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33 years old.
Single.
Want to get married by the age of 40.
No plans on having a big family. One kid maybe.
Originally from Tennessee.
Spent 4+ years living in New Jersey.
7 months in Dallas.
6 months overseas in Asia.
Also had chance to visit Boston, Philly, Chicago, San Fran, San Diego, D.C. and Nashville
I'm torn between wanting to be near my family (Tennessee - aging mother) and wanting to be in a place where I can make more money and enjoy a higher quality of living.
Currently considering Chicago and Atlanta.
However, California (San Francisco) has been popping up in my mind lately.
My question....
How do you all deal with living in a place that is far away from your family and friends?
Would you make a move cross country if you were offered a job making a very comfortable salary.
I feel like at 33 years of age I should already have a place to call home?
Any advice would be appreciated.
Last edited by usamathman; 09-12-2015 at 05:37 PM..
Tennessee will still be there if you ever want to go back to it. Live your life; move your mother closer to you when the time comes and that is necessary.
How do you all deal with living in a place that is far away from your family and friends?
Would you make a move cross country if you were offered a job making a very comfortable salary.
I feel like at 33 years of age I should already have a place to call home?
Any advice would be appreciated.
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Idk how people deal w/ it....
But I'm ready to find out.
I'm sure that friends & family can come to you, wherever you decide on.....
There's no point in wondering....
I spent years in a location I really can't stand.
I'm going to pack it up & head onto the next place very soon-
This time out of state....
How do you all deal with living in a place that is far away from your family and friends?
Would you make a move cross country if you were offered a job making a very comfortable salary.
I feel like at 33 years of age I should already have a place to call home?
Any advice would be appreciated.
Rate this post positively
Idk how people deal w/ it....
But I'm ready to find out.
I'm sure that friends & family can come to you, wherever you decide on.....
There's no point in wondering....
I spent years in a location I really can't stand.
I'm going to pack it up & head onto the next place very soon-
This time out of state....
I have no idea how its gonna go....
But it's time
I will say this - that during my travels - friends and family rarely came to me. The unspoken sentiment seemed to be 'You're the one that moved away and you come to us; this is your real home, etc."
We made many trips back home at first but those have slowed to a trickle. We ended up moving my Dad with us to our new location and as he got to be 91 - the trip was too much for him.
Just don't have a huge expectation that family or friends will come and visit; likely they will expect YOU to visit THEM.
Most of us transplants have experienced this phenomena.
If you pick San Fransisco make sure the salary you're offered is at least 1.5 to 2 times what you would get paid in Atlanta or Chicago. Basically, $100,000 would be about the bare minimum salary for a single person to live semi-comfortably in the Bay Area, and at least double that if you ever want to own even a small home there.
I personally would pick SF over Chicago or Atlanta, but you have to make very good money to make SF a worthwhile choice.
As far as moving away from family, I did it and am happy I did. Most of the people that I know who have moved away from family are happy they did so because it gave them much better job opportunities and much higher pay. However, as others have said, you won't get many visits from family, they will expect you to come back to visit them.
However, California (San Francisco) has been popping up in my mind lately.
My question....
How do you all deal with living in a place that is far away from your family and friends?
Would you make a move cross country if you were offered a job making a very comfortable salary.
I feel like at 33 years of age I should already have a place to call home?
Any advice would be appreciated.
Depending on where you are in TN, Chicago is an easy drive. 8 hours to Memphis and 7 hours to Nashville. Atlanta would be an even shorter drive.
The cost of living in CA is very high. Chicago is high as well as you'd be in a high tax state. Add in county and city taxes and all that taxing adds up. Winters are not nice in Chicago. If it's not winter, it's road construction season.
I think Chicago, Atlanta and San Francisco are all very different cities with different vibes.
I don't think you need to have a place to call home at 33.
Personally, I would move cross country but there are a lot of places I don't want to live. I don't want to live in the north because of the winters. I'll deal with 100+ degree summers if I don't have to deal with northern winters again.
The internet has made the world a much smaller place. With cell phone minutes so cheap, Skype and off peak air travel reasonable, there's no reason to be tethered to the same spot forever, IMO. You go somewhere else and make new friends.
Home is where the heart is.
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