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Old 05-28-2007, 12:31 PM
 
Location: Fallon
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My family and I are considering a relocation, but we can't agree on where to go. She want's to go to the Knoxville, Tenn. area but I grew up in the south and hated it.(Redfield Ark)

I am looking for an area that has good schools,(two kids age 9 and 11) low cost housing and good job prospects. I am curently living in Northern Nevada and we both don't like it.(horrible schools, healthcare, way overpriced housing)

I like warm sunny weather but my wife likes having four seasons.

PLEASE HELP!
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Old 05-28-2007, 04:34 PM
 
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Well, first you and your wife need to reach common ground as to what you both want. It sounds as though she wants one thing and you want another.
How much are you looking to spend on housing?
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Old 05-28-2007, 08:20 PM
 
Location: Bayside, NY
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Check out New Mexico.
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Old 05-28-2007, 08:41 PM
 
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How about Asheville NC? Seasons,mountains,beautiful,good schools,not far from Tenn.
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Old 05-28-2007, 08:42 PM
 
Location: Summerville, SC
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Smile Sounds very familiar

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My family and I are considering a relocation, but we can't agree on where to go. She want's to go to the Knoxville, Tenn. area but I grew up in the south and hated it.(Redfield Ark)

I am looking for an area that has good schools,(two kids age 9 and 11) low cost housing and good job prospects. I am curently living in Northern Nevada and we both don't like it.(horrible schools, healthcare, way overpriced housing)

I like warm sunny weather but my wife likes having four seasons.

PLEASE HELP!
Sounds very familiar. My husband hates the South, but it is home to me, and my family is all there.

That being said, you should truly consider your wife's feelings. The old saying "If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!" is an old saying for a reason--it's true.

Why not find an area that is in the South that she will feel comfortable in yet has aspects that you find appealing too? If both of you can find something important to you that you like in an area, the chances are much better that you will both be happy.

Let's face it; no place is heaven for everyone. Marriage is a two-way street. Whenever only one person is happy in a certain place, then the chances for successful happy stay there aren't great. There are so many wonderful places in this country. Keep looking together. The worst thing you can do is for each of you to look on your own and e-mail your spouse what you have found. Trust me; I speak from personal experience.

My husband and I are still "looking," and neither of us are getting any younger. I wish you all the best, and again look together; don't close your mind to anything she suggests, and she should do the same thing. If you decide together what you can both live with--and without--then you have a much better chance of success.

Good luck!
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Old 05-28-2007, 08:42 PM
 
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OOPS,just noticed you want jobs and low cost housing,,thats iffy in Asheville
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Old 05-28-2007, 09:06 PM
 
Location: 1201 NE Windsor Drive
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Hello,

The Kansas City area has a great family atmosphere. There are tons of activities for your children...either through the schools or community organizations.

The cost of living is not bad either. More sq.ft. for the money.

Check out: VisitKC.com | Kansas City Official Travel Source - Kansas City Hotels, Restaurants, Shops, Attractions and feel free to contact me if you have more questions.

There is also a great discussion on city-data.com about whether Missouri is considered a Southern or Midwestern state.
I personally feel that Kansas City is more of a Midwestern state.

Thanks,
Ronda Marchant
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Old 05-29-2007, 12:40 AM
 
Location: Fallon
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Well, first you and your wife need to reach common ground as to what you both want. It sounds as though she wants one thing and you want another.
How much are you looking to spend on housing?
We are looking in the 100K-200K market (preapproved at 217K) which where we live is a down payment.

But as far as me and my wife are concerned, she was born and raised in the south and wants to go home. Me on the other hand was born in LA and moved to the south when I was about 12. I never had any friends, was looked down on by everybody for being from California, found most people to be VERY closed minded. I lived there for 7 years and although I tried nothing ever changed. So I guess I'm affaid that would happen again but not to me but my children.
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Old 05-29-2007, 10:49 AM
 
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not all of Tennessee feels extremely southern. visit a few different regions of differnet states together and get a feel for where you both might want to be.
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