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Old 02-14-2012, 12:59 PM
 
Location: Jefferson City 4 days a week, St. Louis 3 days a week
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I know, I was just generalizing, relative to other regions of the country. I'm sure people under 40 years old in the South are more tolerant of sexual orientation differences. I had a friend who grew up in the Atlanta area and after he told his mom he was gay, she replied "had I known, I would have had an abortion." In other words, abortion is more acceptable than homosexuality
Saying the south can be distinguished for being intolerant of gays is still extremely ignorant, especially when you look at how many states don't allow for gay marriage. Even for people over 40, you have no statistics backing up your view. So until you do, don't make claims based solely on your opinion, because until they are supported by facts, they are meaningless. Gay marriage is still not written into law in the vast majority of states. If Rick Santorum becomes the President (shivers at thought), or Mitt Romney, I would imagine homosexuals are going to have to wait slightly longer to be granted the same rights as heterosexuals.
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Old 02-14-2012, 02:15 PM
 
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Raleigh, North Carolina sounds like the Baltimore Metro area you describe

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In my part of the south people aren't as polite. People don't acknowledge you're existence. They won't hold doors, they don't greet you when you walk past them on the sidewalk. Some do, but its rare.
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Old 02-15-2012, 09:23 PM
 
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With regard to door holders my observation from Maryland was the men go through the doors first and then hold them as an afterthought whereas here, you go through first. New York, they mostly just go through the door and may even race you to the door so they can beat you going through (especially in elevators)...and I was born and raised there. What a shocker when I went home to visit two years ago, from rude pizza counter guys to indifferent store clerks, to supermarket cashiers (who grunt and want you to bag your groceries so they piddle around hoping you'll grab a bag and do it for them). Besides the door holders in the South, people talk you up here. They ask you about your day. They offer to take your groceries to the car for you. They don't need an excuse to start a conversation about anything and that includes postal clerks (doesn't matter how long the line is), my UPS guy (calls me by my name when he comes), my DOCTORS (all of them), anybody sitting in the waiting room of any office, people on a checkout line. They'll chat you up about anything from the shoes you are wearing to their kid's problems in school. I love it.

Let me tell you my favorite story of what happened to me right after I moved to Tennessee. I took my car to the Subaru dealer a few towns away for a regular visit (oil change, fluids, tire rotation). I also needed needed new windshield wipers. So, they take care of me and I go home. A few days later I get a call from them. It's raining. They want to know how my new windshield wipers are working out for me. Not kidding. I almost fell off the chair. The difference from NY and MD was huge.
Mostly what I see here (and everywhere else I've been) is if you're going through a door and you see someone coming behind you, you hold it open until they get to the door. Also, if you're trying to go through a door, but you see people coming out of it, you hold it open and let them pass.

I dont see many people grabbing the door for someone and letting them go through first, unless that person is carrying something or elderly.

This part isn't really about manners, but I was just wondering how common is hugging in other areas. I've noticed that women here like to hug when they greet someone (other women and guys that they know) Even some guys will do a "bro hug" and it's not that weird.
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Old 02-16-2012, 01:32 AM
 
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Tennessee has the friendliest people in the whole south, even the USA. They will help you out if you need it, strike up a conversation with a total stranger. They have southern hospitality in abundence. There is one exception however, and that is when they are behind the wheel of an automobile. In the area of aggressive driving they could put someone from New Jersey to shame lol. I love Tennessee and its people but the driving, well thats a different story.
I agree that Nashville has some aggressive driving issues, but eastern Tennessee (Knoxville up to Bristol) isn't that bad. Nashville is a big transplant area too. They drive slower in east TN and tend not to tailgate as bad. It seems like when I'm driving on I-75 or I-81 through that part of the state, the worst drivers tend to have out of state plates.
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Old 02-16-2012, 12:50 PM
 
Location: Both coasts
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I belive the Southern people tend to be more openly friendly and polite. Also, they seem to have a natural "gift of gab"...and I agree out of all the parts of the country, you are most likely to get "help" from Southerners...I remember going out shopping with my mom once there and asked outloud to my mom where a store was, and a younger lady out of nowhere heard and told us- I think I'm so used to living in places where ppl just ignore each other, that I was taken aback by that simple act of kindness!!!

Also, I remember just walking down a street in Atlanta where cars had honked to let me cross the street, and also honked at me and waved! This has never happened before elsewhere and I've traveled alot around the world.

There is a different subculture in the South- and helping others and being nice to people (at least on a surface level) is an element of that
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Old 02-16-2012, 10:18 PM
 
Location: Bellingham, WA
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Also, I remember just walking down a street in Atlanta where cars had honked to let me cross the street, and also honked at me and waved! This has never happened before elsewhere and I've traveled alot around the world.
Which part, the honking and waving or the fact the driver let you cross? When I lived in TN drivers almost never let me cross in front of them. I used to commute to work by bicycle and there was one spot on my commute where the bike trail crossed a fairly busy road, and in the three or so years I commuted I think drivers stopped to let me cross maybe five times total. However, the first day I walked anywhere here in WA, I had drivers stopping and waving me across several times just during my first walk here. In fact, it was happening so often that at first I didn't know what they were doing. Earlier I was waiting at a bus stop that's right next to a crosswalk. I was there for about 15 minutes waiting for the bus, and during that time five cars stopped to let me cross. I didn't need to cross, of course, I was just waiting for the bus. But my point is, it's a LOT more common here than in TN. It happens literally every time I walk anywhere, and since I don't have a car that's every day.
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Old 02-16-2012, 10:28 PM
 
Location: Niflheim
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Not in NC, too many rude New Yorkers around here now. No manners what so ever.
I got the finger yesterday when honking at a jackass that ran a red light...he actually thought I was at fault for not giving him right of way when he had a red light and I had a green light.
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Old 02-17-2012, 09:41 AM
 
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Not in NC, too many rude New Yorkers around here now. No manners what so ever.
I got the finger yesterday when honking at a jackass that ran a red light...he actually thought I was at fault for not giving him right of way when he had a red light and I had a green light.
And what was it that led you and your Southern righteousness to believe that the person was a NYer?
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Old 02-17-2012, 10:01 AM
 
Location: Niflheim
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And what was it that led you and your Southern righteousness to believe that the person was a NYer?
Maybe the NY plates on the car, but I guess I am not qualified to guess where he came from with that clue.
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Old 02-29-2012, 09:51 AM
 
Location: Raleigh
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i have family in Atlanta and if your from up north southern people already have it made up in there mind that you are going to be rude because that's what they think it is like up north particularly in New York. So some Southerners are sweet as can be but some are racist and still stuck in old ways.
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