Quietest and most polite city in America? (new home, living)

[nyc-transplant-150988]

Hi,

What is the quietest and most polite city in America? I am from England and my girlfriend is from Japan and we find many of the people New York City too loud.

Examples of small things we want to avoid:
People snorting on the subway instead of using a tissue
People spitting on the street
People blasting music
People in a huge rush all the time
People throwing up in bathrooms

I work in technology and am considering the following places:
Denver
Raleigh
San Diego
Phoenix
Salt Lake City
Minneapolis

[pikabike]

Originally Posted by nyc-transplant-150988

Hi,

What is the quietest and most polite city in America? I am from England and my girlfriend is from Japan and we find many of the people New York City too loud.

Examples of small things we want to avoid:
People snorting on the subway instead of using a tissue
People spitting on the street
People blasting music
People in a huge rush all the time
People throwing up in bathrooms

I work in technology and am considering the following places:
Denver
Raleigh
San Diego
Phoenix
Salt Lake City
Minneapolis

Well, NYC is loud, alright. You're in one of the worst places, maybe the worst in the US, if you seek a quiet city.

That said, the things you list happen in all large cities. Can you live in a much smaller city instead? You will still encounter the abhorred things, but not as often, and the rushing around probably will be less bad.

Strike Denver from your list because the things on your list often happen there. You should see the retch-a-sketch splashes stinking up sidewalks all over LoDo, for example. Subwoofers from another car will blast your car as the owners drive by or, worse yet, idle next to you at a red light. Phoenix is bad for noise level, too, especially Harleys.

[citylove101]

All cities have their share of hustle and bustle, noise, and crass characters who make their private functions disgustingly public -- even cities without big subway systems. So my advice is to avoid the cities altogether and instead look at the suburbs of the six cities where you might work. Pick the city that best meets whatever else you want in a new home--climate, cultural and entertainment options, demographics, political and economic outlook, or anything else that's important to you -- and then head to that city's 'burbs.

(Which frankly, you could do here in New York. Have you considered that? Lots of folks who feel the same way about the city that you do just move out to the suburbs to get the peace and quiet they need.)

[CanuckInPortland]

Boston.

[ccm123]

From your list above, from my experiences, Salt Lake City ad Minneapolis.

[lammius]

I don't know if it's very polite or not, but with only 300,000 people in 1700 square miles, Anchorage has to be the quietest city in America

[march2]

Of those you mentioned, I'd choose either Raleigh or Minneapolis. Great areas with good economies, standards of living, and costs of living.

[Republic of Michigan]

Ever consider Grand Rapids?

[Count David]

Denver is quiet. If you ride a train in Denver, you won't hear a gosh darn thing.

In fact, you'll even begin to question your own existence as nobody will validate it for you.

[Kar54]

I'd agree with Minneapolis, Denver and Salt Lake. Perhaps San Diego as well.