Distance from drama.... does it help?

[GrainOfSalt]

Thank you..... that's what I've been trying to do.



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Originally Posted by Minnesconsinite

Thanks. And obviously, yes... if he gets into a major jam, of COURSE she should help him... . But right now she shouldn't tell him that. She should just be firm with him about what's going down, and build his confidence that he's perfectly capable of doing this. Because he is, even if he doesn't know it.

[fre]

It helps. So does frequently changing your phone number. By the time they find someone who has your new number, the crisis/drama has blown over.

[WINDCHIMES]

I think if the drama never ends...I think it might be wise to move and to forward no address or numbers...if its that bad, has gone on since forever, and the people are determintal to your overall peace...show no signs of improving...it might be best to just...leave them behind, move on...there are studies that show that stress and abuse from people who have no boundaries do cause strokes, heart attacks and can worsen some current autoimmune diseases, such as fibro, arthritis and etc...which new studies show can very well result from years of stress and abuse...I think you know if that bill fits you or not...

[KaaBoom]

Originally Posted by GrainOfSalt

So, my question is- for those that have moved away from family.... does the physical distance make the family drama less stressful?

It worked for me. It got me away from high-drama relatives, whom I didn't want to see or talk to. So yeah, distance is good. No regrets.

[GrainOfSalt]

Just wanted to post an update -- we are two months into our move.

I've discovered that YES, distance from drama DOES help very much

It feels good to have left the baggage behind.

Thanks to everyone who shared their stories. Now I can say I have found out for myself. Distance = waaaay less family drama

[LargeKingCat]

IT does, but it does not solve the whole problem. As my dysfunctional father once vowed to ruin my life 9not in those exact words but in general),he has not ceased trying completely but being that I am 2000 miles away makes it harder for him and better for me. I still get phone calls, I forgot to get an unlisted number, but I have caller ID And I can simply not answer when they call. I still get Emails, like last week, telling me how my loser sister's 4th husband or whatever she is up to left and took what little money they had blah blah blah....or how they put my niece in the psych hospital blah blah blah or That said , the problems and situations , the "Drama" are those which they have all created and fostered. I choose not to be involved.
so yeah physical distance helps, but fostering an emotional distance helps as well.