What to do with remains when moving on to new relationship

[lilyflower3191981]

Originally Posted by Leigh71

I decided to have our conversation and for all you that were kind and helpful...thank you.
His only concern.was that he would feel uncomfortable if guests asked him what it was. Then i showed him the new decor...a piece I had purchased at a upscale.Department Store...no one would know there were Ashes inside. It just looks like a beautiful piece of art. He smiled and said he loved me and all that comes with me.

I'm truely blessed!

For all that were unkind, judgmental, and hypocritical....remember the golden rule.

God Bless and Thank you again!

Beautifully said. Leigh! Well done.

"He smiled and said he loved me and all that comes with me."

What a great gentleman he must be!

Your post makes me smile. Take care.

[WychyWoman]

Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981

No, not at all.

My first boyfriend committed suicide a little over four years ago. His family gave me a little bit of his remains. I don't plan on throwing it away no matter what.

He was the first man I truly loved. All he gave me is love. How can I forget about him? I moved on to a new meaningful relationship. My current boyfriend is very understanding towards my feeling. Well, of course, I take my current boyfriend's feeling into consideration and I don't talk about my past all the time.

However, I do believe I have the right to grieve over my loved one. I will carry his remains with me for the rest of my life. A real man understands it.

Bravo, and well-said... every single word... especially:

"I have the right to grieve over my loved one. I will carry his remains with me for the rest of my life. A real man understands it."

Good for you. Essentially, because he was in your life and was a big part of your life - lover, friend, teacher, companion - you are able to grow and respect your past while making new memories, to love again, and to develop a relationship with a "real man [who] understands. . . ."

Well done.