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My BS degree was in Psychology. And we studied human motivation. But I don't remember ever a teacher stressing the approval of others, or conversely the disapproval of others as an influence on human behavior. But it sure is. People will absolutely exhausting themselves to gain approval. Even people who are very powerful and rich seem to be constantly concerned with others approval. To me, its a sad way to go through life.
Those who do not look for approval from others are also criticized and cast out by just about everyone. Those who do not declare themselves as dedicated participants in any sort of organized religion are criticized as well. People seem to enjoy finding things wrong in others more than anything else.
If you have access to the Netflix, you ought to watch Black Mirror episode "Nosedive" with Bryce Dallas Howard.
Yes, this is an issue that unfortunately is negatively impacting youths. On the flip-side there are folks like my wife who doesn't give a flip with others think about her...almost to malignant degree. She lacks sympathy but understands the social protocol enough to fake empathy. Of course if she cared too much about others, she wouldn't be able to be an effective mediator but I digress.
Disagree with most of the points you make. Our need for "approval" comes from a need for survival. Without approval from the tribe you're in deep. Not as important into days society, but nevertheless still important. I'd agree that the way we go about seeking approval isn't always the healthiest, but it's a primal need at the end of the day.
If you have access to the Netflix, you ought to watch Black Mirror episode "Nosedive" with Bryce Dallas Howard.
Yes, this is an issue that unfortunately is negatively impacting youths. On the flip-side there are folks like my wife who doesn't give a flip with others think about her...almost to malignant degree. She lacks sympathy but understands the social protocol enough to fake empathy. Of course if she cared too much about others, she wouldn't be able to be an effective mediator but I digress.
Oh that episode struck me more than any other! It was so prescient of our current culture. Eerie and tragic.
I'm not on any social media except for this site, and I dislike how I DO glance at someone's rep points. For a long while I never realized they were there.
I just read an article studying the effect of "likes" on teen phone sites. Now they are all more depressed---since the invention of the smartphone.
My BS degree was in Psychology. And we studied human motivation. But I don't remember ever a teacher stressing the approval of others, or conversely the disapproval of others as an influence on human behavior. But it sure is. People will absolutely exhausting themselves to gain approval. Even people who are very powerful and rich seem to be constantly concerned with others approval. To me, its a sad way to go through life.
My concern is Gods approval.
The present (per this typing) U.S. President Donald Trump is a classic example of what you are speaking of. Note to the C-D moderators that this is NOT offered up here as a political statement of any type. I'd offer up this view for all to consider regardless of what my own or your own personal politics are. For even if you are a conservative or libertatarian Republican or a right-leaning voter, it should be undeniable to anyone who is clear-minded and truly intellectually honest that Donald Trump builds so very very very very much of his life around being approved of and praised: Always soliciting likes and praise via social media, always praising himself, always sponsoring so many rallies of his ardent supporters wherever they can be found to engage in "rah rah rah" pep rallies (even long after he has already been elected to office for years now!), and so on. He just LOVES LOVES LOVES to be adored and outright panders for it.
Note that I would say this about ANY political figure who conducted themselves like this as a way-of-life: whether they be ultra-conservative, conservative, moderate, liberal, uber-liberal, left-leaning, far-left-leaning, and whatever other category. It is a most-interesting social psychological phenomenon to witness in someone. I mean we ALL like to be approved, liked and praised to some degree (for we are all only human and are social creatures) but the present (per this typing) U.S. President Donald Trump just takes it to the limits. He is the epitome of this way-of-being.
P.S. to the OP: I also have a degree in Psychology.
Our political parties are perfect examples and so is the media. Both regularly perform chest pounding ceremonies to gain others approval. People are not as smart as you think.
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Disagree with most of the points you make. Our need for "approval" comes from a need for survival. Without approval from the tribe you're in deep. Not as important into days society, but nevertheless still important. I'd agree that the way we go about seeking approval isn't always the healthiest, but it's a primal need at the end of the day.
Absolutely.
Social rejection actually registers in the pain center of the brain. People are not supposed to be "good" with being rejected by other humans - it's supposed to cause pain and cause a change in behavior, so the individual can survive.
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