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Old 10-12-2019, 06:44 PM
Location: Dallas, TX
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The Short:
Which Metropolitan area is the best for highly motivated, professional individuals who only accept the best from life?

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The Long:

This post is directed towards those of you who have experience in the major U.S. Metropolitan areas.

Recently (a year ago), I was relocated to San Antonio, Texas, and I get the feel that this city is not the fit for me. In fact, it's the worst city I've ever lived in. I have a great social circle, an amazing place in the nicest part of the city (The Dominion), I have incredible memories, and I am an active and involved member in the city-wide community, but at this point I know intuitively that it is time to move on to a Metro area more suited to my lifestyle, but have no idea definitively which one is the best fit.
Again, this is a great city but not the fit for me. However, there are too many options and even with doing prior research, it seems that advice from seasoned individuals is needed to make the best decisions.

Based off of the criteria below, can you recommend the best city (in the U.S. or WorldWide if you have that type of experience) for me?

I am looking for a city that is:

High Ambition
Extremely Fast Paced
Very Big Business Friendly
Young Professional & Family-Friendly (Cost is No Issue)

The City/People Here:
Are ALL very Slow-Paced
Talk Slow
Seem to be very uninspired, lacking in ambition, competitiveness
Are 90% Blue-Collar, or if they have a business, it's a small one going nowhere, just like them.

Additionally, people here dress absolutely horribly (the men and the women). I am no fashion expert, but even taking a little bit of pride in the way I dress is met with stares, gawks, and nothing special, while in DFW, I was underdressed for a time while wearing the same clothes here is considered overdressed.
It is very easy to make friends here, but the majority of people I encounter and eve make friends with are just not positive, like-minded people where we can be mutually beneficial and uplift got each other. I like seeing people who take pride in the way they present themselves.
Yes, get this, ever since moving here, my blood pressure has actually gone up, when in DFW it was perfect.

I am looking for a city that is very BIG business friendly, as in lots of white collar jobs, and corporate headquarters located within the metropolitan area.

Here, it seems that any honking is considered extremely aggressive, and tends to incite road rage. People here talk extremely slow, and I get the feeling that I am too competitive and aggressive for this area. In San Antonio, I am considered rich, while in DFW, I am considered much more average (ladies buying $20,000 shoes was not unusual over there while entirely unheard of around here). People here are extremely bothered at the slightest noises and stop everything and turn their heads for a horn honking, or ambulance siren, while in other cities, it is the social norm to completely ignore such things and taboo heed too much attention. People here often even get surprised when someone comes out of an elevator they're trying to go into. It's all different; the driving, the attitudes, the social scene, the opportunities, nightlife, every little thing. It is very livable more or less, but getting very boring and extremely unchallenging and I'd like to change it up again.

This all comes down to who I'll become. It seems that where I was before, the push was to be better and constantly strive more, while surrounding yourself with people who uplift you and encourage you while you all complete your own journeys.
Here, the pull is to not become much of anything, or to aspire to much of anything.
People seem to work harder, not smarter, while up North, many people I know worked smarter to get ahead, whether that was with a great job, or by gaining some type of financial leverage such as a business.

Additionally, I am looking for a place that will be family friendly, as while I do not want a family now, I am sure eventually I will and want to have a place where they can be the best they can be. While SA is always touted as “family-friendly”, I prefer a place where there is more of a push towards self-improvement, and success. Most of the people I have met here who have met those qualities (but who have left, of course), are either from The Northeast Megalopolis. To me, seeing the beautiful houses and cars, with a plethora of great restaurants, and abundance of excellent schools and highly sought after companies and local amenities/activities is family-friendly. (Ie. Scottsdale, AZ; Summerlin/North Henderson (Las Vegas); National Harbor, DC). Not this type of family-friendly.

One last point: I completely understand that in every large city in the world, there are all different social classes and circles, but being here for only one year, I have seen the entire city, and most of it is very poverty-stricken. While there are also huge pockets of poverty in the other areas as well, there are also huge areas where there are Ultra-High Net Worth Individuals, and these areas are much larger than the one here (it is extremely small), giving these individuals the opportunity the connect with more like minded individuals while leaving others form other walks of life to live their lives. This is something else I’m looking for.

