ever had a problem with it.
One thing I will say though is at least try anything once before you know that you "don't like it". Hopefully we are all adults here and mature enough to know our own mind about what we do and don't like, and make it understood politely knowing how easily some will take offence. We aren't children, people are different and like different things, accept it!!
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Originally Posted by arsbadmojo
It bothers me for a variety of reasons. Most of all it seems very childish. Closed-minded. Rude.
LOL.
Knowing what you do or don't like isn't "childish". Presumably if someone doesn't like something they know due to experience. Close minded? No. No more than you are for not be interested in anything you might not be interested in or might not like, food or not.
Rude? People can be perfectly polite about it. People can be rude in absolutely any situation. Your point is nullified.
OK, here's the bottom line for me. Anyone raised with manners will eat what is put before them without comment. Or, at the worst, will leave it on their plate without comment.
If you are a guest, shut up and eat it, or if you are so picky you can't, just stay home and spare everyone else from your idiosyncracies.
Ding! Ding! Ding! gentlearts hit the nail on the head.
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