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Still, a person ought to remember the date on which they married someone! Invitations or not.
I can understand how you could feel that way. I am able to close the chapter, the book and toss it in the burn barrel.
The chaplain in boot camp told us that within a year, 70% of us would be married. Of that number, 60% hadn't even met the guy yet. We all looked around and silently proclaimed him crazy. No. So that one lasted about 10 months. I would have liked it to have lasted forever but it was crowded with the three of us: me, him, his gf from back home. See? Stupid me. I'll admit it.
And there's more. Nothing about my life has been "normal". I'll just go through the monotony. Serves me right. Thanks again for the input. (I sound like Eeyore.)
I don't understand why, if these were your marriages, you don't know the dates and places of the marriages? Even 34 years ago and 22 years ago, it's not like remembering what you had for lunch. You got married! Am I missing something? If you send for a copy of a vital record and don't know the exact date, how would the records entity accept that you are who you say you are, and that this is your record?
If it was something she wanted to forget about at one point, I think it's completely understandable, especially the date. When I was in college, I had a horrible roommate who bullied me. It's only 16 years later and I can't remember her name for the life of me. I LIVED with her, and that time period was a huge part of my life, and I can't remember her name. Why? It was a horrible experience I just wanted to forget about, so I pushed it out of my mind until I did.
I can understand blocking out bad memories to some extent but marriages and divorces need to be treated differently. As much as they may seem to be, they aren't just personal events one can choose to remember or forget. They're also business transactions in the sense that there are many practical and legal reasons for needing to remember the details of them. I can see the details/official documents possibly being needed in custody cases, when getting remarried, pensions and Social Security claims, life insurance claims, inheritances, etc. It's fine (but sad) to toss your wedding attire, photos, etc., in the garbage if that's what you want but you still need to remember the basic info. about when you got married or divorced.
I can understand blocking out bad memories to some extent but marriages and divorces need to be treated differently. As much as they may seem to be, they aren't just personal events one can choose to remember or forget. They're also business transactions in the sense that there are many practical and legal reasons for needing to remember the details of them. I can see the details/official documents possibly being needed in custody cases, when getting remarried, pensions and Social Security claims, life insurance claims, inheritances, etc. It's fine (but sad) to toss your wedding attire, photos, etc., in the garbage if that's what you want but you still need to remember the basic info. about when you got married or divorced.
I can understand blocking out bad memories to some extent but marriages and divorces need to be treated differently. As much as they may seem to be, they aren't just personal events one can choose to remember or forget. They're also business transactions in the sense that there are many practical and legal reasons for needing to remember the details of them. I can see the details/official documents possibly being needed in custody cases, when getting remarried, pensions and Social Security claims, life insurance claims, inheritances, etc. It's fine (but sad) to toss your wedding attire, photos, etc., in the garbage if that's what you want but you still need to remember the basic info. about when you got married or divorced.
Not necessarily. If there are no children, there's no custody case; if there was no savings/pension, no claim; short marriages don't lead to social security/life insurance/inheritance claims.
As for the date of my divorce, I only remember it because it was my father's birthday and my husband cannot remember the date of either of his divorces - even though he has the decree only because the ex sent us a copy so we could get married!
Not necessarily. If there are no children, there's no custody case; if there was no savings/pension, no claim; short marriages don't lead to social security/life insurance/inheritance claims.
Yep, which is precisely why I said "possibly". Another reason to document the details of marriages/divorces is for genealogical purposes. These documents come in handy when documenting family history and creating family trees.
If you by chance got married in Nevada, they've recently put all their marriage records online for free, I believe back to late 70s/early 80s.
I got married in Las Vegas in 1969 and found my info online. Also found record of my ex's NEXT marriage in 1972. We divorced, also in Las Vegas, in 1971 and, I'm not positive, but I think I remember seeing that record as well.
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