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Old 08-03-2011, 01:26 PM
 
Location: Middle Tennessee
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Has anyone ever been raised in an area where they did not fit, especially within the larger local community?. Meaning that you aren't relgious but grew up in the Bible Belt (or vice versa), like country music but live someplace where it is not widely loved (i.e. Northeast), did not speak the same local accent as your fellow townspeople, you had totally different hobbies/interests than people around you, etc.

I've lived in Tennessee virtually all of my place, but never felt I fit in with a lot of people in my hometown. My slightly younger sister, however, almost fancies herself as a Southerner (something I would never consider myself to be).

Anyone with this type of upbringing? If so, did you do something to change it (i.e. move or try to blend in more as you got older)?
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Old 08-03-2011, 01:32 PM
 
Location: Denver
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I'm not religious at all, despite being raised in the unconventional Bible Belt of South Louisiana. Baptized and raised in Catholicism.
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Old 08-03-2011, 01:46 PM
 
Location: a bar
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We're all just products of our environment.
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Old 08-03-2011, 02:02 PM
 
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I grew up in suburban Florida and always felt out of place with not liking the stereotypical white-bread/plastic characteristics that largely came along with it. I finally moved out of the state in my late twenties which in retrospect was far too long to wait. I lived in NC, DC and PA before having to move back to FL late last year due to family health issues. It has really highlighted the differences and made me realize I need to leave once it's a viable option again. Once you experience that "ah-ha moment" of finding somewhere else that fits who you are as a person, you'll be hard pressed to ever go back again. I'd recommend you start researching where that place is and plan your exit strategy. Life's too short for self-imposed misery. Good luck!
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Old 08-03-2011, 02:16 PM
 
Location: Clovis Strong, NM
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It's not that I'm not fitting in with where I currently live, but the area I live in is no longer fitting to me.
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Old 08-03-2011, 03:22 PM
 
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When I was raised in the Bay Area, it was still a place where the majority of people were middle class. That has really changed. Now, there are poor and rich and not many in the middle. I realize this has happened in many other areas to an extent, but here it has been extreme. So, from the standpoint of having been raised "middle class" I no longer fit in. I have however adapted but some days it feels pretty strange to look at my area and have it feel unfamiliar.
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Old 08-03-2011, 03:25 PM
 
Location: Morgantown, WV
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After leaving NYC I "came out" as a country music fan. I also shifted from moderate republican to conservative. I'm proud to be from NYC, but I love the South more. I still miss NYC though.

My sister, is 100% New Yorker in everything... especially ATTITUDE! Haha
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Old 08-03-2011, 03:50 PM
 
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When I was raised in the Bay Area, it was still a place where the majority of people were middle class. That has really changed. Now, there are poor and rich and not many in the middle. I realize this has happened in many other areas to an extent, but here it has been extreme. So, from the standpoint of having been raised "middle class" I no longer fit in. I have however adapted but some days it feels pretty strange to look at my area and have it feel unfamiliar.
Excellent post. I think that's why I really dislike Florida so much more this time around as the gulf between rich and poor is even more magnified. The predominate demographic now is one that worships anything Fox News says as gospel and enjoys primarily as recreational/cultural pursuits TV-watching, video gaming, strip mall shopping and chain restaurant "dining". I realize for many that sounds like Shangri-La but for me it's downright suffocating.
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Old 08-03-2011, 05:08 PM
 
Location: MN
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I spent my early childhood in one place and my later childhood + teenage years in another. I had trouble adjusting to the second location.

Now I'm in a third place which is different again. I think it's a better fit than where I was last but still not quite as much like "home" as the first.
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Old 08-03-2011, 05:19 PM
 
Location: 30-40°N 90-100°W
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I was born in Arkansas, but raised in the town I live now. I tend to play-up "Arkansas" online because I liked it more and because I don't like saying where I live online. I haven't lived in Arkansas since I was 5 though.

Still I'd say I probably wouldn't fit in there that much either. I'm Catholic, but my home county was just 5% Catholic and most of those were likely in Van Buren. Although I never lived there long enough to know if I'd fit or not.

The town I was raised in I didn't fit. It's traditionally a "beer and football" kind of town, I knew a parent who was concerned her High-School age daughter wasn't going to keggers, I'm interested in neither one. It's conservative Democrats, which could be okay, but not my kind of conservative Democrat. (I'm more conservative Independent who traditionally leaned Republican) Musically they're into hard-rock and country. Odd mix, but a common denominator for the two genres is "few black people" and I don't think that's entirely a coincidence. I like various kinds of music, but particularly some I like Jazz, Celtic, World, some 80s Rock or New Wave, Classic Rock, 50s-80s R&B, Folk, and Folk-Rock.

But on some level I don't think I'm a "fitting in" kind of guy. I'm under four-feet-tall, I use a wheelchair, I listen to jazz, I read science fiction, and there are things about both Margaret Thatcher and Dorothy Day I like. College is the closest I came to "fitting in" but even then I didn't fit in with that many people.
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