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My husband and I just announced our upcoming relocation out of state. Whew! I didn’t realize people could have such visceral reactions to someone else’s move. I’ve found some ‘friends’ to be VERY rude and discouraging. I understand loyalty to your hometown, but come on! I’ve even been told “sorry, I can’t support your decision AT ALL”. You can’t support my decision for my husband and child to be closer to both sides of the family, the decrease in COL, or the decision to try something different (after living in the same place for 35 years!)?!!
I’m really disappointed, and just needed to vent. We thought we would have a going away dinner, but I don’t even want to put forth the effort anymore. I'm truly ready to pack up and start fresh.
Sometimes it does go like that. I got some reactions I never expected. My dear cousin (who really never gave me the time of day when I lived there) burst into tears and got mad every time I mentioned it.
I did notice too, as my move date came closer, a kind of 'detaching' from friends and family. Both from them and myself.
Hang in and good luck! This, too, shall pass and they will be happy to visit when you come home for visits.
We have just listed our home in VT and plan to move South. I am definitely getting mixed reactions but this will improve our financial situation and be much better for my health. Hopefully some relatives will visit when they want to go on vacation in the hot weather, but if they don't we will still keep in touch via internet and Skype. We are looking at it as a new adventure and are looking forward to it!
Friends (real friends) were surprised but supported me leaving socal for OK. I don't think most of them got why a small town, but they knew it was something that appealed to me.
Others, well, I heard some interesting comments, but mostly why there. And of course the why move away from family,etc. I was told I didn't know how the people were there. And so forth.
But I just went on planning and packing and have never looked back.
Yes experienced it as well. For me it was kind of enlightening to see who really cared for my best interests, sadly, not as many as I had thought. It did hurt. Some were pretty cruel with their remarks. Its been a little over 3 yrs now. The nay sayers don't say much. In fact, I think they have forgotten how unsupportive they were. They can see it was a good move for us now and some are jealous. Some of the friendships have floundered. Some have not. One thing I have learned from city-data is that relocation backlash is pretty common. Good luck with your move.
I had friends who thought I was on the crazy side (probably still do) for moving north, more snow, colder, etc., it wasn't the weather but a smaller, nice town with a friendly feel what I needed. I left an area with 100,000+ people for a town of 12,000 and I love it!
Sometimes people think of themselves first, rather than be positive for the person who is moving. You have done your homework, research, are happy with your decision, time to move on and friends and family will come around and if they don't, hmmmmm, I wouldn't worry.
I think it takes a lot of guts to make a major move and I think people who are afraid to do things like that react with negativism when what they really are dealing with is a combination of fear and jealousy
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