Mom is passing, so slowly, so courageously; I am spent

[tngirl205]

Barb, I have been away from this group for a little while. I just caught up on your posts about you and your mom. I am so sorry for your loss. Your mom sounds like an amazing woman who raised an amazing daughter.

I have lost both my parents and now my husband. But the love and support of family and friends, especially the ones here on CD, have gotten me through some of the toughest times. You have family here with us, and we are always here for you.

Remember to take one day at a time, grieve at your own pace, and take good care of yourself. I know how draining caregiving can be. Like my husband did with me, I'm sure your mom appreciated all you did for her. Now it is time to sit back and breathe. Take one day at a time, you will always have your mom with you in your heart.

May God give you the strength to get through every minute of every day.

[dr74]

Barb,
I am a coward!. I still have both parents. Dad is 67 and still working, mom is 63 and not working but has alot of health issues.
Being adopted is no excuse but I terrified of the day I lose one of them..
They are the only link to love that I know. My being 38 and having friends whom are losing their parents have made my anxiety hit the roof.
Point in fact being a good friend of mine whom is a native to hi. has been there all week because her father whom was in perfect health a year ago was put in hospice a week ago.
I have had to see her posts on fb stating that his system has shut down, he had to have a full does of morphine, her kids were there to read to their grandpa...
The fact that she was humming hymns to him and stayed there all night and it was expected? And how she fell asleep there last night? And how he waited till they all woke up before he let go? was heart breaking to me.. I do not know ho people get by or even function after their parents die..It is something I feel I have no strength for. Give me the toughest case but do not tell me I lost my daddy or mommy. Where do you all gather this strength from? I am so sorry...