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Originally Posted by ostritch
So I can work work work and provide. They ask me to drop them off at city pool,or take them to the park,or drop them off at their friends houses, I work and provide and I can't ask them to clean dishes as I cook?
so if I have my week off and she's working, I'm supposed to clean house and cook and laundry and serve dinner without expectatioon of asking a 13 year old to clean dishes he dirtied??
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I think your girlfriend has to play a larger role in this. It is she who needs to talk to the kids beforehand and set up appropriate, rational expectations. It is not going to work if the two of you are not on the same page. It's going to be challenging even if you are on the same page - and it doesn't sound like you are.
I'm sure there are lots of details we don't know about your situation, but from what you wrote, I find it a bit odd that you took your girlfriend on a walk when you knew she was talking to her sister. I understand you need time together, but taking her on a walk in mid conversation is odd. And the fact that she continued the conversation with her sister throughout the walk is strange, too - she should have told you that it wasn't a good time. It seems that she cannot tell you what she wants and doesn't want to make waves. And clearly, you have a tough time telling her your thoughts, too.
Maybe you two need to talk to a professional to get on the right road. This doesn't sound like it's going to end well.