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You say you live in Canada, but are you both Canadian citizens who were born in Canada, or are you recent immigrants to Canada?
Do you and your wife both have all the necessary financial assets, required education, special skills in demand, clean social records, both in the right age bracket and many other qualifications that are required for you to be legally eligible for acceptance to emigrate to any other countries? Have you got that all clarified? Because those are the important things that you need to ascertain for yourself before you even start thinking about what it will be like to be total strangers in any totally new country.
By any chance are you projecting your own need onto your wife? Does it matter to HER that she doesn't have much outside social contact? Why can't you be the relationship builder?
Also once your kids begin a daycare or school program your wife will have ample opportunity to meet other parents and there will already be something of a common bond in place to help her foster new relationships if she so desires. Some people don't desire. I never could make my ex husband understand that my lack of a social circle was a much bigger problem in his eyes than it ever was in mine.
Well, not projecting onto her.. But yea, I making links, they meet her, then, it becomes boring to them.
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You know that men can get involved in school and extracurricular activities as well too right?
Volunteer to coach a team or join a scout troop. Volunteer at your kids' schools. Endless opportunities there. Communities are always looking for men and women to get involved, and most activities take place after work hours now.
Let's see....
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Just do some research, be positive your not screwed, save some money 1st, research then decide, dont just leave willy nilly.
One of the reasons i came on here... research... but where employment will come from will dictate much of the decision.
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You don't know where you're moving? How the hell does that work?!
Have preferences, but can't guarantee employment any exact place we want. Can you?
I would prefer Canada due to their healthcare and generally, I just think Canada is a cool country. Can't go into politics or I will be penalized by the moderator! I think there are some really neat cities in Canada as well. Don't know a whole lot about it otherwise, though....just seems like a country with fewer hassles than the U.S.! If I were a Canadian citizen, I can't see myself wanting to move to the U.S. What is the name of your new thread so I can look there.
I would prefer Canada due to their healthcare and generally, I just think Canada is a cool country. Can't go into politics or I will be penalized by the moderator! I think there are some really neat cities in Canada as well. Don't know a whole lot about it otherwise, though....just seems like a country with fewer hassles than the U.S.! If I were a Canadian citizen, I can't see myself wanting to move to the U.S. What is the name of your new thread so I can look there.
Well, not projecting onto her.. But yea, I making links, they meet her, then, it becomes boring to them.
That still doesn't answer the question of whether that's a problem for her. Obviously it bothers you, but does SHE care about it? If it bothers her then there are some things you can do that will help a little, but you have to be willing to work at it with her.
If you move somewhere new it's a good opportunity to make 'family friends'. Instead of 'my friends' and 'her friends', work at making 'our friends' by spending time with new people as a couple. If she just lacks social skills YOU can invite people over or out to events with you and your wife, YOU can go places with your wife to meet new people, YOU can make sure to include your wife in conversations when getting to know new people and help her feel more comfortable around them.
OTOH she may be perfectly fine with having limited social contact, in which case you should forget about trying to make her fit your idea of what's an acceptable level of contact.
I would prefer Canada due to their healthcare and generally, I just think Canada is a cool country. Can't go into politics or I will be penalized by the moderator! I think there are some really neat cities in Canada as well. Don't know a whole lot about it otherwise, though....just seems like a country with fewer hassles than the U.S.! If I were a Canadian citizen, I can't see myself wanting to move to the U.S. What is the name of your new thread so I can look there.
The only ones raving about Canada's health care system are the ones not using it. When Canadians want prompt treatment for something, they usually come to the US. Lots of Canadians also come to the southern states during the winter to soak up the sunshine. Canada is a nice place to visit, but I wouldn't want to spend my winters there.
Well, since I'm now in Cleveland, as far as weather goes, I might as well be in Canada! Glad the Polar Vortex is gone! And I see lots of people raving about Canada's healthcare, on these forums, and elsewhere...thank you very much!
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