Based off of all of this, I am assuming NYC, LA, Chicago, Miami, or DC, or some metropolitan area in another country (some people have said Singapore, Dubai, Paris, Hong Kong, and Madrid, and Santiago) but those are REALLY different from what I imagine anything in the U.S. is like) (all input on any out of U.S. Metro's is greatly appreciated as well) will be the best choices for a successful relocation, but I am assuming many posters on here have much more experience than me, and have also experienced similar feelings to a degree as they have moved from city to city.

No city is perfect, but it’s time to keep things moving.

Also, all of this took place in the nicer parts DFW, which were massive.

Thank you.
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Old 10-12-2019, 10:42 PM
Location: Chi > DC > Reno > SEA
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NYC, LA, Chicago, and DC would work; Miami less so. It seems like you want a large metro with fairly high levels of education and median income. Seattle, Boston, the Bay Area, and Denver are also candidates.

I do want to point out that this more lethargic attitude to life you see in a lot of working-class and poor people isn't a character flaw. They usually grew up poor, in a bad school district and an area where not many people became conventionally successful, so they never saw the entrepreneurial path of life as particularly desirable or achievable. They didn't have the money to go to college, and they wouldn't have been academically prepared for it anyway.
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Old 10-12-2019, 11:03 PM
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Miami...no. I have a good friend who lived there due to in-laws but had enough and would NEVER go back. The other metros sound pretty good but shopping in Denver is overrated. Its a smaller metro area (under 3 million) than people think and it locations makes it relative to other large MSAs, very isolated if you desire to drive to another progressive large metro.

FYI, NYC and NY state are both experiencing population loss. If you do the bay area, I think it best to look for work further south in San Jose which is not as socialist and more clean and growing faster than its neighbors to the north.

How are you too with cold weather?
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Old 10-13-2019, 10:57 AM
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I'd say Boston, NYC or DC. Maybe Chicago. The reason for the maybe is that Chicago is in the Midwest and is just culturally different than the NE. Chicago is less up-tight than a DC and a lot more blue collar.
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Old 10-13-2019, 01:13 PM
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Based on your criteria OP the options are NYC by a good measure, followed by DC and then Boston.
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Old 10-13-2019, 03:08 PM
Location: New Orleans
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From personal experience: Tel Aviv or London. Both have really educated people who are fast paced and ready to face the world. Both are extremely diverse (and not just in regards to ethnicity but nationality, ideology, politics, etc.). Both offer that competitiveness that is hard to find outside of a handful of cities in the US (I'm thinking San Fran, NYC, and Seattle would all also hit the mark for you but I have no experience living in any of these places). I much prefer slower-medium pace my self, so while London and Tel Aviv were both great places to live and expand my horizons, they were much too big and intense for me. I felt like a small fish in an enormous ocean. I prefer medium sized cities like Memphis, Nashville, NOLA, etc. Best of luck!
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Old 10-13-2019, 06:17 PM
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Old 10-13-2019, 06:21 PM
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Originally Posted by snoopygirlmi View Post
I'd say Boston, NYC or DC. Maybe Chicago. The reason for the maybe is that Chicago is in the Midwest and is just culturally different than the NE. Chicago is less up-tight than a DC and a lot more blue collar.
Chicago has a healthy mix of blue collar and white collar culture, IMO, which is what makes it such an attractive city.

An extremenly blue collar city (I.E. Inland Empire or Detroit) and an extremely white collar city (I.E. San Francisco or Austin) are both not ideal for different reasons.
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Old 10-13-2019, 09:11 PM
Location: Shoreline Connecticut
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NYC, Boston, Silicon Valley/San Francisco
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Old 10-13-2019, 10:58 PM
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I like that you added ambitious. An ambitious city absolutely has to be business friendly. There's no way around that.

I'll give you possible choices based partially on

Population growth
Business friendliness
Style of residents
Infrastructure growth
Family friendly

I won't try to be too precise with the order.

Las Vegas
Grand Rapids
Los Angeles
New York City
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