Curious...anyone here became more sought after after 35? (move, dating)

[smoky_topaz]

Please move this thread to the dating forum as necessary.

So my thread goes like this. I am now 30, and spent most of my 20s feeling rejected by men (with the exception of certain types) until I had one 2 year long term relationship from 28-30. I have a much older friend that I complained about this to a lot and she said she was also not very sought after by men when young. And then when she hit 35-40, she said she was having to scrape them off the bottom of her shoe! She says you "either get it the first or the second time around" like if you dont get picked as a starter wife, you might get "your turn " later. I said I found that amazing because I always heard that women in the later age group have the most difficulty getting dates and that women from 18-30 have the most advantages socially. Well, in my twenties I never knew where my next date was coming from.It has mystified me big time. The friend, unnamed said that guys in their 20s just get attracted to dumb,dependent, vapid, worthless, Barbie doll types. What in the hell do guys in their 20s want? Well now that I no longer bother with them, I could care less. The men who have approached me are ALWAYS in their 30s and 40s, even when I was 25! Now I have heard men claim to be nerds or rejects in their 20s and then getting lots of attention from women after 35, but other than this one person I knew, this sounds like a social Darwinian theory. Has anyone on this site ever gotten more popular after 30,35, 0r 40 with the opposite sex? Thanks!

[Iconographer]

I think that people are more direct about what they want at a 'certain age'; less gamesmanship. I found dating a lot less of a hassle in my 40's. It's easier to say 'no' to what you don't want; you are more direct with someone asking you out if you don't see a future in it. It's a lot easier to see a prospect, too...what you want in a relationship is more clear to you.
Maturity has its' rewards.