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My experience might have been too long ago to count. When I was 20 I flew to NYC from my native South Carolina, and after six weeks I went to Washington, DC, where I lived for the next five years. I returned to South Carolina to not only the metropolitan statistical area I grew up in, but to the central city in the metro, Columbia, when I was 25. I'm 55 now and still live in Columbia.
Overall I have never regretted my return, but there are times that I pretty much obsess about moving to NYC, because cities are my main focus and where else are you going to be able to experience the epitome of what a city is more than in NYC, or even as much? When I came back I really wanted to, and I thought about it over a two-year period before I did it.
My family is here, though. There are trade-offs in life. That sounds cliche, but there really are. My family doesn't hang out together that much, but just knowing that we're near each other carries a lot of weight. There are things I love about my home city itself that I couldn't experience routinely if I lived anywhere else. Happiness really does come from inside. There's another cliche.
Has anyone ever moved away from their home metro area, and then moved back later on? If so, were you glad that you moved back or did you regret it and why?
Is the old adage "there's no place like home," true or false?
My parents have been convincing me to give up looking for the ideal place to live and just move back to my home metro area. But I mean, I left for various reasons and think it might be stupid to go back. I mean, that's like going back to a relationship that you broke up with someone with. Or going back to work for a company you hated, right?
They keep saying things like "oh well I really think you enjoy being around your family...blah blah blah." However, what they fail to realize is that the whole family dynamic is changing (if not already changed). All of my siblings and cousins (I'm the oldest of everyone) are now either in college, working, or bogged down with a girlfriend/boyfriend or whatever. They never initiate conversation with me anymore and everyone just gets very busy and has obligations now that we're all adults. So why on earth would I care to be living near family again?
Anyway, not to get off topic, but please do share your thoughts, opinions and experiences on the various topics introduced in this post.
Plenty of people happily do this, but the bold is also somewhat important and makes the question different for everyone: why did you leave??? A job, significant other, see the world, too small, etc. Do you hate where you are from? I miss things (and don't) about all the places I've lived, and I could certainly be happy one day moving back to my home metro.
Plenty of people happily do this, but the bold is also somewhat important and makes the question different for everyone: why did you leave??? A job, significant other, see the world, too small, etc. Do you hate where you are from? I miss things (and don't) about all the places I've lived, and I could certainly be happy one day moving back to my home metro.
I left for two reasons: (1) there are very few gay singles in the area, and (2) after living there for 28 years, I am just plain bored and tired of it (Hartford, CT area).
I grew up near Utica, NY. I actually used to have recurring nightmares about moving back to Utica. I enjoy visiting for a few days every couple of years but would never go back permanently. A lot of that has to do with the huge gulf between Minneapolis and Utica in terms of quality of life and things to do. Home is where you make it.
I left for two reasons: (1) there are very few gay singles in the area, and (2) after living there for 28 years, I am just plain bored and tired of it (Hartford, CT area).
Well then if you don't miss the area, the area hasn't changed/your perspective or wants haven't changed than it'll probably drive you crazy going back (who knows though, visit for an extended period again and see how you feel). When I left my home town I felt fairly positive about it (my home metro), and later discovered more things about it and myself by leaving that changed my opinion even further (more positive), if you still feel negatively towards your home town for reasons that haven't changed though I'd probably keep looking for what fits you best, it isn't going anywhere.
Has anyone ever moved away from their home metro area, and then moved back later on? If so, were you glad that you moved back or did you regret it and why?
Is the old adage "there's no place like home," true or false?
My parents have been convincing me to give up looking for the ideal place to live and just move back to my home metro area. But I mean, I left for various reasons and think it might be stupid to go back. I mean, that's like going back to a relationship that you broke up with someone with. Or going back to work for a company you hated, right?
They keep saying things like "oh well I really think you enjoy being around your family...blah blah blah." However, what they fail to realize is that the whole family dynamic is changing (if not already changed). All of my siblings and cousins (I'm the oldest of everyone) are now either in college, working, or bogged down with a girlfriend/boyfriend or whatever. They never initiate conversation with me anymore and everyone just gets very busy and has obligations now that we're all adults. So why on earth would I care to be living near family again?
Anyway, not to get off topic, but please do share your thoughts, opinions and experiences on the various topics introduced in this post.
When you say "home" do you mean where you grew up, where you lived the longest, where your relatives live...?
Well then if you don't miss the area, the area hasn't changed/your perspective or wants haven't changed than it'll probably drive you crazy going back (who knows though, visit for an extended period again and see how you feel). When I left my home town I felt fairly positive about it (my home metro), and later discovered more things about it and myself by leaving that changed my opinion even further (more positive), if you still feel negatively towards your home town for reasons that haven't changed though I'd probably keep looking for what fits you best, it isn't going anywhere.
To me, my home metro area is "just right." I'm sure most people would feel the same about their home metro. It's normal, to me. However, I'm going to turn 30 next month, and it is true that I'm more interested in quality of life than making friends and dating, but I still want the option to be there, since I'm still single.
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